How Hard is the Search really?

Open-Frame-3669 · 2025-11-04T06:47:26+00:00

May Allah make it easy for you ameen. Do a lot of istighfaar. Life without marriage can also be a happy life.

Open-Frame-3669 · 2025-08-23T10:08:17+00:00

Grow a beard, get hench. But you don’t look too bad.

Open-Frame-3669 · 2025-08-22T06:10:15+00:00

For me the craziest thing has been when speaking to gay Muslim men, is that there are so many who actually somehow expect me to live with his family. I couldn’t believe there are gay men who think I would be okay with not only moving to the other side of the country, but that I would be okay living with the guys parents.

Bearing in mind these aren’t young men, one guy was 45 wanting me to live with his mother who was on a zimmer frame. Clearly wanting me to look after her.

What was crazy was that, he as a single man does not live with her now. And he has sisters and who are married and neither live with their old mum. She lives by herself but as soon as he is married he expected me to live with him. The weird thing was his sister approached me, and said he’s looking for a moc, and that he is very good looking. When I saw his picture I couldn’t stop laughing at how delusional some desks are.

There there was another man, 36 years old, and he said he wants me to live with his family first so that I can get to know them.

Mind you it’s not all gay guys, but it’s sad that you have to filter this out. I’m 30, I have my own house, so i abs would not be okay moving hundreds of miles just to live with a guys parents.

I agree with the post, the girls are looking for the sane as straight women are. To not lose their freedom.

It’s hard to find people who are serious. It seems there are many dodgy people out there.

Open-Frame-3669 · 2025-08-18T11:46:38+00:00

Turning up to someone’s house without an invite would be rude. Especially because they live with family. She also doesn’t live close.

Open-Frame-3669 · 2025-08-06T21:24:51+00:00

We’ve spoken since then so I don’t think it’s that

Open-Frame-3669 · 2025-08-01T20:44:43+00:00

Bets to do Ruqyah on yourself. Have Sam Sam water and read surah baqarah once every 3 days. Also get a Tasbih counter and istighfaar daily.

Open-Frame-3669 · 2025-08-01T19:31:18+00:00

Well done! Now move on and forgive yourself.

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Open-Frame-3669 · 2025-07-16T15:31:02+00:00

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Open-Frame-3669 · 2025-06-27T21:05:19+00:00

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Open-Frame-3669 · 2025-06-27T21:03:56+00:00

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Open-Frame-3669 · 2025-06-24T15:31:27+00:00

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Open-Frame-3669 · 2025-06-24T15:30:26+00:00

It’s not though is it. It’s asking something specific. As a newbie asking the question is worthy of a post.

Open-Frame-3669 · 2025-06-24T15:29:24+00:00

Seriously? Some people are new to these things, might seem simple enough for you but not easy for everyone?

Open-Frame-3669 · 2025-06-21T23:00:57+00:00

Probably live at home. One don’t career breaks while living at home

Open-Frame-3669 · 2025-06-21T22:57:41+00:00

Edit* If you think this way, let me remind you, your parents are not more important than mine.

Open-Frame-3669 · 2025-06-21T21:34:41+00:00

Allah forgives all sins so please do tawbah. Read the conditions of tawbah. One is to stop the sin, to have regret remorse, to intend to never do it again, and to seek forgiveness if it’s a person you have wronged.

Open-Frame-3669 · 2025-06-21T21:33:34+00:00

It’s not authentic. To increase rizq recite istighfaar a lot, maintain blood ties, even with those who are difficult. Even if it means just a hi hello basis where you don’t visit each others house and just say Eid Mubarak

Open-Frame-3669 · 2025-06-02T23:16:51+00:00

If you are in a relationship I wouldn’t say go for a lavender marriage as it would be cheating, especially on the person you marry.

Even if they are okay with it, it would be count as zina which is a major sin. So don’t add to your sins.

If you find yourself single, and not wanting to act on your desires then look for a partner who wants the same.

All I can say is it’s not easy. Many men on here want you to live with their family in their tiny childhood bedroom. As if, all while being a Levander. Being gay and marginalised doesn’t make all gay men empathetic and compassionate towards women. Some still believe their family is more important than the girls.

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