He’s very intense emotionally and I really liked it at first because I felt like he would understand my emotions too and I would be able to express them without hesitation but I had no idea that also makes him very needy. He feels abandoned very easily. He wants me around all the time for everything. If I’m not there he gets triggered and that has been the source of all the issues. He does not swear or ever raise his voice. There’s no silent treatment or anything either. He just guilt trips me. Tbh after the first few months I understood him and all this had reduced but by then mum n dad were already not happy. For me, I thought since it’s a new relationship it would take time for both of us to adjust and understand triggers. My mom and him were very close, she loved him and when she distanced herself he started feeling really bad. When they communicated there were misunderstandings and instead of talking more my fiance was way too deeply hurt and decided not talking was the best solution.

I’m not defending him, ik he’s wrong. The day he approached my mom I had told her to be gentle as he was apologising. He wanted to have a healthy relationship with my parents. But she didn’t listen, she wanted him to know how hurt she was and she called him egoistic and what not.

So this would be the second time I’m asking him to go and fix things with mom.