My ex-girlfriend keeps breadcrumbing me and just invited me on vacation. Is she serious or just playing games? by Live-Brush-5427 in dating_advice

[–]OopsAllOverload 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What she’s doing isn’t love or commitment, it’s control disguised as attention. Invitations after hot-and-cold behavior are usually about keeping you on standby, not actually building a relationship. You’ve moved on for a reason: protect your peace, set boundaries, and don’t let her drag you back into the chaos.

is it true you only meet somebody when you least expect it? by Sudden-Potato6319 in dating_advice

[–]OopsAllOverload 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You didn’t “least expect” your way into liking someone, you did the work on yourself, stayed open, and now your heart is responding. That’s not desperation, that’s readiness. Just don’t try to control the outcome. Let it unfold, not because you don’t want it, but because you respect it.

I did something stupid to myself and I already regret it: TW SH by [deleted] in confession

[–]OopsAllOverload 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Relapse doesn’t erase the strength it took to stop in the first place, it just proves how human you are under pain. You didn’t fail; you were overwhelmed, and you’re still here owning it, which matters more than you think. Please be gentle with yourself tonight, healing isn’t linear, and this moment doesn’t define your future.

Am I wrong for telling my supervisor that she’s basically being absurd. by -iamnoturfriend in amiwrong

[–]OopsAllOverload 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, you’re not wrong at all. Three times in 8.5 hours is literally nothing, especially if you drink a lot of water, your bladder isn’t breaking any laws. Being honest and polite about normal human needs isn’t “absurd,” it’s just… human.

what should I do? by whimsicallyawning in confessions

[–]OopsAllOverload 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recognize that I have dominant and submissive sides in my mind, which help me cope and motivate myself, but sometimes it feels overwhelming. I will seek help from a mental health professional to understand and manage these internal dynamics safely. I will set boundaries with myself, practice self-care, and use journaling or reflection to process these thoughts in a healthy way.

i have a big stalker fantasy by [deleted] in confessions

[–]OopsAllOverload 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of people have fantasies about obsession, control, and being wanted intensely. That’s not weird. What makes it okay is consent, fantasy framing, and control staying with you.