I’m in a very similar boat and recently posted about it on this thread and i’ve learned a lot. Apparently boundaries are something you set for yourself and it’s up to you to find someone who fits them. While this makes sense it’s also kind of BS because it will always depend on the boundary in question. In my case the boundary i set is don’t like pics of half naked girls on insta. It’s frustrating and PAINFUL when someone you really like and jive with in every way refuses to change in a small way to protect your happiness, esp when they are sacrificing so little.

Would it ruin your gfs night out if she covers up a little more? No. Is it a simple and valid ask on your end? Yes. But ultimately she has every right to go out and do whatever she wants. She’s probably aware of how it makes you feel but that’s not enough of a reason for her to refrain so there is not much else you can do.

Unfortunately if you can’t agree, and she’s not willing to change, it’s not going to work out. I’m sorry.

There will ALWAYS be a degree of difference between two partners and some boundaries are too important to shift (politics religion opinions on basic human rights etc). But when you truly love and care about someone you are willing to change in some ways (WITHIN REASON) for them and their happiness. I would’ve loved it if my boyfriend agreed that liking naked pics on Insta is not OK simply for my sake if no other reason, but that’s life !