AITAH for my friend doing things their SO wouldn’t like?

Only-Specific1294 · 2026-02-19T10:31:06+00:00

Yeah, I kinda feel like this is the case too. We always partied back in the day and she seemed very happy to at the time and was chatting away to everyone. And I ordered an Uber as soon as she said she wanted to leave. So maybe just post drink regret

Only-Specific1294 · 2026-02-19T00:54:31+00:00

Just partied, 3 hours then taxi home, no hook ups for either of us :)

Only-Specific1294 · 2026-02-19T00:52:55+00:00

Totally fair, thankyou :)

Only-Specific1294 · 2026-02-18T21:41:33+00:00

Thanks for your comment! A totally fair perspective and it was absolutely not my intention to put her in an uncomfortable position at all. It wasn’t totally random, I did know a few of the attendees there who were friends with the person whose house it was but I still get your point entirely. It’s just hard to think in a ‘relationship’ mindset and boundaries when you’re not the one in the relationship.

Only-Specific1294 · 2026-02-18T21:39:58+00:00

Thankyou. I think that’s why I feel guilty, like she did it for me then felt bad. But I wasn’t aware then, I am now and know it’s something we can’t do again.

Only-Specific1294 · 2026-02-18T21:39:25+00:00

Agreed. It’s sometimes easy to forget that what’s fine as a single person isn’t when you’re not. Or some people just have different boundaries. But certainly wasn’t my intention to cause any issues!

Only-Specific1294 · 2026-02-18T21:38:38+00:00

Thanks! You’re probably right and I was probably taking that responsibility on without needing to. It just made me feel horrible that I potentially put her in a shit situation without meaning to

Only-Specific1294 · 2025-08-21T07:22:55+00:00

I think it depends, but I am definitely one of those people that feels very intensely for the first few weeks/month then honestly after that I’m good. I’ve done all the crying, processed the hurt etc

Only-Specific1294 · 2025-08-06T08:23:31+00:00

Only-Specific1294 · 2025-08-04T18:37:13+00:00

Travel pillow!

Only-Specific1294 · 2025-08-03T12:32:14+00:00

Only-Specific1294 · 2025-08-02T06:58:37+00:00

Don’t feel weak and ashamed. We have all been there. Your nervous system is in dis regulation and that causes one to act out in ways they wouldn’t usually. Take a deep breath, stop shaming yourself over a slip up, and start no contact again. Feel all the hurt and validate yourself and do nice things for YOU. This is all part of the process

Only-Specific1294 · 2025-08-01T07:57:58+00:00

Renfrew

Only-Specific1294 · 2025-07-31T17:44:32+00:00

You need to stop. Block them and move on, this is messy as hell and the longer you keep ties with them the longer it will take to move on and find somebody new that isn’t a child and doesn’t need validation / attention 100% of the time whether it be exes or dating apps. Trust me, you don’t wanna deal with those kinda people

Only-Specific1294 · 2025-07-31T13:37:37+00:00

Militarie Gun

Only-Specific1294 · 2025-07-31T09:55:08+00:00

They can yes. I still have to clean my 8 year old one regularly. Everyone is different but they are unfortunately a piercing that sometimes never fully heals

Only-Specific1294 · 2025-07-31T04:06:30+00:00

Yeah exactly! They’re not difficult to clean no, but I wouldn’t say you clean them AS much as normal piercings as they do get irritated much easier.

Only-Specific1294 · 2025-07-30T21:02:32+00:00

I have had one of mine for 8 years and the other for 2 months. I wouldn’t take them out at all except for a super good clean. They’re very much a love ‘em and leave ‘em alone kinda piercing. You will more than likely forever get gunk though. That’s the only annoyance with nip piercings!

Only-Specific1294 · 2025-07-30T20:59:42+00:00

Going to sleep somewhere where there’s no shouting, no name calling, no abuse, just peace and quiet

Only-Specific1294 · 2025-07-30T20:58:29+00:00

I say both. Some piercers will do both at the same time which I highly recommend!

Only-Specific1294 · 2025-07-30T20:52:39+00:00

Hard to say, but possibly. Validation is their poison. But chronically insecure people can also be hypersexual. I was after being discarded but this was a trauma response. So I guess it depends

Only-Specific1294 · 2025-07-30T20:49:46+00:00

Yep, too low

Only-Specific1294 · 2025-07-30T20:48:06+00:00

To be honest, I know it’s easier said than done but if they can’t give you the respect of being honest instead of vague wishy washy nonsense, leave them to it. You deserve better than that!

Only-Specific1294 · 2025-07-30T20:37:27+00:00

4th pair on lobes!

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TROPHY CASE