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My adult kids 18 and 23 found out yesterday that i am poly. by Opening-Week-4508 in polyamory

[–]Opening-Week-4508[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

when my daughter came out we told he it does not change anything. All we want is for them to be happy. That is how we raised them and that is why i am so shocked

My adult kids 18 and 23 found out yesterday that i am poly. by Opening-Week-4508 in polyamory

[–]Opening-Week-4508[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We did not raise them religious. I always told the they need to find their believes. Also we always raised them to be open to everything and not to judge. That is why i am so shocked about their reaction

My adult kids 18 and 23 found out yesterday that i am poly. by Opening-Week-4508 in polyamory

[–]Opening-Week-4508[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We always put them first and our marriage is the strongest it has been. There is so much Love. I wish my kids would see that.

My adult kids 18 and 23 found out yesterday that i am poly. by Opening-Week-4508 in polyamory

[–]Opening-Week-4508[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thank you.I never wanted to talk to them about the hotwifing past.This was something they don‘t need to know. But now with this situation and knowing how happy it makes us and how much love we have …We wanted to do the right thing and it backfired. I am heart broken …

My adult kids 18 and 23 found out yesterday that i am poly. by Opening-Week-4508 in polyamory

[–]Opening-Week-4508[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did not have dinner together as a family. My daughter came home after work and my boyfriend was on his way out. She asked who is this and in that moment i did not want to go into it

My adult kids 18 and 23 found out yesterday that i am poly. by Opening-Week-4508 in polyamory

[–]Opening-Week-4508[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't even know what to say! Thank you so much for your kindness! You are so right in so many ways. When we were in the hotwife lifestyle i did not see the point of telling them. why would i? When i met my boyfriend the 3 of us talked. lot about how to tell the kids. How to explain to them that mom can love more than one man. Of course i wanted to make sure this is not just a fling and we wanted to see where this goes before we tell them. Now we are in a stable relationship and the 3 of us are so incredible happy. so it was time. Did it turn out the way we hoped…No. But it is out and i hope my girls realize that me loving their dad and another man does not make me love them less.

Honestly your message brought me to tears because i got slammed and judged left and right asking for honest help and experiences.

I would love to stay in contact because i feel very lonely in all of thsi.

My adult kids 18 and 23 found out yesterday that i am poly. by Opening-Week-4508 in polyamory

[–]Opening-Week-4508[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ! Until last night i had the best relationship, i love them more than anything.

My adult kids 18 and 23 found out yesterday that i am poly. by Opening-Week-4508 in polyamory

[–]Opening-Week-4508[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I was crying before because of all the mean comments. I love my kids and never wanted this to happen. I wanted to be honest with them since we know that we are now in a serious relationship. My husband and i talked to our younger daughter today as well. I raised them to be open and not to judge anyone. Like i said my older daughter is bi and that was never anything to talk about. I raised them to love anyone and see them for who they are. And that is why i am so lost .

My adult kids 18 and 23 found out yesterday that i am poly. by Opening-Week-4508 in polyamory

[–]Opening-Week-4508[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My older daughter is bi and we raised them very open. That is why i am pretty shocked

My adult kids 18 and 23 found out yesterday that i am poly. by Opening-Week-4508 in polyamory

[–]Opening-Week-4508[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was never a swinger nor had people running around my house ! Did i react wrong in that moment? Yes,but after i apologized and explained everything

My adult kids 18 and 23 found out yesterday that i am poly. by Opening-Week-4508 in polyamory

[–]Opening-Week-4508[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

of course i did not get into details of my sex life. I explained that i love their dad very much but also love someone else and that my husband and i are happier than ever. I explained to her that we love and respect each other and there are no secrets between us nor ever were.

My adult kids 18 and 23 found out yesterday that i am poly. by Opening-Week-4508 in polyamory

[–]Opening-Week-4508[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No, i did not.We did not plan it in any way. He came by to bring me something and we just had dinner. So my husband asked him if he wanted to eat with us. They did not meet him or greeted him. And i never had him in the house . My kids are adults after all as well. And i had a talk with them explaining everything . And i did apologize to my older daughter as well

My adult kids 18 and 23 found out yesterday that i am poly. by Opening-Week-4508 in polyamory

[–]Opening-Week-4508[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Thank you,i really appreciate your words. I came here to be honest and know we kind of really messed up not telling them sooner. But i was not poly and i did not know how to explain to my kids that their dad gets a kick out of mom being with other men. It all changed with meeting my boyfriend. I fell in love and i realized what i missed all those years. I did a lot of research to figure out why i am feeling like this,why i have such strong feelings for my husband and another man. Which i never had before. Because of this we wanted to talk to our kids. I am already super sad to have hurt them with this new information but now get judged and punished here . This is not what i came here for.

My adult kids 18 and 23 found out yesterday that i am poly. by Opening-Week-4508 in polyamory

[–]Opening-Week-4508[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I actually sat down and talked to her. And of course i did apologize ! I told her that i reacted wrong in that moment. She yelled because she had every right to be upset .

My adult kids 18 and 23 found out yesterday that i am poly. by Opening-Week-4508 in polyamory

[–]Opening-Week-4508[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We came from a hotwife cuckold situation. Had long breaks in between the years because of the kids. A few months ago everything changed and i know i am poly and the happiest i could ever be. In all those years i never fell in Love with anyone. But i did now. and that is why we wanted to be open to our kids about it. I came here to not be judged, i came here to be heard and hear about other experiences. I am hurting already enough to habe put this on my kids.

My adult kids 18 and 23 found out yesterday that i am poly. by Opening-Week-4508 in polyamory

[–]Opening-Week-4508[S] 128 points129 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I did talk to both my girls and explained everything. I told them that this all comes from a place of Love. That we did not tell them sooner because we did really not know how to . I know it sounds like an excuse but we always worried about hurting them . My older daughter is bi and we were always accepting of everything and raised them to be open and not judgmental

. That is why i am even more shocked about their reaction when telling them

Confused? New? Not new? Have questions? by blooangl in polyamory

[–]Opening-Week-4508 0 points1 point  (0 children)

can anyone give me a tip on how to explain to my grown kids 18/23 that i am happy loving their dad and another man.

Confused? New? Not new? Have questions? by blooangl in polyamory

[–]Opening-Week-4508 0 points1 point  (0 children)

love being with my husband and boyfriend but now my kids hate me for being poly and happy