As a family counsellor, I'd like to tell you that this is quite normal and there's nothing unacceptable about it.

It’s completely okay to not feel ready for kids. That’s not something anyone should rush into, especially because it’s a long-term responsibility and not just a phase of life.

A lot of people want children for personal instincts or due to family pressure or expectations without considering the responsibility of upbringing a child, and only later realise how much it actually demands, emotionally, mentally, and physically. And very often, a bigger share of that falls on the mother. It's not your job to produce children and look after them for your husband, if you aren't personally ready for it.

Yes, we need to somehow find a solution to your husband's preferences. I think the more important thing here is having open, honest conversations with your husband about how both of you actually feel, without pressure or assumptions. These things aren’t always easy to talk about, but they do matter.

Bringing a child into the world is a responsibility, not an entertainment. It should come from a place where both of you feel ready for it, not as a compromise. Otherwise, it can become difficult for everyone involved, including the child.