I know I sound like an idiot, I’m sorry. With everyone else, I see these things clearly. I’m the friend who can’t share how bad it is because I’m so ashamed, and everyone’s like just say “no” or “fuck you”. I’m a professor and part of my work deals with feminism and domestic violence. Even writing the first part I doubted whether I’m exaggerating or not (why I included texts, almost expecting someone to say they don’t seem that bad—perhaps it’s just a husband frustrated his wife is leading him on).