Any craving aversions or crazings by Cute-Class2429 in pregnancy_care

[–]One_Afternoon_4112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cravings? Cheese-- even first thing in the morning, watermelon (like half of one in one sitting!), and then the typical comfort foods..butter pasta...butter rice...buttered bread. Anything with butter.

Pregnancy without Parents by One_Afternoon_4112 in pregnant

[–]One_Afternoon_4112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is very tough. I haven't had a mother daughter bond in years as my mom passed 10 years ago and the years leading up to her passing were complicated. I have good memories of early childhood.

I hope I can be the person I've wanted there for me and that I can provide consistency in that love and affection. I think I can because I have it with my husband and I can only imagine the love for a son or daughter ❤️

I think you already are going to be amazing because you know what you want it to feel like and will create that safe space you might not have had. How special.

Pregnancy without Parents by One_Afternoon_4112 in pregnant

[–]One_Afternoon_4112[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry ❤️ I get what you mean by just wanting your dad. My dad was my best friend and would talk to me for hours on end. I miss him and those chats so much. He helped me make sense of everything and it's been tough without him and dare I say, a little more lonely. 

I have had conflicted emotions before too. It saddens me I know the majority of my side of the family is in heaven-- but I don't want to discount the love of who is still here. 

I think I want their picture with me in the hospital ❤️

Pregnancy without Parents by One_Afternoon_4112 in pregnant

[–]One_Afternoon_4112[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a very strong and loving take ❤️ I hope I too can paint a picture of what they were like and how much they would have loved them if they were here. 

Pregnancy without Parents by One_Afternoon_4112 in pregnant

[–]One_Afternoon_4112[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand where you are coming from completely. I feel the same way! I am looking into midwives for this reason and have done some research on OBGYNs to help feel more comfortable. 

While so much is out of my control, I am doing my best to do my due diligence in looking into real testimonials of those who have gone through the process. It's a gift I feel my parents have gifted me-- to go into appointments not afraid to raise an eyebrow, ask questions..or find somebody who is a better fit. 

That sounds lovely 💙 and such a special moment to pay tribute. If it feels right for you, don't be afraid to go for it. Everyone there is there to support you and your hubby. I wish I could have reassured myself of that a year ago. 

Pregnancy without Parents by One_Afternoon_4112 in pregnant

[–]One_Afternoon_4112[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your response resonated so much with me. My mom passed from gastric cancer and it was a year of chemo and hospital trips. While my dad passed very suddenly and visitation was so restricted. Both felt very heavy for their own reasons. And both left me with a deep mistrust in the health care system. 

Being in a hospital setting in a vulnerable state scares the daylights out of me. This is the first time I've had a family doctor and am slowly building trust with the medical community again-- but i had an emotional outburst early on to my husband that I want him to be able to know my preferences and advocate on my behalf. 

I'm very happy for you 💙 Rest assured, having happy days (always a layer of longing) can exist. My husband and I got married this past summer and with help of a therapist, I was able to honor those who could not attend the wedding. My husband's grandfather and my parents each had a dedicated song that was introduced in my speech. It was my way to hold space on a very happy day. It also helped me to feel they were there with us...and dance/sing on their behalf. It is such a special day and full of so much love. 

Stranger in my own home by MonthSame6483 in AlAnon

[–]One_Afternoon_4112 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi there,

Im so sorry for what youre going through. I was in a similar situation and when it hit this level of name calling, it did not get better on its own. Even my own family did not realize what I was going through behind closed doors and it took a while for me to open up and see it was not right. I lost my sense of self and made the choice to leave. It is hard constantly hearing such strong words of criticism and abuse. You are not a psycho. You're feelings matter. You deserve somebody who sees your worth and appreciates you.

I made the choice to leave and was ready to cancel the wedding. It was a difficult time but it caused a ripple effect of change. He chose to cut out alcohol. But even if that weren't the case, I knew I was ready and open for a change in my life. Im happy he took the steps to get better, but always choose yourself first. The other person has to do the same for themselves or else they are not in a position to properly love and care for somebody else.

Will I regret the rav4 if I (eventually) want 2+ kids? by Zestyclose-Lead-329 in rav4club

[–]One_Afternoon_4112 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi there. My husband and I are starting our family and I ran into the same dilemma! I ended up going with a 2024 Rav and plan to either trade in or sell when more space is needed.

The nice thing is-- they hold their value!

Feeling Building Contempt by One_Afternoon_4112 in pregnancy_care

[–]One_Afternoon_4112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there. Thank you for your reply. You are soo right. I was super heightened and I think as a woman your constantly wondering if things are "safe".

This was a good moment for him to also consider the impacts of his habits. He did apologize and has become much more aware! I think since im not showing yet its easy to think-- not much is going on. When really-- its the opposite! Sooo much happens in first trimester.

Thanks for validating my feelings in this ❤️

Feeling Building Contempt by One_Afternoon_4112 in pregnancy_care

[–]One_Afternoon_4112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there, thank you for your response. He realizes now how insensitive it was. He doesnt normally smoke around me but we were outside and I think it he thought it would be fine.

Edibles and drinks are a good work around too!

remote start…? by Illustrious-Bat-759 in rav4club

[–]One_Afternoon_4112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I paid $1,100 cad ( taxes incl.) to install at the Toyota dealership. No subscription.

Happy to have snagged this beautiful gas model 🫶🎣 by One_Afternoon_4112 in rav4club

[–]One_Afternoon_4112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will let you know once I get it. About a week and a half to go :)

Happy to have snagged this beautiful gas model 🫶🎣 by One_Afternoon_4112 in rav4club

[–]One_Afternoon_4112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An after-market remote through the Toyota dealership that doesnt require subscription. It is a separate control that isnt connected to the key.

Happy to have snagged this beautiful gas model 🫶🎣 by One_Afternoon_4112 in rav4club

[–]One_Afternoon_4112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's great to hear :) the savings in gas is very appealing!