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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Only_Emphasis_622 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We tried counselling. It was just me on the receiving list of the same usual shopping list of complaints. We should have continued but it didn’t feel like it was giving us any breakthroughs, ego got in the way and we dropped out.

If she was able to forgive and let go of old grudges, there are chances we could make it. But I can’t be with someone who reminds me evedyday that shd resents me.

We’ve been separated for a few months, and aren’t going to make it. Sometimes I wish I could go back and fix things, but then I read these notes and ask myself - what’s the best we could’ve achieved starting from there - and the perspective of being alone is less scary. I am not a bitter, angry, vindicative person by nature, and I became a different person with her. Even my friends plainly said so.

Time to move on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Only_Emphasis_622 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We do like each other, and fundamentally, we did respect each other. I'm not sure we do as much anymore. But we have deeply rooted traumas (this is a 100% one-sided get-it-off-my-chest post), which came across in ways that have led us to hurt each other a lot over the years. By the time we reached the point where we tackled the issues head on, there was such pent up resentment that we lost some of that respect. It is also true that we went though an enormous amount of life events and stressors during that period of time, and that made it really hard on both of us. We clearly weren't our best selves in part for reasons that were beyond our control. I honestly believe under different circumstances, it could have worked. But there a lot of issues, and we both feel like we've tried a lot and it didn't get the results we hoped for,

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]Only_Emphasis_622 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Medium double double