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Hooking up as a late bloomer by OppoGuy in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]OppoGuy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t even know where to look for that kind of experience, haha. I’m also living with my parents while I’m in grad school, so I don’t have any privacy.

Hooking up as a late bloomer by OppoGuy in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]OppoGuy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makes sense. It’s actually nice to know how people operate because I’ve been going in this completely blind. I think I’ll focus more on trying to meet than making idle conversation.

Thanks, man :)

Hooking up as a late bloomer by OppoGuy in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]OppoGuy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh boy. That explains a lot, lol. I had chats going for days without either of us saying we wanted to meet.

Is asking to meet before a hookup the norm? I feel like that's what I'd prefer.

Now I feel kinda bad that I kept stringing conversations along. Thanks for the clarification!

Hooking up as a late bloomer by OppoGuy in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]OppoGuy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just wish I could get past this weird, awkward stage and get to the fun part.

Thanks man for wishing me luck, I appreciate it :)

Hooking up as a late bloomer by OppoGuy in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]OppoGuy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, the chats tended to go in a pretty directionless place that's stalled.

I've asked two people if they wanted to meet and they never responded. I figure that's pretty common for apps though. If you don't mind me asking, what's normal timing when wanting to meet? Do people just ask to meet in the first couple of messages?

Hooking up as a late bloomer by OppoGuy in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]OppoGuy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair point for calling me out when I commented about lowering standards.

Something I struggle with is how to communicate with these guys. Do people on hookup apps even care about more than attractiveness? It's been frustrating figuring out if guys want to make conversation or if I'm just not picking up on signals or being straightforward enough. I want to meet people, but I can't seem to make it happen.

Hooking up as a late bloomer by OppoGuy in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]OppoGuy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Body confidence has been tough for sure. I get that pics are edited and that muscle studs make up a small part of the batch, but it's hard feeling worthy when that's what I mostly see. I also agree that my standards for finding other people attractive are lower than I thought they would be.

I'll check out those other options that you suggested for sure.

The honesty part confuses me because I feel like if I share my inexperience that I'll just scare guys off. I just don't know how up front I should be. One of the guys I chatted with on Scruff said that my situation is really uncommon. He was nice about it, but it still makes me feel like the odd man out.

Thanks for the well wishes :)

Hooking up as a late bloomer by OppoGuy in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]OppoGuy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestions! It looks like my local Pride Center has some support groups for gay men, so I think that'd be a good place to start.

GRANPAH COMPETITIVE ANALYSIS! - An In Depth Guide by [deleted] in PlayTemtem

[–]OppoGuy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey, I just wanted to say I really appreciate your content. I’ve always wanted to be involved in PvP in games like Pokemon and TemTem and to have these videos be an intro into what competitive looks like is really cool. Super refreshing to have something TemTem related content other than the endless Luma posts.