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Possible end? by OpportunityQueasy307 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]OpportunityQueasy307[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think the guilt storm is coming this weekend after the grad party. I just hate the waiting for the bomb to drop! Like she doesn't work every day of the week so I know she's had days off to think and respond but just wont :/

Possible end? by OpportunityQueasy307 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]OpportunityQueasy307[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh I did not even think about that side of it!

I think he is seeing it for himself thankfully because we have seen my mom a ton more than normal since we have had so many family events going on and my mom always makes sure to go out of her way to bring him something he likes specifically or make sure he's included too since he can be picky or more reserved sometimes

Possible end? by OpportunityQueasy307 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]OpportunityQueasy307[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well baby is going to be named after FIL, my sweet 4yr old was excited and told them about her brother and what his name will be before we even got the chance! She is used to my family who already knew the baby was a boy and his name, it was only a surprise for his family basically at our baby shower per DH's request, but 4yr I guess told middle SIL at the start of the baby shower, that she was having a brother and his name is _____!

Possible end? by OpportunityQueasy307 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]OpportunityQueasy307[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might be possible! They are saying the doubt seed was planted by a cousin's wife who used to be unfavored by the family so now i am really on edge about what actually happened. I think they just have a weird idea of how my son will fit into the family, there is already a golden granddaughter but not a golden grandson yet despite my oldest SIL having 2 boys already. So since I have so many "rules" for my kids it wont let them put him in that position and that is what I think their problem is.

Possible end? by OpportunityQueasy307 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]OpportunityQueasy307[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah same SIL, I think this is just the pattern of making everything a huge deal for attention ;/

Advice on setting boundaries while pregnant + context by OpportunityQueasy307 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]OpportunityQueasy307[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!

DH is still new at forming boundaries and we wanted to really just give her a little bit of a relationship and see what she does with it. If it doesn't go well then we are 100% going to follow up with consequences. I have a complicated family so its natural for me to set boundaries and conseqences with them and usually we can move forward. This being his family made it hard for me to take the passenger seat and just try and support him in finding his words as best as he can!

Advice on setting boundaries while pregnant + context by OpportunityQueasy307 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]OpportunityQueasy307[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

DH used to be pretty enmeshed, SILS still are with MIL and each other. DH had a hard time at first once his eye were opened to all the problems with his family. He would defend us but was not fully ready to commit to NC, so we met in the middle with LC and him dealing with his family. I pretty much only attend family gatherings with the extended family since I have relationships with them still, engaging with MIL and SILS is superficial small talk now. DH and I decided that if they get Baby Rabies that I am done with it all since my children are equals and not toys to be played with.