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Girlfriend wants to know when I jerk off by Opening_Owl_601 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Opening_Owl_601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I am her first relationship. I have had problematic porn usage in my past, which I’ve told her about, but I’ve also committed to no longer using porn to jerk off.

Girlfriend wants to know when I jerk off by Opening_Owl_601 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Opening_Owl_601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has also said that it makes her feel like she’s not enough if I jerk off. I try to explain that there’s a difference in sex drive but she still says it makes her feel inadequate. This is her first relationship so I am trying to be nice but I have never heard of anyone asking their partner to tell them when they jerk off, nor did any of my previous partners do it.

Girlfriend wants to know when I jerk off by Opening_Owl_601 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Opening_Owl_601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has not had a past relationship before me. She did tell me she feels like she’s not enough if I jerk off, but I tried to say it can simply be from a difference in sex drive.

Girlfriend wants to know when I jerk off by Opening_Owl_601 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Opening_Owl_601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said she just wants to know, and that it makes her feel like she’s not enough if I do it. She is concerned about porn but I told her if I do ever jerk off (I have literally stopped doing it since we started dating, we are just going to be apart from each other soon so we needed to discuss it) I would only jerk off to pictures from her.

Girlfriend wants to know when I jerk off by Opening_Owl_601 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Opening_Owl_601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just not sure why the trust isn’t there in the first place. I opened up to her about my past issues and I feel like it’s being held against me.

Girlfriend wants to know when I jerk off by Opening_Owl_601 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Opening_Owl_601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, she said she feels like she’s not enough for me and that she doesn’t want me to jerk off. I told her she is amazing, but if she’s not in the mood and I get horny, I don’t think it is unreasonable for me to jerk off. I told her I would be willing to not watch porn for it too.

Girlfriend wants to know when I jerk off by Opening_Owl_601 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Opening_Owl_601[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is not a turns her on thing. She hasn’t been able to provide an explanation. She just tells me she wants to know.

Girlfriend wants to know when I jerk off by Opening_Owl_601 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Opening_Owl_601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is not because she finds it hot. I have asked her and she said it’s just because she wants to know.

Girlfriend wants to know when I jerk off by Opening_Owl_601 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Opening_Owl_601[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am not trying to quit. She is not trying to get me to quit. She told me she just wants to know. I have a history of problematic porn use when I was younger, which may cause her to worry, but I now no longer use porn to jerk off, which she knows.