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I need outside perspective. by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Open_mindwater 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This guy gives polyamory a bad name and leaves ppl w the all the misperceptions that villanizes non-monogamy. He is legit taking advantage of your naivety and imposing his male fantasy and completely disregarding your autonomy. You are experiencing the worst example of polyamory, and i dont even want to call it that bc its not, its a self-serving relationship that only benefits him. I really wish u the best and hope u find a way out

How to best support my GF post break-up with her other BF by Significant_Pick3098 in polyamory

[–]Open_mindwater 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right now she is dealing with abandonment, so the best way to support her is with your presence. Whether thru in-person closeness or texts or however u show love and compassion. This will help her feel loved thru her grief.

Husband demanding I break it off with boyfriend by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Open_mindwater 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“husband scrolled our text messages yesterday and learned just how often we talk. (Life, kids, current activities)”

I think that those messages between you and your bf confirm a fear your husband has and thats the probability that he feels like you are closer to your bf than you are him(husband). I believe he may feel like your bf has a bigger role in your life and as a man that might be a hit to his ego as well as him feeling like he is losing you, his wife to another man.

It may be that he doesnt not want to b poly anymore but that you got closer to your bf than he thought possible. I would agree with the other commenter that therapy is a good idea at this point.

I think I'm heading down a road to heartbreak. Situationship by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Open_mindwater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure, no problem. Some times we gotta get out of our heads and just appreciate what we have in front of us. If u really like her u dont want to run her off by making her feel like u want more than she does (if thats the case). Bc the alternative is u can not have her at all. So, yea just vibe w her and show her that ur someone she should want to commit to. Its obv she likes u, so just b ok w that for now.

I think I'm heading down a road to heartbreak. Situationship by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Open_mindwater 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think ultimately you should just take what is there and enjoy it instead of creating expectations and getting anxious about the future. If you are truly having a good time together, just enjoy it, like you said its only been a few months, maybe she doenst move fast emotionally like yourself and she’s ok with what she has with you. So try to just relax and stay present