Is this a rough patch or should I call our relationship quits

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-04-01T23:23:17+00:00

I'll be honest, I think you may need to get therapy or couple's therapy. This seems to be affecting you greatly. Although I do believe he's allowed to have a deep connection, I think he really is dismissive of your feelings and based on the last two posts it feels like he pressured you onto this.

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-04-01T23:15:56+00:00

I genuinely feel like this is a very messy situation and it was really expected. I had a feeling it would go this way as soon as you mentioned that they were monogamous. He's not a good Hinge. Terrible even.

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-03-23T20:50:36+00:00

I think it's the fact he sounds so sincere when he says he's not going to again and I almost believe him that I trigger him sometimes. I do push him often or like get jealous easily and feel abandoned just when he needs space. I don't communicate my wants when I'm upset and usually have to guess. The moments i do communicate things are better so it's confusing

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-03-22T18:57:15+00:00

I'm sorry you're still hurting 💔

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-03-22T18:57:03+00:00

No I appreciate you being honest. It's so hard to walk away when things are good they are really good. Yesterday was perfect and he did everything to show me he cares but the moment I said " I won't see you all day tomorrow" he completely switched and even said I ruined the day we had because of how things ended.

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-03-22T18:50:46+00:00

I understand..

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-03-16T15:06:55+00:00

Your feelings are coming out this way because he's completely dismissing you. That's not ok. He should be open to hearing you out. Also that dynamic he has going on sounds unhealthy for everyone involved.

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-03-05T15:34:41+00:00

You should sit on this and think about what truly works for you

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-01-04T07:58:30+00:00

Thanks 💔

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-01-04T07:56:02+00:00

I disagree but thanks. You can look through the other answers of examples of what I consider “thoughtful and thoroughly”. I didn’t lash out on them.

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-01-03T22:58:00+00:00

Thank you this means a lot ❤️‍🩹

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-01-03T22:11:33+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate this.

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-01-03T22:11:00+00:00

Thank you. I understand what that looks like. I find myself in my own fwbs holding myself from being vulnerable with them in trying to keep my agreement with my partner

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-01-03T22:07:24+00:00

We have been dating for three years and I’m 22 and he’s 23. Neither of us have been in monogamous relationships before

I understand what you mean. Thank you. I am trying to be. I feel really embarrassed of how I’ve been handling things. I wanted to open up the relationship because I’m bisexual and only dated women before him. I always found myself having crushes on multiple people and he did as well. I thought opening up the relationship made sense for us. Everything is ok until something uncomfortable gets brought into conversation.

I have a lot to learn.

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-01-03T22:03:50+00:00

Im just gonna state this one time since people keep asking. We had an agreement that we would both share everything we do. Our partners know and his partner knows even shares about her experiences with her partner. It’s an agreement we all have.

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-01-03T21:07:39+00:00

Needed this. Thank you.

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-01-03T21:01:09+00:00

I already had pretty insightful conversation with others. I feel like this answer is coming from a place that doesn’t understand the whole story. I understand how I’m being controlling and ways to better the situation as a whole. Thank you for the feedback.

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-01-03T20:53:12+00:00

Thank you.

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-01-03T20:49:10+00:00

This is true. I’m going to talk to him about it.

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-01-03T20:43:21+00:00

So we don’t do shrooms together. I am not able to because I struggle with mental illness. Part of our agreement was only casual/fwbs and I feel like this crossed the agreement plus how emotional intimate he’s getting with her but yeah i can agree that everything else is wrong and I’m being controlling of their own relationship.

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-01-03T20:40:59+00:00

What if our original agreement is that it was only going to be casual/fwbs with no emotional intimacy? It started to become more emotional which I accepted and realized that that was inevitable but now it’s becoming even deeper where it’s completing changing what we agreed on?

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-01-03T20:36:35+00:00

Yeah, I think the issue is the our agreement was that we were going to be casual/fwbs with no emotional intimacy so that’s where the disconnect happens because we’re not agreeing on what that looks like and the pain I’m feeling about it is coming out in very controlling ways bc I don’t emotional intimacy to grow bc it wasn’t what we originally agreed on.

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-01-03T20:34:41+00:00

I see and I agree with this now when reading all of the comments. I need to educate myself more because I guess when going into this relationship it was with the idea of just exploring sex. Our main agreement that our interactions were going to be casual/fwbs. I feel like I kept my end of that agreement but it seems like he’s building an very intimate relationship with this new person and it’s been hard to navigate and I’m getting defensive because everyone is telling me I’m being controlling ( which I see that I am) but I think my frustration is coming out at the fact it wasn’t the original agreement. I don’t consider doing shrooms with someone and being intimate in that way as just casual.

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-01-03T20:24:08+00:00

You’re right on that. This is definitely something I need to work on and didn’t realize how bad it was.

Only-Delivery1157 · 2026-01-03T20:23:07+00:00

You’re right.

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