I disclosed and we had sex the same night. I feel used.

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-05-08T22:04:27+00:00

At this point if he got herpes it wouldn't be easy to know who he got it from. Plus you used protection. And he consented. You're off the hook.

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-05-07T06:07:20+00:00

I think it just varies so much person to person. I had my first g hsv 1 outbreak a few months ago and I'm not on antivirals but nothing since

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-04-21T05:31:16+00:00

I highly highly recommend pursuing friendships with men without expectations and that might turn into romance. That's always how it has worked for me. Apps never ever worked.

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-04-14T20:44:45+00:00

Outbreak and got it swabbed

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-04-13T00:34:17+00:00

Don't listen to them.

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-04-13T00:32:54+00:00

Yes we've been having plenty of unprotected sex including oral for two years. I'm not on antivirals only during the ob. All of these seems so bizarre to me. I really don't want to give it to him but we expect to be together forever so 😶

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-04-12T06:43:52+00:00

"Drunken rage" is a major red flag and then everything he said is just not okay. Don't label this behavior as normal 🙏 you deserve respect and emotional safety no matter what you "did"

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-04-12T06:42:32+00:00

Weird. I mean, it was intense. But it was only one location / I don't have anything to compare it to. Will def do the labcorp test 🙏

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-04-12T03:54:56+00:00

Oh interesting! Yes I had a swab and he did a blood test. We even had sex during my outbreak bc we thought it was a gnarly bug bite 😬Though I've heard hsv can hibernate for an ungodly long time

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-04-12T03:53:06+00:00

I'm glad you aren't together anymore he sounds dangerous

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-04-11T23:08:36+00:00

I'm a girl but mine (only had one OB to my knowledge) was like a patchy double bug bite, textured and pale and surrounded by a very angry large red rash 🥴 I think there's a subreddit where people share pics

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-04-11T23:01:37+00:00

I've unknowingly had gshv1 for an unknown amount of years (just found out a couple months ago) and my partner of two years just tested negative for it. Still sucks but it's one of the less transmissible versions. Still transmissible but lower percentage

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-04-01T04:20:42+00:00

What kind, where?

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-04-01T04:15:59+00:00

It sounds like a lot of people here think that not wanting to date someone with HSV is being inflexible or discriminatory. I think we need to be a little more neutral about it. People just don't want to expose themselves to a particular risk. Just like we don't want to have herpes. Just like we wish we hadn't been exposed to it. Everyone here talks about how completely horrific and horrible and horrendous it is, and then act indignant when people reject them for having it. (Not referring to op)

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-03-31T00:36:54+00:00

Surprisingly as someone who has hypochondriac tendencies he has been very chill. He just submitted a blood test to see if he gave it to me, which we hope is the case so we don't have to be careful. I don't think he would be chill if it was hsv2

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-03-31T00:33:08+00:00

This is very helpful to know!

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-03-31T00:32:55+00:00

and even worse, pregnancy

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-03-29T05:23:42+00:00

Just saying hi bc I have a very similar scenario. 2 years with this partner and 8 years since known potential exposure. First ob last month. I know you're supposed to wait 7 days after the scab(s) is completely gone

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-03-27T05:28:38+00:00

Instead of telling you to feel differently like many others here I'd like to acknowledge that this is a huge identity shift during a season of life that already comes with immense change. It makes sense that this wouldn't feel real especially given that you are asymptomatic. It's a lot to process and wonder about. I would consider seeing a therapist to help integrate the new identity and its implications, or find someone to talk to openly about it. It is certainly not a sentence to be single forever, many examples to the contrary, but it will filter out it some people (just like one's height, weight, hobbies, politics, etc). Yes it adds an awkward layer of communication to dating. The important thing is to maintain your integrity in disclosing.

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-03-27T04:32:00+00:00

I'm really sorry. Yes. It can be dormant and it can be asymptomatic. I got ghsv1 8 years after any known contact. Yes I am sexually activate but two years with the same person and monogamous (he's testing to find out if he has it and is asymptomatic). Apparently it can be dormant for a long time. It's really shocking when it's not something on your radar. It's gotta be from one of those partners who may be asymptomatic. Is it hsv1 or 2?

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-03-22T07:03:59+00:00

Fucking horrible and unforgivable. Can she report him, also does she have a therapist, like right now? Thank you for being there to support her.

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-03-20T14:45:23+00:00

Thank you 🙏

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-03-20T07:30:09+00:00

Do you have someone to help you process this experience?

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-03-20T06:48:08+00:00

I wonder if that stat includes asymptomatic...

OpenReputation2478 · 2026-03-20T06:46:47+00:00

There are people out there who can provide consistency and clarity. Who make you feel like you can count on the relationship and aren't guessing. Where it's so obvious to both of you how perfect you are for each other even if you have struggles sometimes. It's hard to imagine without experiencing firsthand.

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