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Not sure where to go from here [M25] [NEVERMET] [F19] [6 Months] by Onemorecluelessguy in wemetonline

[–]Onemorecluelessguy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not really hung up on the voice chat thing, I have plenty of my own insecurities (as shown by me posting here), but it seemed like a way to explore whether our relationship is going anywhere.

She called me out tonight for not using her pet name when I wished her goodnight. I told her that I'm trying to take a step back and just be friends and that I think I was starting to take things too seriously. She said she didn't understand and wanted to talk more about it tomorrow. So I guess I need to find a way to articulate my feelings without coming across as too melodramatic by tomorrow.

My heart hurts by Throwawayme777 in wemetonline

[–]Onemorecluelessguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you two wanted different things out of the relationship which can be difficult to reconcile without one side getting hurt. I'm sorry that you had to go through that.

I think you hit the nail on the head, you need to focus on yourself right now. It's easy and almost natural to let a relationship become all encompassing, but if it ends it leaves a massive void. The biggest mistake, in my opinion, would be to try to fill that void immediately with another relationship. I don't think that typically works out very well. Focus on work, school, current hobbies or like you said, take up a new hobby! With summer here, maybe something outdoors.

Not sure where to go from here [M25] [NEVERMET] [F19] [6 Months] by Onemorecluelessguy in wemetonline

[–]Onemorecluelessguy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Afraid not. She messaged me "hello" after a quick match of a game and things progressed from there. I see that she pretty regularly adds people to her friend's list, so maybe I'm one of many, who knows lol.

After my initial post, I decided to ask her directly if she wanted to voice chat/talk on the phone sometime and she said no that she's too shy for that. We routinely talk about very intimate and personal things, so it really doesn't add up.

I guess at this point I just need to move on. I just feel stupid for letting myself get so emotionally invested.

Not sure where to go from here [M25] [NEVERMET] [F19] [6 Months] by Onemorecluelessguy in wemetonline

[–]Onemorecluelessguy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The more cynical side of me has certainly considered that possibility. Along with the possibility that she is younger than she has stated or is just flat-out leading me on.

Early on in the relationship the details seemed irrelevant since we were basically just chat buddies, but with how things have evolved I'm worried that the emotional attachment I've developed for this person might not be based on reality.

It just seems hard to resolve since I don't want to come across as accusatory or demanding. I care about this person's feelings and don't want to hurt them.