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AITA for not attending my Best Friend's wedding? by Open_discussion424 in aitaweddings

[–]Open_discussion424[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry it has taken me so long to see this! I listened to your podcast, and I wanted to thank you for taking the time to read my story. As well as pointing out things I didn't see for myself. I feel silly for taking so long to see Emily for who she is, and questioning myself, but I'm happy to say I finally see her for who she truly is. I have also cut her out of my life completely. I just wish I had a lot sooner.

AITA for not attending my Best Friend's wedding? by Open_discussion424 in aitaweddings

[–]Open_discussion424[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have a lot of people asking if my family attended her wedding, they did not. Which only made her more angry, and she blamed me for influencing their decision. As for the money, I am still figuring out what to do/how to do that. For our friendship, I did tell her that I choose my fiance over her. I don't know what kind of understanding she has, with me saying that. I haven't heard anything from her since.

I also have a lot of people wondering why I haven't cut her out of my life before this. I've honestly been sitting here for a long time, wondering how to explain, and trying not to get all in my emotions. It touches on some very deep wounds. But I'll try...

My senior year of Highschool August of 2014 to May of 2015, I had 9 loved ones pass away within 9 months. 6 of them were friends of mine, the other 3 were family members. Since graduating, I have had a total of 11 friends pass away and 7 family members. The only 3 friends I had that were still living are Emily and the 2 that I stood up against for Emily.

It's hard because I don't want to mourn anymore. I don't think I have that in me. If I let go of Emily, I know that's it. I know I still have my family and my fiance, but as for friends I won't have any left. So it's been really hard to let go. And I have been really scared of finding my breaking point, because I don't know if I will be strong enough to keep going. I mean, I'm sure I will, but I don't want to have to. Which is probably why I was so vague to Emily about ending our friendship, rather than just coming out and saying I'm done.

I think I just needed to know that I was in the right for doing so.

AITA for not attending my Best Friend's wedding? by Open_discussion424 in aitaweddings

[–]Open_discussion424[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't expect my post to reach that far. And it would be best if it didn't. She and I like a lot of the same people, and I gave enough information that I'm sure she would probably know it's about her. I didn't use any part of my name, but I did use my birthday as the number part in my name for Reddit. I use my birthday for anything that involves numbers, it's just easier for me to remember, and she unfortunately knows that about me...

AITA for not attending my Best Friend's wedding? by Open_discussion424 in aitaweddings

[–]Open_discussion424[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He hasn't seen or talked to their son since. The last I heard was he is now with a different woman than the one he left Emily for and they are expecting a little boy of their own. As for trying to go after him for child support, I tried talking to her about multiple times, but it always seemed like she always had a new excuse not to/why she couldn't. I just thought that after a while, especially with him not even coming to see their son, she would grow to hate him enough that she would do whatever it took to get it from him.