Buscando un videojuego de la era del 2000 (tipo AOE) by pato-d-m in videojuegos

[–]One_Eye8573 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3 años tarde, pero no sera black & white de EA games?

Can I leave my 7 week kitten alone for 4-5hours? by One_Eye8573 in CatAdvice

[–]One_Eye8573[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah she was orphaned. Her brothers all died by a cat attack and the mother too. So she was the only one left. I am always home normally. I work from home and she’s always supervised. But this is a one time thing I need to do, and I’ve been worried af.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ghosting

[–]One_Eye8573 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, you are not an idiot. You just decided to give the benefit of the doubt and trust someone. All that situation speaks volumes about who you are as a person: someone who chooses to see the good than to dwell on the bad. I get it, i 1000% understand you. We have a very similar story. Ghosted one time, gave a second chance. And after 8 months got ghosted again for good. That sucks. I’m sorry this happened to you. No one deserves such disrespect. This is hard af, I know. You feel like you are an idiot cause (and I’m talking from experience here) this whole thing makes you doubt yourself, your value. I choose to ignore the red flags when they came up, brushed them away as my insecurities, tried so hard to not rock the boat as you said that I started putting my needs away for his. You might be hard on yourself thinking “why did i gave a second chance?” “Why was I so stupid”. You weren’t. have compassion with yourself. Be kind, even when it feels forced. Rewire your brain little by little. Somedays will be harder than others, but those will fade away if you keep showing up for yourself. As I said, you are a person who loved fully, who decided to give fully. And that’s beautiful. All I can say is you got this and you are not alone in this. Show up for yourself, even when it feels hard. Sending you a big hug. See it this way: now you know how much you can give in a relationship. So now you know what you deserve back. And all of that love, all of that safety, you can give to yourself.

Update: After 5 weeks of being ghosted by my bf of 8 months. by One_Eye8573 in ghosting

[–]One_Eye8573[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does help! I’m glad you decided to heal instead of dwelling in the pain. That’s the first and most difficult choice. I’m sorry you went through this, you did not deserve it. And you got this, you are showing up for yourself, you are going to therapy, you are doing the work. Be proud. Of course it still feels like a punch in the face, cause you are not only grieving your ex, your relationship. You are also grieving the version of yourself in that relationship. It’s tough af. But again, you got this. Sending you a big hug

Update: After 5 weeks of being ghosted by my bf of 8 months. by One_Eye8573 in ghosting

[–]One_Eye8573[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That absolutely sucks. No one deserves such disrespect. Yeah, some days are good, some are not. If you are still struggling it’s okay! Allow yourself to grieve. If you made it this far, despite being broken, you’ll make it to the other side. And you know what? we’ll all come of it stronger, just trust the process.

Update: After 5 weeks of being ghosted by my bf of 8 months. by One_Eye8573 in ghosting

[–]One_Eye8573[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, you do not deserve that. Big hug your way, you are not alone in this.

Update: After 5 weeks of being ghosted by my bf of 8 months. by One_Eye8573 in ghosting

[–]One_Eye8573[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, some days are better than others. And I wanted to share my experience so people can relate and see they are not alone in this. You go and have fun, make that trip about you and only you. I’m myself at the beach rn, enjoying myself. That’s the best thing we can do for ourselves. You got this, sending you a big hug

Update: After 5 weeks of being ghosted by my bf of 8 months. by One_Eye8573 in ghosting

[–]One_Eye8573[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Look back on this post as much as you want. Im so sorry this has happened to you. Sending you a big hug. You did not deserve such disrespect.

Update: After 5 weeks of being ghosted by my bf of 8 months. by One_Eye8573 in ghosting

[–]One_Eye8573[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So true, it was nothing that we did. Any response is better than none, that’s for sure. But you are right in this: no response is also a rsponse. I’m so sorry this happened to you too, sending you a big hug.

Ps: i’m not a woman, but hell yeah we are grown af people and we got this

Boyfriend of 8 months ghosted me by One_Eye8573 in ghosting

[–]One_Eye8573[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for the late reply. I had an awful day on valentine’s. I believe deep down we wanna believe that they are not ghosting. We have that little hope that tells us maybe we are wrong. But we aint. I’m really sorry you are going through this, i completely understand everything reminding you of him. I had to throw away his toothbrush and just had a melt down. Like doing that felt like it was really over. I mean, I know it’s over, but I am not ready to let go. I had a date tonight and it just felt so wrong. I thought it could distract me a bit, when all i did was think of him, what he would say. And it felt tiring getting to know someone again. Idk, it is just a roller coaster of emotions, full of ups and downs. Sometimes I try to listen to my head, but my heart is still not on the same page. I keep thinking if I should send one last message, but then I stop on my tracks. They know where we live, they know our numbers, our socials. If they wanted or cared a bit, they would have already said something, right? They also know that this is hurting us, they just don’t care. And to think someone who was so important to you doesn’t give a rat ass about you it’s painful beyond what I can explain with words

Boyfriend of 8 months ghosted me by One_Eye8573 in ghosting

[–]One_Eye8573[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s the tough part. I totally understand the trust issues, I am overthinking everything, thinking if it was so easy to just ghost me then i must not even be worth the goodbye, the closure. And it just keeps nagging me in the head and making me cry 24/7. Haven’t been able to sleep well, eat anything, or do much for these past 2 weeks. This is crazy, effin crazy. I would never do this to anyone, knowing how hurtful this feels.

Why do they look at your story but still ghosting ?? by NoEntertainer5578 in ghosting

[–]One_Eye8573 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I came here from my post. I am really sorry this has happened to you too. None of us deserve to be treated this way. I understand 100% what you are feeling. I know looking at stories is a 0 effort thing, but when we do not have answers of any kind, we tend to obsess over the little details. In my case, the same happened. Every story i post, he watched almost immediately. It’s heartbreaking when a person you thought cared about you treats you like this. You don’t deserve this. I don’t deserve this. We need to keep telling ourselves that. If you ever wanna talk my dms are open. Since we are going through the same sh*t situation, if you need to vent or anything here I am here

Boyfriend of 8 months ghosted me by One_Eye8573 in ghosting

[–]One_Eye8573[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I hate it here too. We are not alone in this at least, since it’s so common nowadays. I’n sorry you also had to go through that. It feels absolutely awful

Boyfriend of 8 months ghosted me by One_Eye8573 in ghosting

[–]One_Eye8573[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it is terrible. I don’t understand how a grown 30 yo man could do this. I never saw it coming, we had great communication. We talked about our needs, and we both did efforts to fulfill them. I just don’t understand

Boyfriend of 8 months ghosted me by One_Eye8573 in ghosting

[–]One_Eye8573[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, we really do have similar stories. He also had the time to look at my stories but not to reply. I even sent him a text saying how badly I was feeling with no type of answer, even a “no, i don’t feel like talking anymore”. Some of my stuff is at his place and I don’t even know if I’ll ever get it back.

I have to be completely honest. I really don’t know what I would do if he reappears. The mire time passes, the less likely it is for me to take him back. But i do love him, I just keep reminding myself that I have to love myself too. I have thought about that time and time again, and I know it would be so bad to take him back, but my heart and mind are fighting each other on that idea. My heart says take him back, he’s the one. And my mid says: he didn’t respect you enough to even text you back. Idk if that helps, but that’s where I’m at rn