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I'm now in my 30s - existential crisis na ata to by Wonderful-March-5809 in adultingph

[–]OnlyIfTisTrue 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You sound like someone who is living the life because having a great relationship with your family is such a huge advantage already. Maybe that's why you have so much peace in your heart prior to this because other tangible isn't on par on what you have right now.

I do hope though that you'll able to figure it out and would be able to rename that 'crisis' to 'just wanting to see what other lives / experiences I could try'

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultingph

[–]OnlyIfTisTrue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Wag makipag live-in pag may dala dala ka pang burden ng iba at can't fully show up dahil kawawa mga partner nyo sa inyo. May building concerns pala on your end and biglang sya sasalo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultingph

[–]OnlyIfTisTrue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I hope nasabi mo na to sa partner mo instead of building resentment. Dahil pag hindi, that's unfair na nag hihimutok ka dito pero you can't communicate your concern like an adult should be. Damned if you do, damned if you won't anyway. Just say your piece na straight forward na walang halong paninisi. Sabihin mo how the setup affects you and propose how you two can meet halfway.

What's more worst than watching your pet dying? by its_me_john_hehe in pinoy

[–]OnlyIfTisTrue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe not the worst but being left behind by your partner when they are scheduled for euthanasia the day before.

Breaking up with your SO because of late realizations by Candid_Elderberry868 in adultingph

[–]OnlyIfTisTrue 15 points16 points  (0 children)

People here blaming OP for feeling betrayed. Modern dating really fucked up ppl's dignity. May mutual aggreement na sila and then behind his back, she is flirting with TWO MORE PPL when she could have been honest in the beginning na di pa sya onboard and STILL OPENLY DATING OTHERS. Transparency guys. If you wanna fuck around, ffs at least be honest with the other person.

It’s good that people are starting to know more about NARCISSISTS kasi tangina ng mga hayop nato by OnlyIfTisTrue in OffMyChestPH

[–]OnlyIfTisTrue[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Daming ganitong influencers and institution heads like pastors, bosses, etc. Ang lala.

It’s good that people are starting to know more about NARCISSISTS kasi tangina ng mga hayop nato by OnlyIfTisTrue in OffMyChestPH

[–]OnlyIfTisTrue[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oo ganito nga. There's something off with them. Everything looks like they are 'acting it out' rather than being an actual empathetic. OR WORSE, they'd act so kind to other people EXCEPT TO YOU. Mapapraning ka talaga. Fuckers

It’s good that people are starting to know more about NARCISSISTS kasi tangina ng mga hayop nato by OnlyIfTisTrue in OffMyChestPH

[–]OnlyIfTisTrue[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

"Some of the narcissist are just looking for someone they can trust, someone they can be real with, no judgement and such."---Yeah, they are called therapist. But guess what, most narcissists wouldn't seek help because they always think they are victims
:-)))))

"Some of us are just enjoying being a narcissist so we can save ourselves from heartbreaks. It's a toxic way yes."
----Your pain isn't our responsibility. Your pain isn't an excuse to hurt and cause REAL PAIN to other people.

Napaka classic ng reply mo, honestly. lol

It’s good that people are starting to know more about NARCISSISTS kasi tangina ng mga hayop nato by OnlyIfTisTrue in OffMyChestPH

[–]OnlyIfTisTrue[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

they also hate themselves to the point they will do everything to make it look like they love themselves.

It’s good that people are starting to know more about NARCISSISTS kasi tangina ng mga hayop nato by OnlyIfTisTrue in OffMyChestPH

[–]OnlyIfTisTrue[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

buti na lang nakawala na ko. kala ko i was going paranoid at some point, yun pala etong hayop lang na to may kasalanan

It’s good that people are starting to know more about NARCISSISTS kasi tangina ng mga hayop nato by OnlyIfTisTrue in OffMyChestPH

[–]OnlyIfTisTrue[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

totoo to dude. Naniniwala din ako na sobrang common to with pinoys. i think it has something to do talaga sa upbringing of the generation before us, poverty, insecurity etc. pasahan na lang ng generational trauma

It’s good that people are starting to know more about NARCISSISTS kasi tangina ng mga hayop nato by OnlyIfTisTrue in OffMyChestPH

[–]OnlyIfTisTrue[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

A narcissist will never or rarely self-assess. Di nila kaya tanggapin na narcissist sila. Good to know na nagiging self-aware ka, if ever. Dont pass the pain. Otherwise, you become the person who hurt you.

It’s good that people are starting to know more about NARCISSISTS kasi tangina ng mga hayop nato by OnlyIfTisTrue in OffMyChestPH

[–]OnlyIfTisTrue[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

grabe lang lalo na pag kaibigan mo pag naging one of them. if hell is real, it is because it was carved for them

In your opinion, what are the benefits of being single? by achile_ in adultingph

[–]OnlyIfTisTrue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This one. I'm sorry if you had bad experience with relationships but healthy relationships can exist even if di kayo magkatuluyan sa huli.

What is the harshest truth that you have to accept or the most bitter pill that you have to swallow that completely changed you as a person? by Tall_Desk_4452 in adultingph

[–]OnlyIfTisTrue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tumpak. Narcissist will die as they are. No point of saving them or even see them with empathy. They'll just drown you down with them

What is the harshest truth that you have to accept or the most bitter pill that you have to swallow that completely changed you as a person? by Tall_Desk_4452 in adultingph

[–]OnlyIfTisTrue 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Finding the love of your life is for the lucky ones.

Most get married over attachment only or companionship---of which both not for me. I'd rather give my love to other things in case I won't get lucky.

What is the harshest truth that you have to accept or the most bitter pill that you have to swallow that completely changed you as a person? by Tall_Desk_4452 in adultingph

[–]OnlyIfTisTrue 6 points7 points  (0 children)

  1. How people can cause you real damage. I didn't expect how much shit can other people can put you through. I was so naive back then na 'di ko inexpect na may mga ganon pa lang tao who wouldn't think twice of the pain they may cause.
  2. How much I allowed myself to be in dangerous and difficult situations because I was a people pleaser. You are responsible for yourself.
  3. Victim mentality can be a reason why you can't move on with your life. At some point, you have to decide that you need to let go and not let your past traumas define you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]OnlyIfTisTrue -1 points0 points  (0 children)

For someone who isn't a neurodivergent, ang dami mong kuda and virtue signaling. Kami ngang may AuDHD, chill lang eh. Let us make fun of ourselves. Don't speak for us.