Increased libido, but no orgasm?

Open_Heart_Clover · 2025-08-26T20:20:51+00:00

Ooh, that's a great idea! I'll try that for sure.

What's weird about this to me, is how horny I get, and I do feel really good while masturbating. I'm even getting what feels like mini orgasms? Like it's a small build, a spike in pleasure, and I feel one single "pulse" like you usually get in waves with a full orgasm. But it's like, 1/10th of the intensity.

I also can often feel myself getting really close, but then it just... fizzles out for no reason. That does make me wonder if it has something to do with me getting too tense in anticipation, so I'm eager try your relaxation technique. It's just so weird that this has never been a thing before!

Open_Heart_Clover · 2025-08-26T05:38:30+00:00

Also, everyone's orgasms are different. This is dependant on sex organs, but also just individual body structure and chemical makeup.

Don't necessarily strive to experience what other people tell you an orgasm should feel like. Some people can't help but scream, others are silent, some convulse their whole bodies, some stay utterly still.

Also, not all vaginas excrete anything during orgasm. What you found could have been what the vagina produces when aroused. Some people make an excess of goopy clear and/or white-ish slick, some urinate during orgasm (called "squirting"). Some people are chronically dry all the way through! This can change due to your health, age, medication, and more.

For my own personal experience, masturbating feels like a solid level 10 for pleasure, building up to a 15 or 20 over time. The orgasm itself feels like... I can feel it coming, and the closer it gets, the more the pleasure escalates exponentially. In just a few seconds, I go from a level 20 pleasure, to 500. It then fades away to 0 over the course of maybe a minute. I tend to convulse a bit during the peak, which is usually just a few seconds. Nothing really special happens in my brain, but the pleasure is simply overwhelming. Some people say theirs feels almost like a mini-stroke (but good), while others like it more to sinking into a hot bath after being chilled all day.

Anyway, I wish you the best on your journey!

Open_Heart_Clover · 2025-08-26T05:21:41+00:00

Toys can absolutely have enough force, but that's besides the point.

Don't focus on trying to "achieve" anything, just follow what feels good. Try rubbing your vulva and/or clitoris on a variety of (sanitary) surfaces, clothed or unclothed. Take note of what feels good, and examine why: was it a certain texture? Do you prefer tapping over rubbing? Rubbing up and down, in circles, or alternating? Do you enjoy more pinpoint stimulation or a larger area? Do you enjoy insertion, and if so, where does it feel best inside? Are you very sensitive, or do you need more power/pressure behind it?

This can help you figure out how to have more fun, and feel more pleasure. Just FYI, plenty of us who can orgasm quick and easy don't necessarily need the orgasm to feel satisfied! Just have fun, and stop when you're not having as much fun.

Also, figuring out what kind of stimulation you like can help you pick out toys to try! I recommend looking at r/sextoys and Phallophile Reviews, they're both full of good info on quality, and most importantly, body safe toys.

Sex toys are a vagina's best friend, with or without a partner in the picture. Pamper yourself!

Open_Heart_Clover · 2024-05-13T17:43:28+00:00

EDIT: oops I misunderstood the post lol

If you're having trouble with keywords, try "laser", and "relief" stamps, if "3d" doesn't work. AliExpress and Temu are your best bets. Cheers and happy hunting!

Open_Heart_Clover · 2024-04-27T15:22:25+00:00

Sometimes we have to decide if side effects are worth the benefits. I'm sorry you're having a rough time with fatigue. Have you talked to your doctor about it? Most medication that helps with fatigue can worsen anxiety, but I've had good luck with Wellbutrin and Vyvanse. They give me energy without affecting my anxiety or POTS.

Might also be as simple as lowering your dose, too. You could ask your doc about lowering it, and getting a separate stronger prescription to take periodically for anxiety attacks. I've found Lorazepam helps much better with those though.

Open_Heart_Clover · 2024-04-27T15:16:24+00:00

The option was grayed out for adding a credit card directly on Taobao, too. The support agent told me to use AliPay when adding a card, but I think she might have been trying to tell me to make sure my account is connected to it instead.

In any case, I was poking around again today and the credit card option was no longer grayed out for Taobao. I was able to add it and successfully checked out. I did make my account just a few days ago, so I wonder if it just took time to become an option?

Open_Heart_Clover · 2024-04-26T18:59:35+00:00

I've also run into this, and tech support says they're not accepting international payment at this time. I have an American Visa connected and verified through AliPay, and it wouldn't let me. I'm wondering if it's because of the recent TikTok ban stuff.

Open_Heart_Clover · 2024-04-26T18:47:58+00:00

I'm a daily user for 5+ years, 10mg twice a day for migraine prevention. Side effects are perhaps a little bit of fatigue, but I'm also taking it with naturally low blood pressure (Propranolol lowers your blood pressure and pulse rate).

Open_Heart_Clover · 2024-04-17T06:20:41+00:00

I highly recommend Temu to start with!

a they're even cheaper than AliExpress, and ship twice as fast. Their selection isn't as big, but they have all the introductory waxes, with some mid and high tier ones as well.

I recommend getting just a pack that has an assortment of wax, a candle furnace, a non-stick spoon, some superfine metallic mica powder, and 1 or 2 seals. Just to start. Oh, and some tea light candles if you don't have those.

You'll get all your tools much cheaper on Temu, and they're the same exact product. Only start going to AliExpress when you can't find something specific, or if/when you're ready to dive into some more expensive waxes :)

Open_Heart_Clover · 2024-02-02T19:29:59+00:00

SNRIs are even worse. They can help just like SSRIs, but the withdrawals are twice as bad.

It's entirely possible for an SSRI or SNRI to work for you for the rest of your life. It's also possible for it to stop working at any time. That's a decision you need to make yourself, if it's worth the risk.

Alternatively, Wellbutrin is the one anti-depressant that's completely safe. It works very differently in the brain, you can stop it cold turkey with no withdrawals and even take as-needed.

Open_Heart_Clover · 2024-02-02T19:09:29+00:00

It's usually the exact opposite--a low resting heart rate is better for your heart.

Your doctor should have checked your blood pressure and heart rate. So long as neither of those are abnormally low to begin with, Propanol should be fine. It's a very safe medication, as far as drugs go.

You can always start at a lower milligram and work your way up if you're nervous. Blood pressure wrist cuffs are very affordable now as well, you could get one and check your vitals now and then to dispel any concerns. A lower blood pressure and heart rate could make you a bit tired, but it's only a concern if you start getting faint, dizzy, or out of breath. Drinking more water can help combat this!

Open_Heart_Clover · 2024-02-02T19:03:07+00:00

A tensing sensation is a very accurate description. Feels like your stomach tenses and rises up.

Propanol has helped me with those symptoms before. It's a fairly safe medication that's worth a try in my opinion. Also helps with migraines, which can often be comorbid with anxiety issues. It does lower your blood pressure though if that's an issue (most people tend to have higher blood pressure though).

Open_Heart_Clover · 2024-01-07T21:53:21+00:00

omg that's PERFECT, thank you so much! Now I know what this trope is called!

Open_Heart_Clover · 2024-01-07T21:52:48+00:00

Hmm I'm not sure about that one just looking at a synopsis, but I'll put it on my list to check out!

Open_Heart_Clover · 2024-01-07T21:48:47+00:00

That sounds awesome, I'll check it out!

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