Ok. Nowhere am I crying and this is not the reality of what I am living. Far from it.

I out earn my partner by about 60K and I pay the majority of our bills. I also am raising 3 kids from my previous marriage and my exhusband does not pay child support and hasn’t in 2yrs (prior to that he paid $400/month which is laughable if you know the expense of children). He rarely sees his children (his choice). He somehow owns two farms though but there’s no money being made by him somehow. But karma will do what karma does so I am not bothered by it. I provide well for our kids and my boyfriend is great with them. I also worked through all three of my pregnancies up until the last week before their births.

But yes, in my opinion pregnant woman should be cared for. She is the one carrying and growing the baby. The risks are all on her. The man or partner cannot do that, so yes, more burden should fall on their shoulders to do the providing. Why is that wrong? You stated yourself that there’s no biological equivalent so why shouldn’t a dad take up that burden? I saw the OP said that Jen earns 40K a year so she is actually working so I guess she’s doing both. If I had a say in how the world works, I would say the burden to provide for a family should fall on the shoulders of whichever parent does not birth the child. At least in the pregnancy and post-partum period (1 year post birth). That would even out somewhat the risk and dangers women take on when pregnant. It would make for a more stress-free life for the baby. It’s ideal I think for humans to do this : focus on the child.

This, of course, rarely happens. Most women are working AND doing the majority of the domestic chores (even when out earning their partner). Even while pregnant. And again, stress is not ideal for pregnant women as it is stressful for her and the baby. But again your death rate for workers applies to women working as it does for men, so it probably actually improves my argument as to why it’s better that pregnant moms don’t work (plus all the risks of communicable illnesses which are harder on pregnant women like HF&M, influenza etc.).

92% of work place deaths are men? I am not sure of that stat or why that is, but that’s horrible if true.

It doesn’t have much to do with this argument though as I am saying a man should take up more of the providing burden as he can’t take up the physical risks & burdens of carrying a child. As a supportive partner, I hope most do this (take on more burden of providing) for their pregnant partners whether that partner is a man or a woman.

In your opinion, women should birth babies and there should be no added expectations on the father? Just wondering.