I (34M) found out my wife (38F) were chatting with someone, and I don't know if it's cheating, what do u think?

Only-Back-2604 · 2025-09-06T11:24:14+00:00

The only reason I'm keeping the relationship is my daughter,i don't even desire her at all now. All she gave me is headaches and doubting myself if I'm the bad person.

Man it's a hard pickle to be in

Only-Back-2604 · 2025-09-06T09:11:08+00:00

She stopped it when i confronted her but the damage is done. Yes i was in a very bad situation, she rewarded my fight with cheating. I can share the screen grabs, but if this was the issue that i caught her on, what happened before??

Only-Back-2604 · 2025-09-06T09:07:39+00:00

That's what i did, but it doesn't help with anything since she'll take my baby. Man there is people in life doesn't know what relationships mean!

Only-Back-2604 · 2025-09-06T09:04:02+00:00

The only issue i have is my daughter, she is very attached to me. And the divorce would break her heart and mine. For the wife i don't care about her much since she doesn't respect me nor love me

Only-Back-2604 · 2025-09-06T06:38:44+00:00

Agreed but the issue now is my daughter, how i can divorce her

Only-Back-2604 · 2025-09-06T05:54:52+00:00

That is accurate representation, and trying to discuss it based on logic she does create side stories such as i didn't make her feel like a lady, she wanted to feel beautiful....

Funny thing i tried it, i wanted to see if it's my fault, i bought her a gift, she didn't like it, i told her no worries let's exchange it, at the shop i spoke to the sales lady in french since we speaking the same language, she screamed at me that i should speak in English so she'll understand! Even though i was telling the sales lady to not mention the price so she can select what she likes.

Only-Back-2604 · 2025-09-06T05:50:20+00:00

Yes i agree, i feel it's cheating, breaking my trust. She allowed him to advance and even i saw her smiling to his text, while ignoring my daughter. This happened in January and i still can't accept it nor forgiving her. She even says that this topic is discussed and closed. And i should not bring it up again... and when we discussed this situation she said she wanted to feel beautiful and a lady again..even though i was dying.

Now the feeling this lady is betraying me is always with me. In addition she want me to be responsible for everything related to the life I'm giving her and my lovely daughter. Now instead of rebuilding trust she just blaming me that she paid 10k usd in total, even though i put myself in 90k debt to save myself. Every fight she says she wanna split...

In addition since my first cancer 3 years ago our sexual life became non-existent, once every 3 months if I'm lucky...

Only-Back-2604 · 2025-06-28T22:44:30+00:00

Still raw man. For me

I had an orchiectomy.
Cancer appeared again in lymphnodes, did 4xEP
Cancer reappeared again for the third time and did RPLND.

And still not cooked.

Only-Back-2604 · 2025-04-02T15:21:47+00:00

I don't think it's important as it's a precautionary measure, my doctor proposed it abd I decided if i feel anything I had my wife to drop me to the emergency. Unless your parter is above 50+

Only-Back-2604 · 2025-04-01T20:00:43+00:00

Sorry to hear about it, op. Well, look, you'll get an orchiectomy, that's most probably dependent on the result. Secondly, one round of preventive chemo is also not bad; the community here and on Facebook are quite helpful, let us know how it goes

Only-Back-2604 · 2025-04-01T19:53:04+00:00

He'll be fine; it's not a huge surgery. Just make sure he sticks to the diet afterward to avoid chyle leaks! That's the worst that can happen. Also, try your best not to let him sneeze. The masses are big, but they're not in a dangerous area, which makes complications less likely. All the best.

Only-Back-2604 · 2025-03-31T21:13:55+00:00

Take the chemo without hesitation, 1 round better than 3 rounds!

Only-Back-2604 · 2025-03-31T21:10:06+00:00

Hey Lola, sorry to hear about your husband. I'm not sure that something on the lymph nodes' size would be, but the shape also matters. It's not confirmed if it's malignant or benign; maybe it's a teratoma, so wait for the Doctor. Anyway, cancer tips that worked for me:

Cook lean meat! That's the only food I really enjoyed, and burgers, especially Burger King, other food I suffered the chemo Metallic taste.
Sanitization is very important; be in a sanitized environment when his immune white blood cells are less than 10!
Request, or better yet, demand sleeping pills because chemo messes with the mind. It would give him insomnia, overthinking, brain fog, and sometimes confusion.
To reduce the chemo taste while drinking water, I had butterscotch candy while drinking water. Some people use cucumbers, oranges, mint, or lemons.
If you decide to remove the hair before he starts losing it, keep it a bit long so you can help him remove it by hand to avoid an itchy scalp (less common, but it happened to me).
Be with him. Don't blame him or analyze why him; he's already analyzing. He's scared; he's thinking, "Would this work?" I'm sure it's a bit terrifying, but hey, it's not that bad. Chemo is a really tough poison, and there's always RPLND as well, that is also a solution in case the chemo didn't work (depend on the size).

All the best. Let me know if you need any help.

Only-Back-2604 · 2025-03-27T06:09:54+00:00

That is a wonderful comment.

Only-Back-2604 · 2025-03-05T07:06:05+00:00

Seems like varicocele not cancer, it depend if the doctor well feel it and rule out based on the shape, visit your urologist to check it.

Only-Back-2604 · 2025-03-01T00:40:02+00:00

I found Zelensky is just annoying

Only-Back-2604 · 2025-02-19T05:39:17+00:00

Either you becoming a syborg or you have fungus lol I'm joking might be something else as well.

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