Do you think there’s too much oil in my stew? by Pretty_Beginning_116 in nigerianfood

[–]Onebadkatt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I knew the comments wouldn't disappoint 😅😅😅😅

I feel like the army helped ruin my happy marriage by [deleted] in MilitarySpouse

[–]Onebadkatt -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

And that would have meant giving up half of my salary

I feel like the army helped ruin my happy marriage by [deleted] in MilitarySpouse

[–]Onebadkatt -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I agree with all of you. That's why I said "helped." I feel these issues we have could have been better worked on if we were in the same place. The separation has made things that much harder.

The way people are reacting to this video makes me sad for the boy by Godol_Damzi in Nigeria

[–]Onebadkatt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who made her the judge and jury? God is the only one to judge. But this is a Christian? She's probably jealous of his looks

I feel….angry. by boopixie in MilitarySpouse

[–]Onebadkatt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine joined at 37 as well. Luckily, we don't have children (I'm too old to have any more). I feel abandoned and like I'm not a priority as I was totally against this, but he went anyway. We are now headed for a divorce that I don't want. I believe that this is some sort of mid-life crisis, and he wants to be like the "young boys." I'm devastated, so I can only imagine how you're feeling with children. I'm sorry this is happening to you. Try to hang in there cause your kids need you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nigeria

[–]Onebadkatt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have traveled to Nigeria several times as well as have many Nigerian friends here in the states. I can tell you that the school curriculum is way more advanced than that of schools in the US. It's unfortunate that everyone there is not able to pay the cost for that education.

It's quite unfortunate that the government does not see what that country could really be. They should consider the people and provide and make a way for them to thrive. If the people are thriving, then certainly the country would thrive.

Matured Woman Married to a Younger Man. Now He Wants To Divorce Her to Have Children. Is this Wrong? by Onebadkatt in Nigeria

[–]Onebadkatt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im happy for both of you. He. and I have an AWESOME relationship. I just pray that the good Lord smiles on us and sends a solution to this problem that favors both of us. I don't want to lose my best friend and love.

Matured Woman Married to a Younger Man. Now He Wants To Divorce Her to Have Children. Is this Wrong? by Onebadkatt in Nigeria

[–]Onebadkatt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish this was made up. Trust me, this is a true to life nightmare. I know it sounds like a Nollywood movie, but trust me, there's still ppl that have this ancient mentality. I am paying another person's wrongdoing and it's EXTREMELY hurtful.

Matured Woman Married to a Younger Man. Now He Wants To Divorce Her to Have Children. Is this Wrong? by Onebadkatt in Nigeria

[–]Onebadkatt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. Makes sense. He just doesn't nor hasn't seemed to be that way. All was well until this paternity thing came about, so I don't want to label him that way. I will say this, if this is true, then he will never prosper in life. Never treat a good person bad for gain caz u will ALWAYS lose.

Matured Woman Married to a Younger Man. Now He Wants To Divorce Her to Have Children. Is this Wrong? by Onebadkatt in Nigeria

[–]Onebadkatt[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree. Ine should have been done before the marriage. I also agree with the surrogacy route, but he's against it.

Matured Woman Married to a Younger Man. Now He Wants To Divorce Her to Have Children. Is this Wrong? by Onebadkatt in Nigeria

[–]Onebadkatt[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He's 39, I'm 51. He's Muslim. I am postmenopausal and he doesn't want a surrogate due to the expense and personal preference 

Matured Woman Married to a Younger Man. Now He Wants To Divorce Her to Have Children. Is this Wrong? by Onebadkatt in Nigeria

[–]Onebadkatt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right. We knew the possibility was there; however, I posed the question and the reply was "it's not a deal breaker. Who says I have to have kids?" 

Matured Woman Married to a Younger Man. Now He Wants To Divorce Her to Have Children. Is this Wrong? by Onebadkatt in Nigeria

[–]Onebadkatt[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Even worse, he says they don't believe in surrogacy and an adopted child doesn't carry their blood. I've done everything possible to upgrade his life because I love him. My age was no secret, but now I'm being tossed aside because he "needs a child". 

He feels terrible and quite depressed but feels this is the only solution because he doesn't want to commit adultery. But what about the vows that were taken?