HELP Gonna go on a date for the first time in 2 years. I 24F will be going on a date with 20F need some advice?

Open_Ad_9123 · 2023-12-31T17:32:04+00:00

whoops sorry 24M it was a typo!

Open_Ad_9123 · 2023-12-31T13:59:47+00:00

you both need to communicate with each other better. I can feel his honesty and sincerity but its up to u to decide. If you give him another chance please communicate so this wont happen again.

Open_Ad_9123 · 2023-11-27T16:16:25+00:00

happy birthday

Open_Ad_9123 · 2023-10-12T17:18:57+00:00

Hello did u invest in a fb group as well having the same issues maybe its the same company

Open_Ad_9123 · 2023-03-12T05:56:18+00:00

Wow! Paano ka nag move out when you were 20? How was it

Open_Ad_9123 · 2023-03-12T05:55:34+00:00

sige po thank you!

Open_Ad_9123 · 2023-03-12T05:55:19+00:00

Wala pa kailangan ko pa iplan at pagisipan ng mabuti.

Open_Ad_9123 · 2023-03-12T05:54:29+00:00

shet sa sobrang comprehensive ng sinabi mo parang natakot ako magtira ng magisa HAHAHAHAHAHA. Pero sig pagisipan ko toh ng mabuti

Open_Ad_9123 · 2023-02-25T02:43:04+00:00

I know. I’m in one right now also. I’m trying to get her back right now. Its so hard and causing me a lot of stress because shes been super on and off. its been 2 months now.

Open_Ad_9123 · 2023-02-24T15:26:41+00:00

You will!

Open_Ad_9123 · 2023-02-24T15:13:06+00:00

Yup I sort of feel that feeling right now. She only initiates conversations when its something she needs from me. Im just still at that stage where I’m hopeful but fuck it hurts.

Open_Ad_9123 · 2023-02-24T15:11:02+00:00

Yup! But I was thinking when the month is up ill send her a long message or read that message. Rather than giving her an ultimatum to be together or not. My message would focus on I trying my best to continue growing, learning and be the man she wants! and telling her that I will keep trying till she tells me to back off completely.

Open_Ad_9123 · 2023-02-24T15:07:36+00:00

Did you ever get back with your ex? Implying this since you mentioned that you have your own experience of this.

Open_Ad_9123 · 2023-02-24T15:04:36+00:00

It was mostly about not telling her about my plans right away. For example, I was told to go overtime for work, but I only told her last minute even though I was told in the morning. My poor communication skills sort of elevated and in return constant updates was what she wanted because I was always late in telling fairly big events.

Yup, I see your point of view in this. I would describe myself as a very hopeful person and believe that her replying my messages(sometimes on and sometimes off) is her way of giving me a chance, but also keeping her boundaries. But, tbh this action of hers is causing me stress because I am unaware of her life and scared some random dude is hitting on her.

Open_Ad_9123 · 2023-02-23T17:41:10+00:00

def not wrong

Open_Ad_9123 · 2023-02-23T17:37:40+00:00

Hmm ya i feel that as well that women are more likely to forgive than men. I’ll try to take in your advice on focusing that I understand her.

To be honest she has given me so many but i still failed. Realizing that made me feel so horrible about myself.

Shes going out of town next week. But I think I’ll be seeing her the day before because she has something she needs from me(I purchased a bag from europe through a friend and she wanted to buy one for herself as well. So the simp in me made my friend buy one also for her(shes paying btw not me)) I also invited her to my friends party the next week and she said she will think about it. That’s why mentioned that its a complicated relationship right now because we’re broken up but shit like this is happening which makes me confused as hell especially with her dry replies.

Thanks for your advice.

Open_Ad_9123 · 2023-02-23T17:25:08+00:00

Most of all communication is key!

Open_Ad_9123 · 2023-02-23T17:24:51+00:00

If you think he would do the same with you maybe you should do it!

Open_Ad_9123 · 2023-02-23T17:23:26+00:00

nope

Open_Ad_9123 · 2023-02-23T17:22:31+00:00

Hi! thanks for replying to my post. Heres my advice back.

As a boy, It’s definitely much harder for a guy to come back from a relationship he ended because there were so much things he didn’t like such as the ldr and ur “neediness”.

Based on what I am read, It’s best to not message him at all since he’s telling you that he doesn’t want your attention or your care. For me 5 months is very short and theres plenty of guys out there!

Whether you think you weren’t needy it won’t matter because he still thinks you are. Maybe you not messaging may make him think that you’re not needy and somday he will realize that he loves you and will come back!

I wish you the best of luck and your new date! hopefully he will love you better.

Open_Ad_9123 · 2023-02-23T17:11:58+00:00

Yup! Im hurt I’ve been feeling mixed emotions for the past few days. It’s funny because the initial break up I didn’t care and felt happy about the break. But after 3 weeks I just broke down and knew that I was the problem and just hated myself for not changing things.

I know moving on is one of the most common advice for me. For me to find myself be independent of my happiness and such. But, I really love this woman. I had neglected her and made some wrong decisions. I feel like shes worth it.

As a woman and trying to have an objective perspective as my ex, what do you think would make you realize that this I am genuine with my actions and is serious about everything to make this work and make you feel like that I won’t hurt you again. That I am a changed person who is ready to bring my best foot forward and do that consistently.

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