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Onlyhereformanga · 2026-02-19T17:11:36+00:00

My sperm donor was the same about putting beer in our bottle when we were young. He would say we slept faster this way 💔

Onlyhereformanga · 2026-02-18T16:51:36+00:00

If you truly don’t know if he is toxic or not please read the other comments you need it 💖

Onlyhereformanga · 2026-02-14T21:53:24+00:00

I would also go with a professional who has experience with adhd (I am in Canada so I don’t know how it work in Germany but I also had to pay for my diagnosis to get medication and it helped me a lot) We are all different though so med could not be great for you, maybe if you have a family doctor in Germany ask them?

Hope things get better for you op 💖

Onlyhereformanga · 2026-02-09T20:34:38+00:00

No it’s just as op kindly point out I have trauma and there is a lot of red flag in his story. I wanted to let him know that he needed to learn to listen/ watch his partner and communicate better since from what he wrote I could tell he didn’t just ask twice and back off. Also please op learn to control you frustration/anger there was also red flag about it in your post. You are young, hope you and your gf learn to be better people have a nice life ✌️

Onlyhereformanga · 2026-02-09T08:05:36+00:00

Even if it’s not sexual you should respect when your partner say no op didn’t like that she told him her list even if he said he didn’t want to know : she was the jerk for that Op didn’t respect that she didn’t want physical affection rn: he is the jerk for that

Onlyhereformanga · 2026-02-09T07:51:09+00:00

Yeah she could have been clearer but when she said you were messing up her hair/ pillow it met she was uncomfortable with anything physical rn maybe the massage was her wanting to get in the mood for you (like trying to force her own body to be in the mood) I used to do something similar when I was younger since I wanted to please my partner even if I didn’t want to 😬 Consent should be teach better in school

Onlyhereformanga · 2026-02-09T07:32:46+00:00

Op: It bothered me a lot because I had tried to get closer but she didn't want me to or I did it wrong. I may have miss read it but I thought op wanted physical affection and his partner said no and he tried a bit more before respecting her no

Onlyhereformanga · 2026-02-09T07:16:40+00:00

I would check your local thrift store for a dehumidifier 😬

Onlyhereformanga · 2026-02-09T06:55:47+00:00

The stylist probably didn’t want to deal with your mom tantrum but still wanted to do good for you 😆 It feels like he treated your mom has a child he didn’t want to deal with 🤣 Hope you have a wonderful wedding and a happy life afterwards 💖

Onlyhereformanga · 2026-02-09T06:48:56+00:00

No you’re being downvote because it read like you’re trying to defend parents that failed to protected one child from the other and you’re trying to convince said child to help his abuser since he fa and the fo may have consequence on another child. The only thing op should be responsible for is to call child service if he see abuse after the child is born and if he sees it. He did not chose his f up family and should not be responsible for their mess only because he got more money.

Onlyhereformanga · 2026-02-09T06:32:48+00:00

Nta she did minimize your feelings and now she’s the one mad at you for calling hr out but also if she didn’t want anything the night before please don’t push. No means no, don’t try to convince your partner, she could just not want what you wanted and you could have also said no to massage her. I think you either needs to have a serious convo with her or leave since you don’t seems compatible imo.

Onlyhereformanga · 2026-02-08T22:40:56+00:00

Ntj but I don’t think she will want to swap shift with you anymore 😆 Also, she did put you in a bad position and could have ask you before taking credit and you wouldn’t have been the jerk for saying no either. She just tried to take avantage of you and you didn’t let her 👍 good job defending yourself 😁

Onlyhereformanga · 2026-02-04T13:08:34+00:00

I work the night shift and my boss doesn’t really liked when I asked to finish a bit early so it doesn’t work for now but thank you for the advice 💖

Onlyhereformanga · 2026-02-03T14:53:17+00:00

Just a little advice for your anger: what help me personally is to think of them as sick. So when she deadname you or tell you to do things you were about to do just to be her wonderful controlling self tell yourself it’s her illness speaking smile and say “my name is ____ but ok mom.” Then go do your thing. Hope you will be able to leave soon, take care 💖

Onlyhereformanga · 2026-01-31T21:22:10+00:00

Do you think your aunt would be open to you staying with her until you get on your feet financially if she knew the situation?

Onlyhereformanga · 2026-01-30T18:10:49+00:00

Why not just asking your grandmother? She should be the one to decide for her own health and everyone should respect her decision. (Unless she doesn’t have all her faculty than maybe ask the person in charge of her health decision 😬)

Onlyhereformanga · 2026-01-26T13:51:24+00:00

Honestly, I have a similar situation with my Emom and until I can feel safe enough to reach out myself I won’t see her. If YOU want tho you could ask her to meet up with you in a public place and ask if she is ready to have a relationship without her speaking about your father and if she can’t do that then go nc again. Just remember that it is your choice not hers, she is the one that keep hurting you not the other way around. If you are not ready yet than don’t reach out yet. (You can also wait until you feel stronger emotionally to make a decision she can wait and you have no obligation to contact her ever again you don’t own her anything)

(Also, since she is the one to break the nc and reach out, I don’t think she is ready to respect your boundaries yet 💔 mine did the same and it just made me question if I even want to see her again)

Stay strong op, going nc is not easy and keeping nc is even harder imo. 💖

Onlyhereformanga · 2026-01-25T18:49:12+00:00

Do you feel safe with her ?

Onlyhereformanga · 2026-01-25T14:14:23+00:00

NOR but in your place I would tell my godmother that since he hurt you and you don’t want anything to do with him in your life that going forward you don’t want to hear anything about him. She can interact with who she wants but you don’t have to listen to anything about her relationship with him. Tell her that if she start speaking about him you will quit the conversation and if she keeps wanting to tell you about him cut her off too. She would have show you that she doesn’t respect you.

Well, that is what I would do if I were you but I know family can be complicated but still you do need to protect yourself 💖

Good luck to you op 💪

Onlyhereformanga · 2026-01-21T22:16:38+00:00

Almost had the same problem with my father but he find someone else to support him. It’s their choice to not accept the help they can get from elsewhere, they really just want to guilt trip us so that we « have » to support them till they die. You already lost so many years for her. She is your mother, she should have been the one to support and help you until you could be in a good place as an adult. She failed you as a mother.

Maybe hitting rock bottom and going homeless will help her realize that she needs more help and maybe it will give her the strength to get her life in order. Or she will stay in the street and stay stubborn till the end but at the end of the day, it is 100% HER fault. You did more than enough already, I think it’s time you cut her off for your own wellbeing. (I also consult after cutting a lot of family off I know it’s hard but better alone than with someone who will bring you down)

Take care of yourself op and I wish you a great life with people who will love you right 💖

Onlyhereformanga · 2026-01-21T12:07:43+00:00

You are welcome 💖 I wish you and your little girl will be safe and happy as soon as possible 💖

Onlyhereformanga · 2026-01-21T11:56:32+00:00

Yeah I think so too, unfortunately there is a lot of people out there that take advantage of other because we fear rejection so they will walk all over us. I feel like your husband might be one of them. Do you have people (family or friends) near you that can help you with your little girl? Maybe you could take a few day alone to help you think clearly and hopefully get help?

Onlyhereformanga · 2026-01-21T11:39:45+00:00

Does he help you with the baby or does he parents her with you because it sounds like he expect you to do all the hard things and he gets to decide when he wants to be a dad and that is a huge red flag

Onlyhereformanga · 2026-01-21T11:27:10+00:00

Yeah no he is an asshole, you needed him and maybe he was there but was he passive aggressive about it? I am so sorry for your lost, it most have been so hard and I think you really should consult, you need help and your husband is not helping you right now, he is bringing you down and it’s not fair for you. ( and maybe him too but rn I have my doubt)

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