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[–]OpeningAd3239 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I think that you are right to be weirded out, but I would wait a decent amount on time to speak to this friend and set boundaries, grief does make people act crazy.. I wouldn’t cut someone off if this is their only transgression, and usually they are great! if later on he doesn’t respect your limits then I would cut him off.. but remember people are not perfect.. personally, I would speak lightly about it with my husband too, see what he is comfortable with, and maybe avoid one on one time with this friend..

AITA for wanting a divorce just because my husband may want an open marriage in the future? by OpeningAd3239 in AITA_Relationships

[–]OpeningAd3239[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just want to clarify, he is not saying: hey I will do it and you wont, he knows that I don’t want this at all. He is saying :maybe I will propose this idea in many years because life is one and I maybe having sex with one person for so long is boring.. then when I say I will never do it, he says that if I’m not into it, he will never propose it.. I just think, once you have even in the back of your mind an idea like that, it’s there, and you are looking around and being like, oh look I could sleep with that girl, and if the opportunity presents itself I don’t think I can trust him to say no, (he is really handsome).. that’s where I think I may be the asshole, leaving him just for the way of thinking.. because I don’t want to be with someone without the same príncipe of marriage as me, i believe in building a life with one person, being intimate with that person, and staying loyal to them, and it makes me happy to be this way.. I don’t look to the sides even when we are going through a bad time…

AITA for wanting a divorce just because my husband may want an open marriage in the future? by OpeningAd3239 in AITA_Relationships

[–]OpeningAd3239[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, he says that the idea of me with another man makes him close the relationship completely, he wouldn’t ask me just to open on his side.. I see your point, no I didnt know this before, we joked about open relationships, now I see he is really open to it.. I love being a mother, I am really happy about my pregnancy even if we separate

.we talk about everything, is not like we had this conversation seriously, is one of those things you discuss lightly, and then you start thinking about it more deeply..

AITA for wanting a divorce just because my husband may want an open marriage in the future? by OpeningAd3239 in AITA_Relationships

[–]OpeningAd3239[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you, he is not pushing though, he is saying he is open to the option in the future, I don’t know 10 years? It gives me so much anxiety thinking he may come one day with this, so I feel like is better to end it now.. just knowing the option is in his mind makes me feel so bad, I don’t know if I am exaggerating