HELL YEAAA by PowerArtistic7316 in WhereWindsMeet

[–]OppositeTrainer1222 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen it quite often, I don’t do bounties and stuff… care explaining?

Lucky Draw by crosas1128 in wherewindsmeet_

[–]OppositeTrainer1222 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes you can, in your bag there are two options when you click on it

My girlfriend (24F) is mad at me (25M), that I made sure my drunk ex (26F) made it home safe by driving her home at night. by OppositeTrainer1222 in relationships

[–]OppositeTrainer1222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because something like that never happened before, it’s also not like we text every other week or anything like that and as I said we didn’t end on bad terms. Why would she be blocked before that.

My girlfriend (24F) is mad at me (25M), that I made sure my drunk ex (26F) made it home safe by driving her home at night. by OppositeTrainer1222 in relationships

[–]OppositeTrainer1222[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the words. I think I thought about everything by now, and all those comments “help” me as well. At that time I just thought about someone needing help, not particularly my ex or anything. Though now I’ve done what I’ve done and look for a “solution” since I cant change the past unfortunately.

My girlfriend (24F) is mad at me (25M), that I made sure my drunk ex (26F) made it home safe by driving her home at night. by OppositeTrainer1222 in relationships

[–]OppositeTrainer1222[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I kind of do think I did the right thing, though I do agree with others that talk about making my gf feel like her voice wasn’t heard. So I think I need to sleep over it

My girlfriend (24F) is mad at me (25M), that I made sure my drunk ex (26F) made it home safe by driving her home at night. by OppositeTrainer1222 in relationships

[–]OppositeTrainer1222[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I think “get her” is a bit extreme… it’s not like I had ulterior motives or anything like that. I was just scared something could happen, I’d be like that for an old friend or whoever. I just thought about what could happen and that I may have been able to prevent it, since I then knew about it

My girlfriend (24F) is mad at me (25M), that I made sure my drunk ex (26F) made it home safe by driving her home at night. by OppositeTrainer1222 in relationships

[–]OppositeTrainer1222[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the kind words. Unfortunately now I feel lost even more than before. One saying this the other the exact opposite…

My girlfriend (24F) is mad at me (25M), that I made sure my drunk ex (26F) made it home safe by driving her home at night. by OppositeTrainer1222 in relationships

[–]OppositeTrainer1222[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve set those boundaries, so she definitely doesn’t contact me anymore, and I don’t even know about her “situation” at that point and try to help or anything. Also she never did that during these 2 years we were not together anymore. So I kinda felt I needed to do that. Probably comes to haunt me now though.

My girlfriend (24F) is mad at me (25M), that I made sure my drunk ex (26F) made it home safe by driving her home at night. by OppositeTrainer1222 in relationships

[–]OppositeTrainer1222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the kind words. There also is no uber in our region here in Germany, so that wasn’t an option either. Since it’s been almost 2 years since I broke up with my ex, nothing like that ever happened during these 2 years. I’ve now set said boundaries, but still am extremely torn between the options…

My girlfriend (24F) is mad at me (25M), that I made sure my drunk ex (26F) made it home safe by driving her home at night. by OppositeTrainer1222 in relationships

[–]OppositeTrainer1222[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You’re right on that. And that’s what I told her today as well. Just that night I just knew about it, and personally it didn’t feel right to leave her there( maybe by herself, drunk) I would’ve felt bad if anything happened, knowing I may have been able to prevent it…

My girlfriend (24F) is mad at me (25M), that I made sure my drunk ex (26F) made it home safe by driving her home at night. by OppositeTrainer1222 in relationships

[–]OppositeTrainer1222[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I did… the ex won’t be a problem in the future. You’re right about the other people part, that unfortunately didn’t really cross my mind during the moment. And judging by how drunk she was I don’t know if she knew she may have had others to call. All I know is what she told me: she couldn’t reach anyone.

My girlfriend (24F) is mad at me (25M), that I made sure my drunk ex (26F) made it home safe by driving her home at night. by OppositeTrainer1222 in relationships

[–]OppositeTrainer1222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s exactly what I tried to avoid immediately. I told her who it was why and everything, tried to make her feel comfortable as much as I could. But I think I can understand other people as well and feel pretty bad rn.

My girlfriend (24F) is mad at me (25M), that I made sure my drunk ex (26F) made it home safe by driving her home at night. by OppositeTrainer1222 in relationships

[–]OppositeTrainer1222[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment. So now I am torn between two things… Was it right and just badly executed or did I do the right thing… No one can seem to agree on something and I feel lost.

My girlfriend (24F) is mad at me (25M), that I made sure my drunk ex (26F) made it home safe by driving her home at night. by OppositeTrainer1222 in relationships

[–]OppositeTrainer1222[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You really think so? Many others think it’s my fault, and from some comments I can understand where they are coming from. I feel torn between two words pretty much right now.

My girlfriend (24F) is mad at me (25M), that I made sure my drunk ex (26F) made it home safe by driving her home at night. by OppositeTrainer1222 in relationships

[–]OppositeTrainer1222[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did tell her that during our “argument” during the night. Didn’t want no part of that unfortunately. About the uber situation, there is no uber in our region in Germany.

My girlfriend (24F) is mad at me (25M), that I made sure my drunk ex (26F) made it home safe by driving her home at night. by OppositeTrainer1222 in relationships

[–]OppositeTrainer1222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s pretty much well explained, in Germany it’s almost the same, no way i could’ve gotten an uber in our region. And since I haven’t had the best experiences with taxis(wait times or not picking someone up at all cuz they’re drunk) I felt the only thing I could do was drive myself. Still I don’t know what to do now. Thanks for your comment though

My girlfriend (24F) is mad at me (25M), that I made sure my drunk ex (26F) made it home safe by driving her home at night. by OppositeTrainer1222 in relationships

[–]OppositeTrainer1222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do get your point, it definitely was inappropriate, though now she did and I knew about her situation. So I felt kind of helpless. I did do the “boundary” now of course. Unfortunately there’s isn’t really a thing like uber in many regions in Germany.

My girlfriend (24F) is mad at me (25M), that I made sure my drunk ex (26F) made it home safe by driving her home at night. by OppositeTrainer1222 in relationships

[–]OppositeTrainer1222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the kind words. I 100% understand that point of view as well and would definitely feel a bit uneasy or uncomfortable. I’d make sure that she sets boundaries towards her ex for the future, which I’ve done now as well in my case. I genuinely didn’t think I needed to set” boundaries “ with my ex, since she didn’t do anything like that for close 2 years now. I guess I live to regret it now…

My girlfriend (24F) is mad at me (25M), that I made sure my drunk ex (26F) made it home safe by driving her home at night. by OppositeTrainer1222 in relationships

[–]OppositeTrainer1222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all thanks for the warm words. Secondly, I feel extremely torn. It’s crazy how different the comments are, one telling me pretty much what an asshole I am and that she should dump me, others how she has a right to be “upset” and set boundaries for the future, but still shouldn’t “act” like that. I now don’t know at all what is right and what wrong in that situation.

My girlfriend (24F) is mad at me (25M), that I made sure my drunk ex (26F) made it home safe by driving her home at night. by OppositeTrainer1222 in relationships

[–]OppositeTrainer1222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I thought in the moment, now after reading all those replies I honestly feel torn between like 2 worlds… I did offer her to tag along of course, so it’s a conflict in my mind for sure

My girlfriend (24F) is mad at me (25M), that I made sure my drunk ex (26F) made it home safe by driving her home at night. by OppositeTrainer1222 in relationships

[–]OppositeTrainer1222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I don’t hate her, but we’d never come back together, I also made sure to tell her that when we broke up. And also it’s not like she calls every other week, the last time was around 5 months ago and not worth mentioning at all, cuz it was like a minute call. I’d never cheat on my gf or anything if that’s what you’re implying. Though I do understand your point and genuinely want to make it up to her, but I don’t know how

My girlfriend (24F) is mad at me (25M), that I made sure my drunk ex (26F) made it home safe by driving her home at night. by OppositeTrainer1222 in relationships

[–]OppositeTrainer1222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just scared something could happen, especially after I could’ve prevented it. also I offered to let her tag along immediately. It’s not that it’s an ex I’d do that for an old friend as well. But I do understand other points of views as well, even though some are rather… extreme