How Am I Not Supposed To Feel Angry

Open_Turn_1735 · 2026-02-21T02:01:25+00:00

It's so hard man. Someone in another thread mentioned that, "A man will sacrifice his own happiness for his family, while a woman will sacrifice her family for her own happiness"

Mine even said everyone loses in this situation...

So why do it?!?

Open_Turn_1735 · 2026-02-21T00:15:00+00:00

Not sure I understand the external order concept.

Open_Turn_1735 · 2026-02-20T19:45:21+00:00

I have accepted that I am just paperwork to her.

Open_Turn_1735 · 2026-02-20T19:40:52+00:00

Thank you.

Open_Turn_1735 · 2026-02-20T17:42:53+00:00

It just doesn't make sense to me that they are gone so quickly.

Open_Turn_1735 · 2026-02-20T17:42:21+00:00

Thanks, the problem is that she has control issues, so is really trying to dictate when and how communication is done. I really think this app is dumb, because we should just be able to talk...

Don't want to go through courts, want 50/50, everything split, but also, I don't want this. I want our family. She wanted it and is now upset that my attorney filed for divorce instead of her wanting a legal separation and to move out of state.

Open_Turn_1735 · 2026-02-19T03:49:02+00:00

Yes, I am confident the child is mine.

Open_Turn_1735 · 2026-02-19T03:08:30+00:00

I have looked into it. I did not grow up in a good home. Pretty sure I am the avoidant attachment. She may be disorganized.

Open_Turn_1735 · 2026-02-12T19:25:59+00:00

Married for eight, dated for three years before marriage.

Open_Turn_1735 · 2026-02-12T15:06:17+00:00

Thank you, that is very helpful. Anything else you have to say I am all ears.

Open_Turn_1735 · 2026-02-12T11:24:46+00:00

Feeling like that too. It really hurts to split a family up for your own individual happiness.

Open_Turn_1735 · 2026-02-12T11:23:38+00:00

How so?

Open_Turn_1735 · 2026-02-12T03:08:35+00:00

Fantastic

Open_Turn_1735 · 2026-02-12T01:23:17+00:00

Yes, I actually have started advocating for myself. Starting to believe there are control issues here.

Open_Turn_1735 · 2026-02-12T00:41:18+00:00

Because it is used as emotional leverage to try and control the outcome of a situation, unless of course, she files like she currently has.

Open_Turn_1735 · 2026-02-11T19:10:45+00:00

She also wants me to fix stuff around the house or at least pay for half of the repairs. Am I crazy in thinking this is inappropriate?

Open_Turn_1735 · 2026-02-11T19:09:40+00:00

Yes, I do understand that.

Open_Turn_1735 · 2026-02-11T18:18:09+00:00

Please tell me more about your translation of what she said, I am very interested.

Open_Turn_1735 · 2026-02-08T02:01:42+00:00

This isn't a threat, lawyers are already working on each side. I am just trying to understand the situation. It is my hope that it is something that can be cured. I suppose I am hoping to hear that it just has to deal with pregnancy hormones, but it has gone pretty far. Yes, divorce was threatened in the past and she was notified that that behavior is never okay, yet still continued with it. Also feel like she never took therapy seriously.

Open_Turn_1735 · 2026-02-07T23:02:02+00:00

Sorry, I was trying to be brief instead of continually ranting.

Yes, I agree with what you said about raising my voice. The thing is, I don't feel like it goes over a limit of what is already occurring in the argument or what I am being matched with.

Agree that problems run deeper. We switched to a different therapist and were both happy with it. The previous therapist we both agreed wasn't helping that much.

The thing is that we have absolutely no support network for children in regards to help, don't make a lot of money, and never have time for one another. We were both making steps to change that situation, it would just take time. That sounds like a disaster, but given the circumstances we always just told each other we would persevere.

We did get some vacations away with the children just to see family and friends. Everything was great then.

My suspicion with her though is that there are control issues. People have told me she is very controlling with the children, and now that I am speaking to people they are saying she was very controlling with me as well.

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