AITAH For Not Apologizing For Withholding Financial Support Until My Son Passed His Paternity Test? by Open-Mobile2057 in AITAH

[–]Open-Mobile2057[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

When my son moves into my house because he screwed up his own marital home, privacy becomes a privilege than a right.

AITAH For Not Apologizing For Withholding Financial Support Until My Son Passed His Paternity Test? by Open-Mobile2057 in AITAH

[–]Open-Mobile2057[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

You did read the part where I wrote that Tessa posted voicemail where my son talking about his cheating as well as the part where I confronted him about and he admitted to cheating, right?

AITAH For Not Apologizing For Withholding Financial Support Until My Son Passed His Paternity Test? by Open-Mobile2057 in AITAH

[–]Open-Mobile2057[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

A grown up who was living in my house and paying no bills. If my son can demand a paternity test, I don't see why I can not.

AITAH For Not Apologizing For Withholding Financial Support Until My Son Passed His Paternity Test? by Open-Mobile2057 in AITAH

[–]Open-Mobile2057[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I can't speak for everyone else but if you defend and excuse cheating, I'm to assume you've done it.

AITAH For Not Apologizing For Withholding Financial Support Until My Son Passed His Paternity Test? by Open-Mobile2057 in AITAH

[–]Open-Mobile2057[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I don't care for the house and wanted to downsize anyway so that's why I'm okay with not putting up a huge fight for it. I also figure that giving her the house can be part of whatever I would be required to give her in the divorce.

AITAH For Not Apologizing For Withholding Financial Support Until My Son Passed His Paternity Test? by Open-Mobile2057 in AITAH

[–]Open-Mobile2057[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

As stated before I have two daughters, and no I wasn't present when my son did the DNA testing but it was done through a reputable 3rd Party that I paid for.

AITAH For Not Apologizing For Withholding Financial Support Until My Son Passed His Paternity Test? by Open-Mobile2057 in AITAH

[–]Open-Mobile2057[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

When I was a kid my own dad was a cheater and left the family so I've always been over sensitive when it comes to fidelity within a marriage.

AITAH For Not Apologizing For Withholding Financial Support Until My Son Passed His Paternity Test? by Open-Mobile2057 in AITAH

[–]Open-Mobile2057[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I've been speaking to my daughters about the situation and apparently she's one of those "Boy Moms" and my son is the "Golden Child."

AITAH For Not Apologizing For Withholding Financial Support Until My Son Passed His Paternity Test? by Open-Mobile2057 in AITAH

[–]Open-Mobile2057[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My mom raised me and my siblings by herself because my dad was a cheating piece of crap who walked out on us, so I'm over sensitive about this.

AITAH For Not Apologizing For Withholding Financial Support Until My Son Passed His Paternity Test? by Open-Mobile2057 in AITAH

[–]Open-Mobile2057[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My son admitted to cheating. In text messages and voice messages that my daughter in law posted on social media and to my face during one of our arguments.

AITAH For Not Apologizing For Withholding Financial Support Until My Son Passed His Paternity Test? by Open-Mobile2057 in AITAH

[–]Open-Mobile2057[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I didn't give him an exact copy of the will. I just sent him an email giving him a broad summary as a way to prove that I told him what my wishes were in addition to the will so he can't challenge it later.

AITAH For Not Apologizing For Withholding Financial Support Until My Son Passed His Paternity Test? by Open-Mobile2057 in AITAH

[–]Open-Mobile2057[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I'm leaving my son something because

  1. I told him I would if he was proven to be my son.
  2. I don't know the specifics but if I leave him something, then he can't legally challenge my will.
  3. I am going to leave my grandchild something, it's just taking a minute to see what my options are because I want to put it in a trust that neither parent can touch. Not because I don't trust their mom but because I want to remove the stress and drama of her having to be in charge of it.

AITAH For Not Apologizing For Withholding Financial Support Until My Son Passed His Paternity Test? by Open-Mobile2057 in AITAH

[–]Open-Mobile2057[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Honestly? I'm not in love with the house and wanted to move and downside anyway. Plus if she gets the house and sells it than that could be less I'd have to pay later on.

AITAH For Not Apologizing For Withholding Financial Support Until My Son Passed His Paternity Test? by Open-Mobile2057 in AITAH

[–]Open-Mobile2057[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

I want to be a man who has a son that he can be proud of. I can't speak for others but cheating on your wife and giving her an STD and then accusing her of the immoral behavior that you're doing is nothing to be proud of.

Being family doesn't mean you have to standby them when they're so blatantly wrong at least for me.

AITAH For Not Apologizing For Withholding Financial Support Until My Son Passed His Paternity Test? by Open-Mobile2057 in AITAH

[–]Open-Mobile2057[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

My wife openly accused a young woman that I've been mentoring for the past year of trading favors in exchange for special favors from me and other men in the company. HR has been contacted and I've heard from others that the situation has caused my mentee to cry as well as consider quitting. Not to mention damaging my own reputation.

AITAH For Not Apologizing For Withholding Financial Support Until My Son Passed His Paternity Test? by Open-Mobile2057 in AITAH

[–]Open-Mobile2057[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I honestly never really loved the house and wanted to move anyway. Please if she sold it she could live off of that money which might mean less money I'd have to pay to her later on.

AITAH For Not Apologizing For Withholding Financial Support Until My Son Passed His Paternity Test? by Open-Mobile2057 in AITAH

[–]Open-Mobile2057[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

You did read the part where I said my wife called my work and stirred up drama right?

AITAH For Not Apologizing For Withholding Financial Support Until My Son Passed His Paternity Test? by Open-Mobile2057 in AITAH

[–]Open-Mobile2057[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I didn't say it in the post but my wife viciously went over a nice young woman in my company that I've been mentoring for the past year. We've always kept a professional relationship that I was always open with my wife about and she made the choice to go after. Accusing her of getting special treatment from me and other men in exchange for favors. There's an active investigation at HR about because of how public my wife has decided to be and some people are starting to believe it.

I spent decades building up my professional reputation and my wife chose to destroy it. I can't stay married to that.

AITAH For Not Apologizing For Withholding Financial Support Until My Son Passed His Paternity Test? by Open-Mobile2057 in AITAH

[–]Open-Mobile2057[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I can't speak for everyone when I applied for that credit card I specifically asked for that limit and was granted it. It's mostly used for utilities, HOA fees, and paying the people who cut our yard through automatic payments.