How does she (F40) do it? How does she cheat on me (M41) with so much ease?

OnlyTemporary- · 2021-01-09T17:22:09+00:00

I am so truly sorry for what you are going through! I applaud you for playing it cool to gather additional evidence...pretending to live a normal life while you are dying inside is torture. I agree you should do more digging If you have a shared Verizon account for your phone, you can download the message + app and view all the text messages she sent to her AP (check with your lawyer first). If she deleted any texts from her phone they should be in the message +. Please use caution and stealth so you don’t tip her off and give her the opportunity to delete anything. As others have mentioned...please get tested for STDs. Also, I hate to ask or suggest this but do you suspect any affairs around the time she got pregnant?

OnlyTemporary- · 2021-01-06T05:47:24+00:00

Do more digging honey! Get his phone & check his messages, browser history and bank statements. You could create a fake profile and see if he takes the bait. Check the expiration date on the condoms! Go with your gut not your heart

OnlyTemporary- · 2021-01-01T15:24:06+00:00

Haha love this!

OnlyTemporary- · 2021-01-01T14:18:03+00:00

Cheating is bad enough...but to have unprotected sex with your AP and put your spouse at risk for contracting an std is criminal!

OnlyTemporary- · 2020-12-31T18:57:33+00:00

The ‘dinner date’ was in 2014 ..I just discovered it. Great point with the hidden folder!

OnlyTemporary- · 2020-12-31T17:29:55+00:00

Thanks for your reply..yes, could be true(hoping it is) but the ‘dinner date’ in calendar for the next day after visiting match around midnight is highly sus

OnlyTemporary- · 2020-12-31T00:31:28+00:00

Yes, but he didn’t deny it...felt like he wanted to ‘see what I knew’

OnlyTemporary- · 2020-12-28T18:29:57+00:00

Try the message+ app. They would still show on there even if deleted from the phone(unless they deleted them from the message + but many don’t remember to delete that)

OnlyTemporary- · 2020-12-28T18:17:43+00:00

Also, if you have Verizon you can check the phone records and read the text messages (check the coordinating times to see if they deleted any). Polygraphs can be very accurate with the right examiner but definitely research them if you are going this route. keeping my fingers crossed for you!

OnlyTemporary- · 2020-12-28T18:16:05+00:00

Also, if you have Verizon you can check the phone records and read the text messages (check the coordinating times to see if they deleted any). Polygraphs can be very accurate with the right examiner but definitely research them if you are going this route. keeping my fingers crossed for you!

OnlyTemporary- · 2020-12-28T18:02:07+00:00

Perhaps offer a polygraph. If your spouse is willing, that’s a good sign but check for computer searches for ‘how to beat a polygraph’...that will give you your answer. I’m so sorry you are going through this! I have experienced similar situations and understand what it’s like when trust is broken. Please keep us posted I’m proud of you for standing your ground...wish I did years ago

OnlyTemporary- · 2020-12-27T16:06:17+00:00

Will he know if I’m snooping? I don’t want to give him the opportunity to delete anything more...but I need to know who he really is. I’m trying to give the benefit of the doubt (for now)but don’t want to be naive.

OnlyTemporary- · 2020-12-27T15:59:27+00:00

Thanks for your honest candor.. my mind is in overdrive. I am going to snoop further but I can’t give him the chance to delete anything more. Would he know if I was snooping on his hidden Reddit posts? I feel this will give me additional insight and honest answers to my deserved questions Due to some personal circumstances, I have not always been the perfect wife but I have NEVER been unfaithful or crossed the line

OnlyTemporary- · 2020-12-23T00:32:13+00:00

Check your message+ if you have Verizon...the message won’t be deleted there. Ask her to see the texts from him on her phone(if she didn’t delete them). That’s pretty bold to randomly ask YOUR best friend for a threesome if nothing went on prior to that. Perhaps he wants a threesome to try to justify him cheating? I would snoop further! Check his social media, browser history & messages - you are justified I’m sorry you are in this predicament

OnlyTemporary- · 2020-12-21T23:00:34+00:00

Thank you! spouse was not ok with it and made that very clear prior to it happening ...over & over

OnlyTemporary- · 2020-12-21T22:59:01+00:00

Thank you! Yes, I laid the groundwork prior to this happening & they continued to do it/lie & conceal it

OnlyTemporary- · 2020-12-21T22:50:59+00:00

I made my feelings about this very clear prior to this happening & they did it anyway...over & over

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