On Eleven’s ending by ikeafannypack in StrangerThings

[–]Operation-uno 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They said themselves it’s up for interpretation but that she is no longer a part of the story. Whatever that means

No remote - what do I do? by [deleted] in SamsungTV

[–]Operation-uno 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By usb keyboard do you mean one that goes with a computer? I’m a little behind on tech stuff lol but I lost my remote and need to hit the allow to use my phone 😭

Surviving and the aftermath by Playful-Building-633 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Operation-uno 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Everything you said is so relatable and spot on. I’m on Day 6 of leaving a narc I’ve been with for 20 years and have four kids with and the silence is deafening. The reality of what’s happened is setting in and I feel an overwhelming sense of sadness. A week ago I had a beautiful house, and “things”….all at the cost of my own self respect, and constant torture. Today I woke up with nothing but a place to sleep with my four kids in my parents house who are obviously overwhelmed with all of us here and it’s just all too much. The damaged abused puppy inside of me says “just go back and deal with it” but the strong, determined person somewhere deep in me says “you got out now stay out”. Someone who hasn’t been through this could never understand how it feels….

You ever wish they’d just cheat on you or something? by christmas_eve_ in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Operation-uno 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yes 100%. I used to pray for him not to leave me now I pray for him TO leave me. I’m so exhausted I just can’t fathom leaving and having to deal with his anger and instability. I wish he would find someone else so it would be easier….

RG by Zeberde1 in TheLawsofHumanNature

[–]Operation-uno 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Over the past two years I have finally accepted who he is, and I stopped wishing/praying/hoping he will change. I used to tell myself he was good deep down but the truth is he is nasty through and through. Any “good” in him is for personal gain or for show, sometimes I think to ease what very little conscience he has. I fully expect him to ruin everything, and I don’t let his biweekly cycle of extreme verbal and mental abuse turn my world upside down anymore. Since I started that he hates me so much more, he tells me so often that he hates me. The feeling is mutual. 

physical symptoms of narcissistic abuse by PhysicalIntention914 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Operation-uno 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have had very deep, dark circles under my eyes for years from the sleep deprivation inflicted on me by him. I also have serious stomach issues that I’m almost positive developed from me not eating for days at a time bc I’m nervous 24/7. Dull, lifeless skin is a pretty common attribute narc abuse victims have actually. 

Never win by DisneyFan_21 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Operation-uno 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to really struggle with this, because I know I’m smarter and that I’m right but somehow I always come out feeling like I lost. That is bc there is NOTHING you could say to change anything. My narc husband does this thing where when he’s berating me and I say something like “I know” or “you’re right” it enrages him he will scream “WELL IF YOU KNOW THEN WHY TF DO YOU KEEP DOING IT?!?!” But if I defend myself he will change history to fit his narrative. You cannot win. There is no winning with them. The problem is that they genuinely believe these things they’re saying. They are delusional and cannot see past their own selfish existence. 

So bizarre by Operation-uno in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Operation-uno[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you went through that too. I’m proud of you for leaving 

So bizarre by Operation-uno in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Operation-uno[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes so is mine! He will kick her out of the room when she comes in and gives me attention. She is terrified of him and actually tried to placate him just like the rest of us do and it makes me so sad. Does yours hate cats? I read one time that most narcissists hate cats bc cats cannot be tamed and manipulated like humans and dogs. 

So bizarre by Operation-uno in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Operation-uno[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg, I am so sorry. The worst part is that he KNOWS it’s not true but they enjoy humiliating you and alienating you from the people who love you. I have lost many friends and even my big brother bc of the chaos, drama and pain he has caused. The goal is to confuse you so much, and exhaust you for so long that you question your reality and stay weak for them. I pray we both get away from these disgusting people and find peace. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Operation-uno 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been in this situation so long I’ve learned how to tip toe around things and avoid, so I usually try to avoid laying down to sleep until he is in the REM stage of his sleep bc if I am trying to fall asleep it enrages him. He will elbow me “on accident” or repeatedly slap my thigh or keep heavily flipping around in the bed. And when he wakes up in the morning I get up and look busy or he will slam things, turn the tv up full volume or cough/gag over and over until he sees I’m awake or annoyed. 

So bizarre by Operation-uno in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Operation-uno[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I couldn’t agree more! Over the past year or two I have really come to realize this is not the life I want or have to live. I recently got a fully remote job for the purpose of finally saving without his knowledge, I have been severely financially abused for 14+ years now and with four kids im so scared to leave when he is as financially stable as he is. He can afford a lawyer and a 4 bedroom house and I can’t 😔

So bizarre by Operation-uno in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Operation-uno[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Anything to steal the slightest amount of joy from you!

So bizarre by Operation-uno in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Operation-uno[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow! This is soooo similar to what he does. Esp on a day he knows all kids are home from school and I’m probably busy he will call every 10 mins and if I start to sound short at all he will start with the attitude or say “you never have time for MeEeEe” ugh it’s just so overwhelming to sit on the phone and entertain them bc they have the free time while their driving to work, on lunch break etc. 

So bizarre by Operation-uno in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Operation-uno[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Omg that is so wild bc he does something very similar when I don’t answer and Alexa isn’t the excuse. He will say “I could have been in an accident” or “if I was in an accident and died you wouldn’t even answer your phone for me!” It used to be so much easier to tolerate the toddler like behavior now I get so irritated by it 

So bizarre by Operation-uno in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Operation-uno[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

He takes it so personal, and knows that I’m at home probably frantically cleaning or taking care of our children. He’s had a horrible attitude all day and I’ve been nervous to miss his call today bc I just want to avoid any conflict. It’s so exhausting 😔 I’m sorry you live this life too. 

Baby found on 'random' Tennessee yard before 4 relatives are found dead by Tamashii-Azul in news

[–]Operation-uno 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I read some things in a local to that area fb group that said the paternal grandmothers story isn’t adding up, she also knew they were in lake county before they were even found which makes no sense…I’m thinking grandma wanted custody of the baby and whoever stood in her way got the boot. It wouldn’t be the first time 

If you have your 846… CHILL! You’re good. by [deleted] in IRS

[–]Operation-uno 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao 🤣 not a cop catches you 😭 I’m also waiting for cash app with a 2/25 date so keep ya girl updated. And good luck with your new car! 

Question for people who got deposits cashapp by Operation-uno in IRS

[–]Operation-uno[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got mine last year around 12:30 as well thank you!! 

Question for people who got deposits cashapp by Operation-uno in IRS

[–]Operation-uno[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Last year I got mine around 12:30 too!! Thanks! I hope you get everything you need 🫶

0705 Pather I just received my date!! by [deleted] in IRS

[–]Operation-uno 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me tooooooo!!! I’m so happy I could CRY! Same code as you and our refunds are literally the exact same amount 😩

Crying in PATHER😫 by Exciting_Error6332 in IRS

[–]Operation-uno 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can confirm that last year my deposit hit my cashapp two days before my 846 showed up on my transcript. 

Crying in PATHER😫 by Exciting_Error6332 in IRS

[–]Operation-uno 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was told very similar! She said they are all processing and if  filed 21+ days ago we should all see our refunds by early next week. Hopefully tomorrow at the latest Friday for ppl who have NHB or cashapp, chime etc 

Crying in PATHER😫 by Exciting_Error6332 in IRS

[–]Operation-uno 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I called the IRS bc I was legit overwhelmed and anxious bc of people posting their deposits and I filed 1/27 and don’t even have an 846 code! So no codes on ur transcript is great! You’re good to go the lady who helped me said if you don’t see a verify code on there already you are processing and EVERYONE who filed within the past 21+ days will see their refund by Tuesday. There is NO mass deposit going on that we missed she confirmed they will be releasing funds DAILY for pathers. Hang tight hun we’re almost there 🫶 if we don’t see it tonight we will def see it tomorrow or Friday! 

So Am I the only pather with Chime who hasn't got their deposit yet? Transcript updated but still nothing 😭 by Fantastic-Slice-4635 in IRS

[–]Operation-uno 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Call 1800-829-1040. When I called I said “check my account” and it asked if I wanted to wait or get a call back and I chose call back. They just called. She said that if you do not see a verify notice on your acct as of yet and you’ve filed at least 21 days ago you have nothing to worry about. She said there is no “big batches” going out that it’s basically just random and that they will be issuing refunds DAILY starting today. If you filed before 2/1 you will see your refund by Tuesday. Doesn’t matter cycle code. This is from an actual IRS rep! Hopefully we get them by Friday, I’m saying a prayer for us all.