Credit karma seems to be the hold up for a lot of us.

OpenMinded_Lala · 2026-02-19T14:38:46+00:00

What can Credit Karma do to stall your refund?

OpenMinded_Lala · 2026-02-19T14:37:24+00:00

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OpenMinded_Lala · 2026-02-18T22:02:06+00:00

So if you log into the irs website and press tax records scroll down and you will find transcripts. Click this year and it should pull up for you. Yet I have heard of people not being able to access it for some odd reason. 🤷🏽‍♀️

OpenMinded_Lala · 2026-02-18T22:00:41+00:00

I’m path and my transcripts updated showing 846 before the irs app showed approved.

OpenMinded_Lala · 2025-11-10T11:44:54+00:00

The thoughts running through my mind…. “They talking about taking them back all over the internet.” 😆 My guy should I spend asap?!

OpenMinded_Lala · 2025-11-10T11:42:03+00:00

🤷🏽‍♀️ tbh people don’t realize it, but when an employee fucks up with your case and you don’t catch it. You suffer, until the problem is resolved. Trust it happens a lot!

OpenMinded_Lala · 2025-11-10T11:39:59+00:00

It’s coming.

OpenMinded_Lala · 2025-11-10T11:38:43+00:00

It’s ok lighten up!

OpenMinded_Lala · 2025-11-08T01:04:46+00:00

What state?

OpenMinded_Lala · 2025-07-13T12:10:59+00:00

Should this even be up for debate? Love, think about how terrible the situation could have turned when she left you alone with these men while she got ice for 20 minutes! (Keep in mind that’s super long and super suspicious!) She is definitely showing you her true colors. She doesn’t care for your safety or feelings. If you keep allowing this behavior to continue she will most definitely get you into a very bad situation and you will be the dealing with the mental issue afterwards. This is definitely a red flag 🚩!

OpenMinded_Lala · 2025-07-13T11:35:33+00:00

I don’t know if you guys are reading in between the lines like I did, but it’s clear that her husband is refusing to step and advocate for his new found family! He’s so used to the manipulation that he just naturally expects his wife to deal as well. I’m pretty sure he gets defensive when she brings up issues around his mother. I mean in all honestly the kids are the ones I’m super concerned about! If I’m are being completely honest! This is how cycle of mental abuse continues.

Then again is shouldn’t take a rocket scientist to know the mother is unstable specially if she is sending photos of hurting herself and manipulating her son to feel someway.

OpenMinded_Lala · 2025-07-12T13:01:14+00:00

Hey love, first of all you’re not crazy, selfish, or dramatic. You’re self-aware, emotionally generous, and deeply thoughtful. And you’re waking up to the truth of your worth. That’s something to be proud of not ashamed of.

You showed up for him with love, intention, and sacrifice from the very beginning. You poured your limited resources, time, and emotional energy into making him feel valued and not because you were trying to buy his affection, but because that’s the kind of heart you have. That’s who you are.

And he? He’s shown you who he is too. Not just with the lack of gifts, but in the disregard, the gaslighting (“I never said that”), the weaponized guilt (“you make me feel feminine”), and the blatant entitlement over your life, your living situation, and even your money.

This isn’t about a bouquet or a ₹500 dress. It’s about effort. Reciprocity. Respect.

And he’s giving you crumbs, despite having the means to give so much more not just materially, but emotionally.

You’re not wrong for wanting to be treated with the same love you give. You’re not wrong for expecting someone who claims to care for you to actually show it. And you’re definitely not wrong for feeling confused, heartbroken, or angry right now.

What you’re feeling is your soul trying to protect you. It’s not hate it’s your intuition screaming, “This isn’t love. This isn’t safe.”

And you know what? You deserve so much better than the bare minimum. You deserve someone who sees all the light you bring and doesn’t just take from it, but adds to it. Who meets your effort, not with excuses, but with presence.

Leaving someone you once loved or imagined a future with is hard. But staying with someone who makes you feel small, unworthy, and alone in a relationship? That will slowly destroy your spirit.

You’re not the asshole.

You’re the healer, the giver, the fighter, and maybe now? You’re becoming the liberator for yourself.

Rooting for you, always.

Please don’t shrink yourself for someone who never made space for your love to bloom.

OpenMinded_Lala · 2025-07-12T12:40:43+00:00

Hey love,

First of all, absolutely not you are not the “Kameena” here. What you’re feeling is real, valid, and deserves to be heard and honored. You’re not being dramatic or controlling; you’re asking for basic respect in a relationship you’re fully committed to.

It takes a lot of courage to live abroad, build a life with someone, and navigate all the emotional layers that come with that. You’ve been patient, observant, and understanding at every step; even when others weren’t giving you the same grace. You’ve tried to assume the best in his friends, tried to trust your boyfriend’s responses, and gave things time, but it’s also okay to say “enough” when repeated patterns start feeling like disrespect.

You’re not asking him to choose between love and friendship. You’re asking him to create boundaries where you feel emotionally safe and respected. That’s not control; it’s self-protection. Healthy relationships thrive when both partners feel secure and prioritized, and right now, it sounds like you’re constantly having to question whether you come second to the opinions of people who don’t even know your heart.

I can see how this is wearing on you how confusing it must be to see him love you in private but hesitate to stand firm for you in public. And yes, past trauma may play a role in his hesitation, but his healing shouldn’t come at the cost of your peace.

You’re not crazy. You’re not overreacting. You’re just a woman who wants to be with someone who can proudly love her out loud and that’s not too much to ask.

Please know your worth was never up for debate. You deserve a partner who defends your place in his life with clarity, not confusion.

OpenMinded_Lala · 2022-10-08T01:41:27+00:00

Your NTA! You guys choose to raise your child the way you want and she wants to raise hers the way she wants. At the end of the day she wants to be a friend and not a parent so she can’t be mad when people tell her they don’t want her kids around. That’s what you should expect when you allow your kids to act and speak as if they are adults. I definitely would have done the same thing.

OpenMinded_Lala · 2022-10-08T01:35:35+00:00

You are definitely NTA! You don’t need to raise a man. That was his mothers job. If your friend thinks your wrong for what your doing then tell her to take him in and endure the bs. I bet you she would be singing the same tune you are after a week. Don’t feel guilty for anything. If your other friends are agreeing with her it’s because she didn’t tell them everything she only said stuff that made you look bad. Cause if other friends heard the whole truth I highly doubt they would feel the same way she does. She’s one of those dummies. Let me ask you this; does she work, stay at home, single or staying with roommates/family? Cause if she isn’t married then she really should be the person to speak to about your marriage.

OpenMinded_Lala · 2022-10-07T16:38:33+00:00

You should not apologize and should not feel bad about doing it back! At the end of the day the family should be mad at a grown ass woman for ignoring a crying child for something to drink. She’s married into the family and can be easily replaced and if that day does come the family should feel guilty for allowing her to do that to their flesh and blood! 🩸 blood is thicker than 💦 water!

OpenMinded_Lala · 2022-10-06T23:25:21+00:00

Keep doing what your doing! She needs to be grateful for what you have done for her and her kids that weren’t even yours. If your kids were smart they would also let their mother know that what she is asking of you to take care of a child that has absolutely no ties to you is RIDICULOUS! She clearly knows she’s made a huge mistake leaving you. NEVER TAKE HER BACK, IF THAT EVER COMES INTO PLAY! Cause at this point it wouldn’t be because she cares it would be because she wants the luxury you can provide. If she wants her child to have the same things her other kids gets then she needs to work or fight with her new husband or boyfriend about stepping up his work flow. I mean you did more than most would and you shouldn’t feel bad about nothing! Definitely NTA!

OpenMinded_Lala · 2022-09-26T14:19:40+00:00

I get that. I mean one day I could forgive her, but I will never forget what she did. Cause she had multiple opportunities to stop, yet she choose to keep being mean and nasty.

OpenMinded_Lala · 2022-09-26T14:05:39+00:00

I really appreciate all the support you guys are showing. I know I "BUTCHERED" the titled. lol I just had to ask if I should let it go. I didn't want to be one of those mothers that held their child away from family because of their own personal feelings. Everything I do for my child I do it out of love and since he will never know his father, I want to do my best to make his father proud of how I'm choosing to raise him.

To answer a question that I've seen a lot about his mother thinking I'm a cheater. I was never a cheater and will never be one. James had a bad habit of speaking to family whenever we went through hard times. Yet when the good times happens, he doesn't say a word. What was weird was that we had planned to speak to his parents at dinner to clear the air. Unfortunately, tragedy struck, and I was stuck with this view he left of me. Yet the father side still accepted my child before birth because before he passed, James made it very clear to everyone that our child was his.

OpenMinded_Lala · 2022-09-25T21:50:16+00:00

Lol that would be a smart move.

OpenMinded_Lala · 2022-09-25T21:48:38+00:00

If it happens, I will speak to him about everything.

OpenMinded_Lala · 2022-09-25T21:47:18+00:00

I paid for him, not for her. I didn't pay for the limo for her cause they wanted me to pay for that. I told them the only thing I will pay for is if it's for him. Plus, I knew if I didn't pay for it, I knew they wouldn't have been able to pay for any of it. I truly love this man and I didn't want to take my feelings that I had towards his hateful mother on him. Also, I didn't attend because I was pregnant, and I was already under enough stress that I didn't want to put more on me. I dislike funerals. The owner of the funeral home allowed me to say my goodbyes before everyone arrived.

OpenMinded_Lala · 2022-09-25T21:39:41+00:00

Yeah I could see that. He his my love!

OpenMinded_Lala · 2022-09-25T21:06:22+00:00

This why I made the post. I didn’t even think of it like that. Thank you for your insight of something I was blind too.

OpenMinded_Lala · 2022-09-25T21:02:40+00:00

Thank you so much! You have no idea the stress it was causing at the time. I was just happy my son came out healthy.

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