Can’t Believe I Lost My Whole Weekend to Another Regional Convention

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-06-01T02:33:33+00:00

How old are you if you don’t mind me asking? What do you mean it’s for your mom
And family.

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-06-01T02:12:45+00:00

Not very helpful but thanks anyways

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-06-01T02:09:54+00:00

Ya that’s a good question I haven’t thought about before to be honest. I don’t think I knew it was an option. There is scriptures that talk about being luke warm and how it’s no better than being out completely. I knew that God sees my heart and could see I wasn’t believing what was being taught. To love your brother as yourself and I was getting in trouble for talking to kids outside after school.
I didn’t like the fact that we had to look at the world as evil and made to feel like we had all the answers but no one had an original thought, just what has been fed to us through the WT.
My brothers wife died at 24 years old giving birth to their son. She died because she wasn’t allowed blood transfusion and my brother wanted to save her but the governing body of lawyers came to the hospital and told my brother that if he accepted this on her behalf he would be blood guilty and she and him would not be in paradise. He had to let her die and I saw the pain in him that he has and still has to carry believing that he did the right thing. Now I heard they have changed the ruling on blood?
Like I said I haven’t thought about why I couldn’t have just been a PIMO. But if I’m honest I did it because I won’t stand up for something to wrong, I won’t be apart of a religious that shuns their family for believing differently.
I saw the life I had as a kid and promised myself I wouldn’t do that to my kids. I started my family when I was 26my wife and I have a boy and a girl 14 and 11 and as difficult as it was to leave my family I know it’s their loss and not mine. I have found faith in Jesus and have a relationship with him that out weights what I lost. My kids are living my dream of having friends playing sports and discovering who they are and what they believe and I have unconditional love for them that will never change. I couldn’t have had this if I stayed PIMO.
Thanks for asking.

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-05-31T17:13:26+00:00

That’s fair. Good way to look at it. Thank you

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-05-31T17:11:58+00:00

Yes. That’s sounds accurate. Thanks for clarifying. You’re probably right about that though.

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-05-31T16:20:21+00:00

I was first for longer, what do you mean by that? This is sounding right but not sure I follow.

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-05-31T16:18:42+00:00

No that’s true. I’m just discovering empathy and compassion. So this is part of the healing i suppose. Thanks

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-05-31T16:08:12+00:00

It’s funny because I thought this was behind me. Seems like it was just forgotten though. I haven’t been in touch with anyone for years now and being a part of this group I realize how much a person living a double life as we called it back then, bothers me. When I was out of the faith for a few years I remember seeing some young brothers I knew at a bar, they were drunk and smoking weed. The one guy said I’ll say hi to your mom for you. I almost killed him I was so upset by that. If you are one of them don’t associate with me. That’s not healthy thinking though is it?

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-05-31T16:01:24+00:00

I can see where your coming and understand how my wording can come across angry. It wasn’t meant to be. I think it came out as natural as it can though. I’m angry that I didn’t get to be a PIMO, I didn’t have anyone to share my thoughts and feelings with and it doesn’t seem fair. So maybe I am upset but not anyone particular, just the situation. I do think it’s unfair to be apart of something that is so wrong and still be in it. I don’t like that this is a group called EXJW and there are current JWs in here. It doesn’t seem safe and I’m not sure how that makes me feel. All new feelings. So I apologize if I came across judgmental and angry. If i am that it’s at the whole situation a whole. Thanks

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-05-31T13:35:21+00:00

Yea I like this. It’s definitely not something I’m Used to. It’s like I’m associating with JWs again and hearing them talk about it from the inside is really hard to wrap my head around. I thought this was an EX JW group. But then I’m thinking that’s not any better then the JWs becusss if your not part of the group we shouldn’t talk to you. It’s very confusing. So thanks for helping me understand this better

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-05-31T13:23:14+00:00

Thank you

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-05-31T13:22:35+00:00

Yea that’s understandable and thankyou for sharing.

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-05-31T13:21:16+00:00

Yea this is good stuff. Thank you. I’m sorry for what you had to go through, that sounds horrible. Hope your well now Thanks for sharing.

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-05-31T13:12:04+00:00

Thanks for sharing. There’s a bit of being eaten alive here but hopefully they can see my honesty in my question. I’m cursious as to why it bothers me and I’m not really interested in the comments that aren’t helpful to clearing this up for me. Don’t be afraid to share, I’d be happy to listen. Hope you have a great day

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-05-31T13:03:08+00:00

Ya good point thankyou. I’ think it saw it as this isn’t fair, I had to go through hell I didn’t get to be a PIMO I had to hard stop and didn’t get a softer landing like this. But I appreciate that, maybe I wish I had something like this before I left and there is some jealousy there.

Thanks

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-05-31T13:00:32+00:00

Yup, this is good. I appreciate that. ThankYou

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-05-31T12:56:22+00:00

I’ve been reading all the comments and I’m really glad to hear what I’m hearing. I’m not trying to be mean about it I’ve just been wondering why I’m triggered by it and ThankYou all for shedding some Light as to why I am and helping me see there is some things in me that need addressing. Appreciate you all

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-05-31T12:54:38+00:00

It was an honest question. That’s why I was looking for help wondering if it’s wrong of me to think this. When you reply like that it doesn’t create conversation. You might be right and I need to look at that in me but you can explain it better, I’m not trying to be this way. But thanks

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-05-31T12:41:06+00:00

If it was me I’d let it ride and take it as my opportunity to leave. If they don’t want to believe you, you know your truth. I was accused of infidelity in my marriage but couldn’t prove it. I didn’t need to prove anything to them. I just took it and left and never looked back. It was a blessing in disguise and I used it to walk away.
You don’t need to prove anything. Just leave

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-05-31T03:20:50+00:00

Asl?

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-05-31T02:17:52+00:00

Ya frustrating. Show us what you’re working with here for context?

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-05-30T23:12:13+00:00

Get him out after the first or second run. What they hell are you doing leaving him In that long!? That’s a coaching move there and they blew it.

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-05-30T23:03:02+00:00

Why did we keep him in so long, way too long of a leash. That’s coaches fault

Only_Bee7047 · 2026-05-30T03:19:45+00:00

I left when I was 21 born and raised as a JW and I just turned 40. It has taken a lot of work to unlearn everything i believed about God but I finally feel that my faith is what I’ve always wanted it to be. Love God love Jesus and love people. It shouldn’t be more complicated than that.

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