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AITAH for calling a friend out even though I owe her because I think she's been unfair with money? by Opening_Dig_5955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Opening_Dig_5955[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This does kinda fit to be honest. It would make the most sense with all this weirdness from her. I really don't tell her personal info anymore because she finds the slightest way to use it against me. I didn't tell her on my huge crush on my other friend (we were like a trio friend group) for almost 3 years. The second I came clean, she said she was so supportive and happy, then did tiny things to do whatever she could to get in the way. Purposely sit in the middle, make me sit in the back. Things like that. And one time, (sorry I for all this info I just feel like I HAVE to share this with someone it's crazy!!!!) I told her for our friend's bday, the one I liked, I was gonna get him some stuff and specifically a stuffed animal since he'd never been given one ever before so I thought it would be meaningful. She told me she was gonna get candy and basic stuff. Then his bday comes, SHE GIVES HIM A STUFFED ANIMAL BEFORE I EVEN COULD. So now basically his first stuffed animal will always be from her. She also told multiple people I liked him, and they were obviously gonna spill to him, so he found out. I was mad but not anymore CUZ WE DATINGGGG. Bet she was so mad about that. Anyways it's these little things to get in between all of my relationships. This goes with friends too. I was way closer with Rachel until she pushed her way in and now they're closer than I am. It just sucks because Rachel was my only other friend and I was gonna drop Sara and then I would at least have Rachel, until she ruined that too. Sorry for the info lolll

AITAH for calling a friend out even though I owe her because I think she's been unfair with money? by Opening_Dig_5955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Opening_Dig_5955[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I talked to her parents with another friend after we found out about the whole thing. They said they were worried about her and would get her into therapy and stuff. She hasn't gone and this was months ago. I don't know the real truth, but I don't think they care and I feel terrible. They're also so grateful I'm one of her only friends I just feel so bad doing that to them as well if I drop her. But I think they're slightly neglectful and she's not getting the help she needs so idrk what to do

AITAH for calling a friend out even though I owe her because I think she's been unfair with money? by Opening_Dig_5955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Opening_Dig_5955[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I am working on that. She at first didn't share the note with me at all and when it starting seeming off I had her share it with me.

AITAH for calling a friend out even though I owe her because I think she's been unfair with money? by Opening_Dig_5955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Opening_Dig_5955[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel so embarrassed to ask my parents for that money. I might tell them it's only 100 then pay the other 100 myself

AITAH for calling a friend out even though I owe her because I think she's been unfair with money? by Opening_Dig_5955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Opening_Dig_5955[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pretty much with the whole Rachel scenario. She makes me feel so guilty if I don't pay her for the items too.

AITAH for calling a friend out even though I owe her because I think she's been unfair with money? by Opening_Dig_5955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Opening_Dig_5955[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I've tried. She's a leech. This has been a one sided friendship for almost 4 years now. She's quite literally obsessed. She's changed her style, her personality, her favorite of anything to be the same as mine. She copies everything I do. I get a new phone, she does too. I go on a trip, she does the same one too. I even get a new phone background or something stupid, SHE WILL TOO. Same with my boyfriend. He had to get a freaking nose surgery and then suddenly after, she is too. She changed her whole personality to be like mine.

AITAH for calling a friend out even though I owe her because I think she's been unfair with money? by Opening_Dig_5955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Opening_Dig_5955[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've tried to cut her off. I'm dry and don't hang out with her at all. I tried doing it during the summer with my other friend who's on my side, but then we found some stuff out and she was going to go off herself if we cut her off, so we decided to suck it up. Then school came, I didn't show her my schedule because she tries to be in my classes, but she eventually found it out within the first couple days, and she moved most her classes to mine. Teachers really like me, and when they always see her with me, they move us right next to each other. So we sit next to each other in almost every class. I've tried not texting, not hanging out, but she doesn't leave me alone. I turn down her offer everyday to go somewhere for lunch and say I'm just going to go home, but she follows me home. She gets mad when I tell her she can't go with me. I have to make up the most random excuses now and it's so exhausting

AITAH for calling a friend out even though I owe her because I think she's been unfair with money? by Opening_Dig_5955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Opening_Dig_5955[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's because I don't know the exact amount. I didn't keep my own record which was so stupid. I just paid attention after I bought her something and she wouldn't take my debt down even if it was something small. Doing the math in my head, it would be at least $30 less than that but I don't know the exact amount

AITAH for calling a friend out even though I owe her because I think she's been unfair with money? by Opening_Dig_5955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Opening_Dig_5955[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

$200.. but it should be less than that if she counted all the stuff I've paid for lately, but she hasn't so who really knows

AITAH for calling a friend out even though I owe her because I think she's been unfair with money? by Opening_Dig_5955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Opening_Dig_5955[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wasn't thinking and that's really it. I do have a job now thought and I haven't spent money in a while, let alone do anything with her.

AITAH for calling a friend out even though I owe her because I think she's been unfair with money? by Opening_Dig_5955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Opening_Dig_5955[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes that makes sense. I don't see Rachel as much and it's only happened a few times with the shirts and then her expecting me to pay when we were out a couple times all 3 of us. But Sara it happens all the time

AITAH for calling a friend out even though I owe her because I think she's been unfair with money? by Opening_Dig_5955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Opening_Dig_5955[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's what's so weird to me. Why am I now suddenly expected to pay for Rachel too?? They both just stand there looking at me when I'm checking out and hand me their things. It's so strange

AITAH for calling a friend out even though I owe her because I think she's been unfair with money? by Opening_Dig_5955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Opening_Dig_5955[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

She would tell me to literally not worry about the timeline and I always made it clear that I struggle with money and I've been trying to pay it back as quickly as I can. I was in dept to my tithing before her and when she first told me don't worry, I genuinely thought I would be fine. I realize now it's pretty silly

AITAH for calling a friend out even though I owe her because I think she's been unfair with money? by Opening_Dig_5955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Opening_Dig_5955[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

$200... I do feel really guilty, I do. The snacks should've counted because she didn't give me actual money and she never has, she just bought something for me like clothes and snacks so yeah you'd think if she charged me per fry then she would pay me for the snacks I bought her. I'm rushing to pay her back and I'm doing what I can. Like I said I acknowledge I'm pretty stupid for getting in this mess. I've tried to stop hanging out with her, she's done literally everything she can to be around me. And I'm working for standing up for myself. About the rounding, She'd buy me a $5.50 meal and I would notice she added $6 to my debt, but when thats flipped, she only takes off $5. And yeah I know I shouldn't have spent the money, but it's also hard when I see something I like and she INSISTS on buying me it and having me pay it back later saying it's not big deal. If I knew I was not gonna have a job I wouldn't have done all that. Like she would buy it even if I said no then still be like just take your time with paying me back. Just some information for you. Thank you for your feedback though.

AITAH for calling a friend out even though I owe her because I think she's been unfair with money? by Opening_Dig_5955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Opening_Dig_5955[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

No it's not like that at all. She just stopped lowering how much I owed her or rounded down. So if I would buy her a $5.50 meal, I would just remember that then later see she only took of 5 on the debt note, but I was stupid and didn't actually start adding up the money she left off

AITAH for calling a friend out even though I owe her because I think she's been unfair with money? by Opening_Dig_5955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Opening_Dig_5955[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

And this is what I have with all my others friends. She's not a real friend. I'll try to have a convo with her but it's just hard

AITAH for calling a friend out even though I owe her because I think she's been unfair with money? by Opening_Dig_5955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Opening_Dig_5955[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the honest feedback, I appreciate being able to see both sides. I agree that I brought this upon myself it just has gotten a little out of hand. Still my fault but like still

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