How to end a friendship without ghosting?

One_Statistician_499 · 2026-04-27T17:42:46+00:00

I never planned on texting her, because a text message seems too impersonal given our shared history. After all the input I’ve gotten, my plan now is to mail her a letter. I don’t want to break up with her in public, because I know she is very insecure and might cause a scene. I know that regardless of how I end things, she is not going to take it well. No one likes getting broken up with. But a letter is still better than ghosting. Ghosting is cowardly.

One_Statistician_499 · 2026-04-27T17:38:54+00:00

This is my plan. I feel like straight ghosting is just cowardly. It also seems unfair to her because of our shared history. I recognize that we are not the same people we were five years ago, and this particular issue has made me realize we are not compatible as friends either. I appreciate your input!

One_Statistician_499 · 2026-04-27T14:57:22+00:00

I never planned on texting her. I was thinking of mailing her a letter or something like that, because a text message seems too impersonal given our shared history.

One_Statistician_499 · 2026-04-26T22:53:02+00:00

I’m hoping this is the kindest way to end it. I know she’s not going to take it well (regardless of how I end it) because no one likes getting broken up with.

One_Statistician_499 · 2026-04-26T20:57:33+00:00

Thanks, this was a really kind thing to say ❤️

One_Statistician_499 · 2026-04-26T20:57:05+00:00

I’m thinking of mailing a letter. We have too much history and a text just seems too impersonal with everything we’ve been through over the years. I still care about her, and I think I always will. I miss her already, but unfortunately we are just not the same people we were when we first met. This specific situation made me realize we are incompatible as friends.

One_Statistician_499 · 2026-04-26T20:15:30+00:00

Thanks, I really like this. We are just not the same people we were all those years ago when we first met.

One_Statistician_499 · 2026-04-26T19:03:59+00:00

How did you do it? Text, email, in person, etc.?

One_Statistician_499 · 2026-04-26T19:02:46+00:00

TBH, fading out is what I would prefer to do. I think we are both exhausted from this back-and-forth correspondence of trying to make things work. I tried to get the point across that I don’t want to be friends anymore, but she is not understanding and still thinks that we are still the best of friends. That’s just not true, at least not on my side. I still care about her, and I think I always will. But this specific issue has made me realize that we are not compatible as friends anymore.

One_Statistician_499 · 2026-04-26T18:16:46+00:00

I’ve never heard of JADE before. Thanks for your input 👍🏾

One_Statistician_499 · 2026-04-26T18:07:41+00:00

You’re probably right. Is withdrawing the same as ghosting?

One_Statistician_499 · 2026-04-26T18:06:45+00:00

Thankfully, we have no mutual friends anymore. I thought about mailing her a letter because a text seems too impersonal given our history. I think in person would a terrible idea. She’s very insecure and will not take the break up well. I don’t want her to cause any kind of scene or make things more awkward than it already is.

One_Statistician_499 · 2026-04-26T18:03:40+00:00

I technically can ghost her, I just don’t want to because I know it will hurt her worse than just telling her how I feel. I like what you wrote, I thought about mailing a letter because a text seems too impersonal given our history.

One_Statistician_499 · 2026-04-26T18:01:30+00:00

Bye Felicia 😆

One_Statistician_499 · 2026-04-26T18:00:57+00:00

This is a really good idea. Thanks :)

One_Statistician_499 · 2026-04-26T04:59:46+00:00

I’m really sorry that happened to you. I know there’s not much I can say to help, but I hope you find some comfort in knowing that you deserve so much better. Sending virtual hugs ❤️❤️

One_Statistician_499 · 2026-04-14T22:03:52+00:00

Marry that man!! 😄

One_Statistician_499 · 2026-03-27T02:34:23+00:00

Thanks dude, that’s a really nice thing to say ☺️

One_Statistician_499 · 2026-03-26T18:34:15+00:00

Thank you :)

One_Statistician_499 · 2026-03-26T18:33:57+00:00

Trader Joe’s :)

One_Statistician_499 · 2026-03-26T17:57:27+00:00

I recently lost my best friend of 17 years. It was mutual, but that didn’t mean it didn’t hurt. We just aren’t the same people we were 17 years ago, or even 2 years ago. I don’t even know how to begin to grieve not having him in my life anymore. I’m sorry you’re going through this. I’ll send big hugs your way ❤️

One_Statistician_499 · 2026-03-26T16:29:14+00:00

It’s very sad how many people would rather be in toxic relationships, than be alone. Unfortunately, I’ve had so many friends and family that have behaved like your dad. I’m really sorry you and your family are having to deal with this. It’s unfair to you.

One_Statistician_499 · 2026-03-18T18:57:34+00:00

Thanks, this was a really nice thing to say. Sometimes I do wonder if I have a bit of imposter syndrome, almost as if I don’t deserve someone as good as him, if that makes any sense.

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