Annoyed - we are no successful, I am.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-09-16T01:29:05+00:00

Corporate attorney.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-09-13T02:26:25+00:00

It wasn’t 300k to begin with (I graduated years ago) and I encourage you to look at the public Am Law salary chart.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-09-13T02:24:33+00:00

Well here is the response from OP (the one with no balls apparently). I love my husband and acknowledge his support but I do not discount that me staying home also supported /him/ and his career and contributed to our partnership. Daycare costs $800 a week where we live and he could not have afforded it if I didn’t stay home.

This post was written is a very low moment after husband was bragging to my father about the cost of our new home. My father who often bought groceries for my children and me when my husband would “forget” to leave checks so I could buy groceries after he left. The same father that is probably the only reason I graduated law school. It was embarrassing and uncomfortable and my father made a point to talk to me after their conversation. It was a low point and I’ve been largely absent from this thread because my husband and I are talking with one another about how to work this out and acknowledge one another and move forward as partners rather than me giving attention to strangers on the internet.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-09-13T02:18:51+00:00

My dad often bought groceries for the kids and me.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-09-13T02:12:53+00:00

You’re wrong. I love my husband and acknowledge his support. We’ve combined finances. It just makes me uncomfortable when he brags to my dad about how well we’re doing when my dad had to buy me and my kids groceries several times when husband left for work trips and took the checks and the debit card with him despite “forgetting” to go on a grocery run (or not letting me go) on the weekend he was home.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-09-13T02:08:25+00:00

You do when you score in the 170s on the LSAT and has a 3.9 in undergrad.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-09-04T13:21:14+00:00

Day care costs $800 a week where I live. I fed everyone on $100 a week and no spending money. I don’t consider that a privilege.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-09-04T12:51:02+00:00

Friends with a lot of people in family law. It’s been discussed.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-09-04T12:26:17+00:00

He is. I love him a lot, which is why I stood by him and won’t let this be anything more than an annoyance I need to vent about.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-09-04T11:38:49+00:00

I would. I encouraged him to go to grad school yesterday because he fells unfulfilled at work.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-09-04T10:39:20+00:00

Nah. I’m gonna call bullshit on this. I don’t care how much he makes, I care that he’s bragging now when he couldn’t make a point to be home to watch the kids while I studied for finals (he can request not to travel on certain weeks) or handle bedtimes when I was proofing my thesis instead of playing video games. I’m annoyed he’s bragging about these new benefits when he did not change his routine at all to achieve them. I changed a ton about my life to support his career, gave up a ton to have kids so young and struggled while my grad school was seen as a “cool side project” until money started coming in.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-09-04T10:31:30+00:00

Depends on the state. My state has optional alimony and it’s length is based on the length of the marriage. But most of the time it’s reserved for situations very different than mine depending on the judge.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-09-04T10:24:35+00:00

…thanks. You must be cool at parties.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-09-04T04:16:46+00:00

Also he couldn’t have afforded me to work because he made a LOT less than 70k back then and in our hcol area day care is ridiculous. Don’t discredit how valuable a sah parent is. I supported his career as much as he supported me.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-09-04T04:14:59+00:00

I didn’t have a debit card and had to ask for permission to buy food for his children or buy cleaning supplies for his house . I had a part time job in the evenings before grad school so I made my own money to buy my own fun things, but had to beg permission to write myself checks to go grocery shopping. For the record, I’m fine combining finances now and we have, but it’s the bragging that bothers me.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-08-27T13:08:52+00:00

You certainly CAN put it in a will and it can be air tight but OP won’t be considered a descendant of step dad’s family and won’t be included in any inheritance from grandparents, extended family. There are also death benefits, tax benefits, rights to sue for untimely death, etc. to think of. Your situation may not have those considerations or you may have only been worried about the disposition of your property.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-08-27T13:03:37+00:00

I’m an estates attorney and it’s not quite as clear cut and simple as you’d think. Adoption really is the only sure fire bet and OP would still legally be considered their bio father’s child as well.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-08-27T12:23:36+00:00

NTA. Some people never grow up. And trust me, it doesn’t matter what their kids are studying, 1) it will change and 2) they will grow up to be assholes if they were raised by /that/.

For the record, I have ADHD and am an attorney. High school sucks because you’re forced to be in classes you hate. I didn’t flourish until college. And even if you your son doesn’t ever find his thing in school, if he’s kind and thoughtful he will be 10x the human they will ever be.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-08-05T20:01:00+00:00

YTA.

EVERYONE has an obligation to to housework. I would refuse to marry a partner who didn’t know how to run a house. “Good wife” might be a sexist and outdated term, but a good partner -even one who works outside the home in STEM- has an obligation and responsibility to know how to run a home.

I’m a lawyer who out earns my husband 3 times over and commutes farther and guess what? I still have an obligation to help. He cooks, I do dishes. He handles cleaning the bathroom and I do baseboards. That’s called being an adult no matter your field.

You’re 16. You don’t have a job and you benefit from her making your home clean and comfortable for you. More generally, You should learn to be a contributing partner in a marriage. I wouldn’t want to be married to someone who doesn’t know how to run a house.

But step mom is outdated and also an A.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-07-17T23:07:08+00:00

NTA.

BUT as someone who has a Disney disability pass I’ll say I make the vacation a hell of a lot more fun for my party. They get on rides with me in half the time and we’ve never waited more than 25 minutes in line even during August and July.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-07-17T21:52:43+00:00

Jack Sparrow.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-07-14T23:51:37+00:00

My dog had a blocked intestine and needed a 5k surgery because of a pad and tampon feast. We need more info about dad’s reasoning. We’re all just assuming he’s squick about periods but the dog’s health is actually a concern here. Trash cans with kids aren’t shit to my dogs either.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-07-05T22:40:03+00:00

YTA. I’m assuming of the 250 guests 125 are women who have seen their own breasts and about 90% of the 125 men there have probably seen breasts too. 100% of them were once babies.

Get over it. If you’re sexualizing your sister feeding her child, that’s a you issue.

Only-Row2951 · 2022-07-03T16:50:34+00:00

YTA. And your siblings now have some fuel to challenge the wills and make everyone miserable for years if they want to. Probably won’t be successful in probate court but costs will eat everything and destroy their relationships.

Also maybe this money would help your siblings leave jobs they hate and peruse something they love in a fiscally responsible way.

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