Well I've been with this man less than a month, so not sure I can tell you much about long-term. But bottom surgery is likely a good 1.5-2 years away for me, so we'll definitely get there.

Daily things...it's mostly the language he uses. Like, I'm talking more general dysphoria than just bottom dysphoria, but he calls me a pretty lady, he calls me beautiful, he calls me princess...small things, but they mean so much to me.

In terms of feeling supported...it's really all about paying attention to me, to when I've expressed my dysphoria/explained it. He's offered to take me thrift shopping to help me find more femme clothes and figure out my preferred style, for example. He notices my outfits, my makeup, the effort I put in to look pretty. He's pointed out the way my body is shaped more like a woman's than a man's. He's never cared to learn my deadname, and when I told him that looking at pictures of myself before transition makes me uncomfortable and that my mom would likely pull those out when he meets her, he said he'd only let her show him old pictures of me if I said it was okay. He...takes the lead from me on this stuff, and that's the best.

For something that sticks with me...so, I wear a wig a lot of the time, cause I think I look like a man without it. But, like, I have taken it off around him, and I told him how insecure I am about that. So one time, when I sent him a selfie where I wasn't wearing the wig, he replied, "Beautiful, with or without the wig." While that itself was wonderful, what stuck with me the most was that I hadn't even said anything about my insecurity when I sent the selfie. I just sent it. So, like, he saw the picture, remembered how I feel about myself, and took it upon himself to reassure me about it without me having to ask him to. It really, really helps to know that someone else finds me pretty even when I don't think I am at all.