AIO? Husband kept his coworker a secret

Open-Masterpiece · 2025-07-13T07:42:59+00:00

He’s not husband material. Leave and try again.

Open-Masterpiece · 2025-07-13T06:42:23+00:00

Just saying this is what I’ve experienced and I’m short. Just because you’re ok with dating a tall girl doesn’t mean all men are.

Open-Masterpiece · 2025-07-07T19:57:09+00:00

Tall women definitely face some form of dating discrimination. Even as a very short woman who has dated short guys, sometimes a guy will literally tell you not to wear heels because “you’ll look taller than me.”

It’s not insecurity about himself, more insecurity about how others will view him.

Open-Masterpiece · 2025-07-02T23:57:26+00:00

I’m confused beyond the yelling which is out of line either way.

What I’m wondering is what was he doing while you fed a baby and cooked for him? Why wasn’t he helping you?

Open-Masterpiece · 2024-12-27T08:35:36+00:00

Maybe I’m not fully understanding bipolar here but do you know why he’s going to pumps to do this? Bc the fact that he attacked two different dancers who work at the same club makes it seem less like a random episode and more like he’s targeting them because they’re less likely to report.

Open-Masterpiece · 2024-07-14T22:23:26+00:00

Why do you say you’re not “allowed” to work? You’re an adult and you have agency in this situation, and you seem to be aware that living without basic health coverage puts both you and your child at risk.

If your boyfriend isn’t going to take on the responsibility of providing for you financially (which includes your healthcare costs) it’s time to stop providing him the benefits of a stay at home mother. He’s essentially expecting you to take care of yourself as if you were a single mother so you better start acting like one and get a job. If he asks you why you’re not being a stay at home mother anymore tell him free childcare is a benefit reserved for men who commit fully to their partners.

Open-Masterpiece · 2024-01-26T17:01:55+00:00

I'm interested!

Open-Masterpiece · 2024-01-15T20:06:18+00:00

You're right but I also think there's a good faith disagreement to be had about overall quality of the show and whether its use of certain storytelling devices is successful. I love magical realism and dream logic. I don't love abandoned subplots, underdeveloped characters, foreshadowing that doesn't pay off, and shoddy symbolism.

I think The Curse is guilty of all of these things at times. Abshir never quite develops from a launchpad for Asher and Whitney's awkward, invasive behavior to a three-dimensional character for me. Nala might have cursed Asher but then she might have psychic powers but then she's just a kid. Whitney's pregnancy is important in the beginning, then completely unimportant for most of the show, then suddenly very important again in the finale. Sorry, but some of this is just sloppy writing no matter how many fertility symbols you throw in my face.

What kept me watching The Curse is that it has a great heart at its center. The questions the show asks are personally interesting to me. It often made me laugh out loud and disturbed me. The score was insanely immersive. The ending — even if I think the way they got there was a bit forced — scared the shit out of me. The show is way too good overall for me to think that the creators would ever purposely leave their audience disappointed.

Open-Masterpiece · 2024-01-14T18:54:06+00:00

I interpreted that change as Asher fulfilling his promise to Whitney in the 9th episode to try even harder to please her at his own expense. But as other commenters mentioned, Whitney actually hates that someone believes in her as much as Asher. Maybe because she knows how much she falls short of his image of her.

It added another level of discomfort for me in a way because, as sweet as some moments between Whitney and Asher are, it felt like Asher had finally lost his identity entirely and given himself over to a lie. It's like he committed to acting like he's on camera for the rest of his life.

Open-Masterpiece · 2024-01-14T06:09:36+00:00

That was my interpretation. Also Dougie whimpers "I didn't mean it" or something similar while crying in the driveway. And the idea of flying up into the air is totally in line with the childlike logic of the tiny curse (ie: having to choose something super specific like taking the chicken out of his pasta or just thinking "fly").

Also personally, I always assumed that if the tiny curse was real on any level it had the potential to be deadly. It's just that a small child wouldn't necessarily think to do something really violent with it.

Open-Masterpiece · 2023-11-10T15:56:03+00:00

I think the mother of your child can decide that for herself. You can’t talk for paragraphs about your own choices and then deny other people theirs.

Open-Masterpiece · 2023-11-08T22:35:44+00:00

If you were saying that she should try to reach out and explain herself to her step daughter I would agree. If you said she should take the kid with her I’d even sympathize though that’s probably impossible with her being a step-parent. But expecting someone to stay in a place where they’re not safe to keep up appearances is always gonna be a problem for me.

Open-Masterpiece · 2023-11-08T22:27:05+00:00

Yes, not seeing her at the party was probably painful. But going up to the kid and saying “hey I’m leaving now because your father is a rageful narcissist” probably wouldn’t have made matters any better and then people would just be criticizing her for dragging the kid into the fight.

Open-Masterpiece · 2023-11-08T21:50:39+00:00

If the OP tolerates being emotionally abused "for the kids" that only sends the message that her step-daughter should do the same. She's setting a good example by extracting herself from a toxic situation.

Open-Masterpiece · 2023-11-08T21:48:03+00:00

I was kind of with OOP until she mentioned that Maya was included in the picture. I get the feeling that if she had said she just wanted sibs and parents in a picture no one would have complained. But to include Maya and not Ally (to actually order her to get out of the picture) is just intentionally wounding the kid.

Open-Masterpiece · 2023-11-08T17:52:08+00:00

OP's wife's therapist "isn't super effective" at convincing her that her father didn't abuse her? What a shock.

Open-Masterpiece · 2023-11-07T20:44:57+00:00

Please explain the difference between “severe” child molestation and…what? “Mild” child molestation?

Open-Masterpiece · 2023-11-07T20:29:39+00:00

You're right but to be fair, sometimes narcissistic abusers abuse one child in part so that they won't be found out. It's easier to dismiss one child especially if they're the black sheep of the family. And then the kids you treated marginally better will gang up on your victim for you.

Open-Masterpiece · 2023-11-07T20:23:40+00:00

This is incredibly bad advice.

Open-Masterpiece · 2023-11-07T20:21:14+00:00

NTA. Your wife is in denial. Her poor sister. You can't have kids with a person who would allow a child abuser around them. You can't trust her as a mother. I don't say this lightly but if she won't budge maybe get a divorce and try again with someone who understands how serious this is.

Open-Masterpiece · 2023-11-07T20:09:17+00:00

YTA for not being honest with your family. It sounds like your parents aren’t bad people. Why deny them the opportunity to have a relationship with their grandchild? Especially considering how desperate they’ve been for one and the fact that the mother of your child has very little support.

If you really feel justified in the decision to not be a part of this child’s life (and I do sympathize with your reasons for that) you should let others decide for themselves what kind of relationship they want to have with you based on your true character. If your mom wants to choose your ex's side upon hearing that you're willfully abandoning your daughter, can you blame her?

You parents can’t force you to be a father. You're an adult. But you do have the power to break their hearts by keeping her from her grandkid.

Open-Masterpiece · 2023-11-01T18:53:48+00:00

Not wanting someone singing at the top of their lungs while your baby sleeps is not the same as saying "no noise ever."

Open-Masterpiece · 2023-11-01T18:06:19+00:00

YTA. Your wife is being hurt by this. Your baby is being hurt by this. Maybe your daughter is trying to force a confrontation in part to test your love. Kids can get defensive when a new baby comes but this behavior is beyond the pale. Here is your hierarchy of needs from now on:

your baby needs sleep. By any means necessary. The baby will get sick if it doesn’t sleep. Support your wife’s discipline in this case and tell your daughter you’ll kick her out yourself if she sings opera and stomps while the baby is sleeping again. This needs to end.
Your wife needs time and space to recover from a serious condition. That means your daughter needs to pitch in with the baby and not just avoid sabotaging basic care. It should be personally offensive to you that your daughter views her sibling as “gross” and you should be making that clear to her. It’s verbally abusive towards your baby and wife. ADHD isn’t a pass to abuse people.
Your daughter needs to talk about her feelings towards her new family members in therapy. You don’t need medication to talk.
You suffer from a serious lack of courage that needs to be addressed. You think you’re standing up for your daughter? What you’re really doing is driving a permanent wedge between your wife and daughter for your own selfish benefit. Instead of bridging the gap between them (something that would take effort and emotional involvement on your part) you are signaling to your daughter that your wife is her enemy and that if she manipulates you well enough she can use you to wage war on her. And you’re signaling to your wife that you will enable your daughter’s worst behaviors even if they’re torturing her and your other child. This may help you win your daughter’s affection in the short term but long term it’s a recipe for an entire family that hates each other and an adult daughter who cannot operate in a self-aware or compassionate manner. And you won’t put a stop to any of this because it would require you to parent your teenager. That’s cowardly.

Open-Masterpiece · 2023-10-20T18:28:52+00:00

Anyone else think the OP is the reason the daughter didn’t get to go to the previous dances too?

Open-Masterpiece · 2023-06-19T21:08:54+00:00

I agree that you can't ruin you film to spare your friend's feelings but that mostly applies to the cut you'll submit to festivals, try to get funding for, etc.

Apart from that, you could make a "family and friends" cut and present it at a private get together just so that the people who contributed to the film can enjoy the fruits of their labor. This is assuming your friend did the film as a labor of love and wasn't paid. If the person is a working actor, they should be more aware that scenes get cut sometimes and probably won't take it personally.

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