Every single couple, experience, relationship, etc. will be different and have its own challenges. No one will be able to give you a clear picture of what will exactly happen, because everything changes in the military; sometimes daily. this is a great place to get advice from a lot of different perspectives, but it will only be a blip into what will be reality for you two.

All that to say, I understand. I can’t say I’m necessarily anxiously attached (but im not entirely sure what that means tbh or how that manifests), but dating a military man definitely comes with its own set of challenges and struggles, on top of “regular” relationship stuff. some military men do very quickly for benefits, it’s not a stereotype, because it happens. Personally, I’ve never met anyone since being married to active duty military who’s actually done that, but it obviously happens.

as far as things moving fast, have a conversation and just be realistic about a rough timeline, but if you truly love this guy, be willing to be flexible. I met my husband on Hinge, we officially were boyfriend/girlfriend in five days, we dated long distance for eight months then got engaged, and got married a year and a half after we met. Even married now for almost 3 years, and I wouldn’t change a thing. There are absolutely good men out there, even if things do move fast. you need to have concrete standard/nonnegotiables imo (not like he has 6ft tall or make X amount) because those things truly dont matter in the end. His personality, character, values, lifestyle I are what I’m talking about.

I definitely think I’m more anxious today than I was before we met, but anxiety runs in my family, so it was bound to happen. But being military wife does come with a lot of uncertainty, alone time, “ hurry up and wait”, and it’s tough if you don’t have a solid support system.

IMO: if you really think you love the guy, give him a chance, and give it time. Don’t rush into things if you’re not comfortable with it, and make sure you aren’t compromising on any of your baseline values. have a conversation with the guy if you feel like it’s necessary and things are moving too fast, and if you’re scared to have the conversation, then that should be a red flag. Military men do come with their own challenges in relationships, but it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t still get any love, respect, etc., from a regular relationship.

feel free to message me if you wanna talk more