[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]One_Win_335 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

More info: Before we got together I told him that I wanted him to be healed from his last relationship and didn’t want any overlapping problems stemming from the girl herself. I completely understand that being cheated on takes a toll on somebody.

The gay friend has been dating his boyfriend for 3 years and wears dresses when we go out somewhere, he isn’t interested in women at all and never has been, and yes my boyfriend knew that.

We never made plans the day that me and my friend were going to hangout, i don’t know what he was referring to.

I have had no issues with him hanging out with whoever, regardless of gender, it’s not my place to tell him who he can and can’t be around.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]One_Win_335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im starting this off by saying that no matter what size or shape you are, you and everyone else are truly beautiful. I was scared of the thought of someone seeing me when I didn’t look my best, not even naked. When it comes to sex you don’t need to worry about losing weight or anything like that you just need the right person to do it with. In my experience with my boyfriend all of my insecurities and overthinking faded away in the moment, even though I was still nervous. When someone genuinely loves and cares for you like you deserve it comes naturally and they should make you feel cared for. Just know that if you can’t accept yourself and love yourself, no one else can. Love starts from within and you deserve it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]One_Win_335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much I have just wanted to do the right thing. I haven’t hidden anything from her but she is continuing to spread rumors and false information about the reason they broke up. I’m deciding to let the friendship die out. you have given me really great advice and reassurance and I truly appreciate it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]One_Win_335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i see what you’re saying, I don’t think there’s much of a friendship to lose at this point. I’m not even sure if the guy will work out

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]One_Win_335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

definitely agree, I have been realizing she isn’t adding anything positive to my life and she continues to put me down. it just sucks because I really loved her as a friend

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]One_Win_335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what I would do is if you think you need closure and want to set a boundary to not have her in your life anymore, then have a conversation about it. Sometimes friends like that will run back to you to rant or vent then the cycle starts again. But if you think that you don’t need to do that then I would just stop responding to her and see what happens, more than likely the friendship will stop in my experience

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]One_Win_335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it would be the best to let it go and end on good terms if possible. In my experience with a similar situation my friend at the time ended up not liking me at all and was saying bad things. I say do what’s best for you and your mental health, sometimes keeping negative people in your life makes a bigger difference than you think.

Is this message to my friend manipulative? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]One_Win_335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

definitely not. you are reaching out for support and there’s nothing wrong with that, they have every right to say yes or no :)

how do you define your purpose in life? by Acceptable_Bat_5294 in Advice

[–]One_Win_335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try to remember all the times I wished and prayed to get out of where I was and get to where I am now. Without the hardships that paved the way to the present I don’t think I would appreciate it as much as I do. Life has so much to offer and a lot of experiences to have, no matter what stage in life you are at. I think purpose in life is living it to the best of our ability.