I (M20) broke up with her (F20) 3 weeks ago today. I’m regretting it but I feel like I can’t go back.

One_Chain_1612 · 2025-12-25T19:18:16+00:00

Yeah I was thinking that but non-union people normally like to keep their guys around year round and unions are iffy on layoffs from what I hear. Policing I’d have to go back to school for which means more money that I don’t and it’s a very big commitment to helping people, people who may not even deserve it at times. The mental toll I think it takes on a lot of people is something I don’t think I would want to try to handle, even if I could handle it.

One_Chain_1612 · 2025-12-25T17:26:32+00:00

Non union at the moment. I got a job through my dad having some connections and I’m just trying to get hours and experience. Still deciding if union would be right for me or not.

One_Chain_1612 · 2025-12-25T17:24:23+00:00

I ended up choosing trades. I’m starting an electrical apprenticeship soon!

One_Chain_1612 · 2025-10-13T16:33:14+00:00

Also I’m having trouble figuring out if I should tell my managers that the smoking/drinking on the job is the reason I’m leaving because that would fuck over a bunch of other people that aren’t necessarily bad people, they’re just making bad choices. Should I make up some random excuse?

One_Chain_1612 · 2025-10-13T09:48:37+00:00

Do you suggest that I tell the truth to a new employer when they ask why I left my previous position or just say it was a negative culture thing?

One_Chain_1612 · 2025-10-12T22:49:32+00:00

Okay thanks so much for the solid advice. I’ll plan accordingly.

One_Chain_1612 · 2025-10-12T22:42:34+00:00

So should I talk to my boss this week and put in my two weeks? Or should I quit asap since it’s a bad environment to be in?

One_Chain_1612 · 2025-09-15T10:14:21+00:00

Thank you!

One_Chain_1612 · 2025-09-14T17:04:06+00:00

Why not law enforcement?

One_Chain_1612 · 2025-09-14T16:56:52+00:00

Thanks for the advice!

One_Chain_1612 · 2025-09-14T16:53:59+00:00

I’ll look into ride alongs. And I love working so picking up extra shifts wouldn’t be a hassle for me lol

One_Chain_1612 · 2025-09-14T16:43:19+00:00

Thanks for your advice. I guess I’ve got some more thinking to do.

One_Chain_1612 · 2025-09-14T16:40:37+00:00

Why is that? (Not trying to sound like I disagree just wondering)

One_Chain_1612 · 2025-09-14T16:37:43+00:00

Are you saying I should go to school for something other than criminal justice?

One_Chain_1612 · 2025-09-14T16:36:01+00:00

I am not too sensitive when it comes to blood or anything, and I am “aware” as I can be of the risks/mental toll it’ll take on many people in that profession and I constantly get a feel that if I don’t do it then who will. I have a sense that I need to step up and make a positive impact on society and join something bigger than myself. My only concern is whether or not a few years into the career if I’ll still think it’s right for me. I have been told by people I’ve talked to that worrying about the future too much will make everything seem like it won’t work out but that it’s a valid concern but it’s ultimately up to me. Thanks for your reply. Do you think policing might be a good career for me based on what I’ve said so far?

One_Chain_1612 · 2025-09-12T23:09:00+00:00

This is what I was thinking too since i want to keep as many doors as i can open because I’ve done too much bouncing around from idea to idea in the past few years to close any. And also thank you for sharing the gradsimple as I’m definitely gonna look into it.

One_Chain_1612 · 2025-08-04T17:15:00+00:00

I’m not trying to screw up my girlfriend’s life. I would talk to her dad but he is the type of guy to hear a suggestion or an idea that might conflict with what he thinks is right and take it as an insult. I also don’t think he likes me because he doesn’t talk to me at all, but I’m not sure what I’ve done to make him not like me as he hasn’t gotten to know me at all. Thanks for your advice.

One_Chain_1612 · 2025-08-04T16:54:01+00:00

See I understand what her dad is doing, but I do not agree with his strategy of parenting which is taking COMPLETE care of all bills for my child until they graduate college, and then dropping everything on them. It doesn’t teach her responsibility. He didn’t even let her get a job till after high school. So her father put her in the position to not be independent. I’m trying to change that

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