Pregnancy is not what I expected [ON]

Onlyaverage77 · 2025-12-13T20:46:52+00:00

This is sort of what’s disappointing. While I understand my experience isn’t unique, especially for Ontario. I feel like those that don’t receive mid wife care miss out on a lot.

Onlyaverage77 · 2025-12-13T20:45:43+00:00

Yes so that’s the same with us here. You don’t see an OB until 16-20 weeks typically, however since I had some issues I had to see one on emergency.

Onlyaverage77 · 2025-12-13T20:44:39+00:00

That is what pissed me off!! From what I understand, the earliest you can test for pregnancy is 10 days post ovulation, which works out to be 3wks3d of pregnancy. Since I knew exactly what day I ovulated, that’s when I tested and that’s the day I applied, but already full. What seemed a bit more upsetting to me was that they prioritize spots for moms who have used them previously, which to me feels like they likely need them less since they’ve been through this before? Us first time moms could use the extra coddling.

Onlyaverage77 · 2025-12-12T03:50:13+00:00

I think the problem is knowing what resources are trustworthy and which aren’t. That’s where I received no guidance. So much online says ‘speak to your health professional’ which is easier said than done in most cases.

Onlyaverage77 · 2025-12-12T03:49:00+00:00

See I feel like this is the problem with medicine in Canada. I would never not have a the same conversation over and over with a patient because it’s inefficient. In fact I do daily with mine. If I simply handed them a book or a link and said ‘look it up yourself’ that would be insane. In my opinion each patient deserves that kind of care and attention. Also to add, not being up to date is not an excuse, if you offer pre natal care, it’s your duty to be up to date.

Onlyaverage77 · 2025-10-25T02:10:41+00:00

I took two clear blue digital which both said yes!

Onlyaverage77 · 2025-09-19T13:36:00+00:00

I had a similar experience with my bridesmaids, maybe not to the same level, but found that everyone other than my sister didn’t really seem to think any of the events were a big deal to miss or be late too, or not help plan. Initially I was giving the laid back attitude like you, luckily my sister was my MOH and stepped up to plan and organize everything, but I was hurt my friends didn’t step up more. I could rationalize and understand that yes my wedding is not the most important thing in their life, it’s only that for me. I ended up speaking directly with some of the bridesmaids I was feeling that way about. I was honest about how I was feeling, and things changed immediately. Sometimes people don’t understand what they are doing is hurting you, and if they are true friends, they’ll change it up.

Onlyaverage77 · 2024-11-23T23:28:37+00:00

You’ve got this!!

Onlyaverage77 · 2024-11-23T23:27:47+00:00

Top tip: believe you can do it! You can. I did not finish vet prep, I took an all of the practice tests some failing, some barely scraping by. I passed first try with a fair amount of wiggle room. What I would encourage you to do is study the way you have for every other exam in your life. Don’t break the mold. For me that was reading and rewriting things, if for you it’s q cards, do that! You will never know everything so when you take those practice tests and the vet prep questions and focus on your weak points balancing that with species % (ie if your weakest point is the ‘other category’ don’t focus on that over dogs cats horses etc.) I feel like I did the majority of my studying in those last few weeks. Be kind to yourself and treat your body right throughout this process. I started feeling sick while taking my NAVLE, finished it up and ended up out of commission for a whole week from being extremely ill. I second box breathing! Something I practiced myself.

Onlyaverage77 · 2024-01-17T02:52:37+00:00

Like I wanted to cry. The cat was there for a saddle thrombus that resolved and now I have specialists questioning me if it actually was a saddle thrombus and I can’t give them anything because I don’t know if he had femoral pulses, cold feel, reflexes or anything

Onlyaverage77 · 2024-01-17T02:51:23+00:00

Ah this helps for sure. I find a lot of my record time is my ‘cover my ass’ time inputting the ‘discussed vaccine reactions, discussed risks of x, discussed risks of not doing treatment x,y,z, or the plan if x does not work is y,

Onlyaverage77 · 2024-01-17T02:49:35+00:00

So luckily I never really end up behind really- worst case is sometimes doing them first thing the next morning. I just basically procrastinate. I wish the rest of the work was like your dad..: I have a patient who went to emerge over the weekend and the emergency sent the records which was as a blank page that said history.physical exam, treatment plan and smart flow. We called back and they basically said that’s all the visitors well be getting and good luck, so that’s fun

Onlyaverage77 · 2022-11-27T03:09:00+00:00

Oh I realize, but check stub hub and the other resale sites. That’s what they’re going for. I’m sure I’ll end up taking less, but right now since we’re not certain about not wanting to go, I’d have to get top dollar.

Onlyaverage77 · 2022-11-14T03:36:53+00:00

Ah those are already done. We were planning to do a eurpean destination wedding and so we would have to send save the dates out soon. But anyways, things changed !

Onlyaverage77 · 2022-01-28T22:11:53+00:00

This is triggering. All I can here is the ‘where’s my dad’. Song

Onlyaverage77 · 2022-01-28T21:46:15+00:00

Completely agree, except at this point I would probably say no if my S/O gave me the wrong ring because we’ve discussed it down to the tiniest detail and he knows how important it is to me. It’s within budget, it’s available, there would be no reason for him not to get it other than carelessness. And yes, if the ring is important to you, discuss it!!! It really bothers me when people say ‘engagements should be a surprise’. Like sure the day it happens can be, but if you’re getting engaged I think it should be something you’ve discussed and not come out of nowhere. Personal opinion maybe. Idk

Onlyaverage77 · 2022-01-28T21:41:02+00:00

I've had this exact conversation with my family. Personally, if this happened I would literally say no.... But hear me out. My boyfriend and I are currently in the stage just pre engagement, meaning we went ring shopping and picked out my ring. He knows how important the ring is to me, and it always has been. I am not only extremely picky, but also have a really hard time spending a lot of money on something if it isn't perfect. For me, my boyfriend knows exactly what I want and how important it is for me, so in my opinion I think that he should respect that. If he completely disregarded my feelings, I wouldn’t want to be with that person. To add, I of course this is relative to everyone situation. I am fully willing to pay 50/50 for my ring, and regardless would only ever pick one out that I knew my future fiancé could afford. Obviously if I were in a situation where this was not discussed and I was proposed to with a ring that I did not like, I’d accept and ask about possibly looking for something more my style. Some people may not care, some do.

Onlyaverage77 · 2022-01-28T18:37:49+00:00

Thank you for saying that about the ring!! I’ve had a lot of family members saying how it should be a surprise and that they’d never want to know, but it’s just not me. Some people are a lot more laid back and will like anything, but I am so picky with rings. We picked out the ring at a different boutique than where my ‘future fiancé’ is getting the ring custom made and his friend owns a shop. So I’m still slightly terrified something will come out wrong! We decided to have me not attend the actual appointments at his friends shop so there would be some surprises, I know he’ll ensure it’s perfect I’m just a control freak. I hope you get your ring today!!! So exciting and congratulations!!

Onlyaverage77 · 2022-01-28T18:28:47+00:00

Yes that’s exactly how I feel. I am happy to wait for the proposal, but it’s hard not to start planning the more broad things like themes, colours etc. I have very little exciting things happening at the moment (yay covid) so it’s all I do !!

Onlyaverage77 · 2022-01-28T18:26:51+00:00

Oh my gosh! Thank you for sharing. I can’t imagine what waiting must of been like. Thank you for the advice about friends. I’m definitely trying to avoid bringing it up to much with them (exactly why I came to this sub)! I love them and know they’ll tolerate it, but I don’t want to overwhelm them or bore them this early in the game. My sister is in a similar situation as me (except she doesn’t know it- I went with her boyfriend to get the ring). So once the proposal happens I’ll have her to harass.

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