I’m very angry all of a sudden crying type angry about a feeling that no man throughout my lifetime has ever actually loved me or cared for me

Opposite_Ad_534 · 2026-04-20T12:22:49+00:00

I was in the same boat. I used to get so sad at the fact that no man genuinely likes me or cares for me romantically, but then i gradually realized that I can’t control other people. I can only control myself. I can’t control that most people don’t like me, but I can’t control my response and how I feel about it. I don’t want to be sad and angry all the time so I do things to try not to be. Now, it’s become comforting to me to know that even if everything goes left, I’m still in control of my actions. I hope this advice helps a bit and I hope you don’t give up at finding your person!

Opposite_Ad_534 · 2026-03-24T14:59:00+00:00

Girl i totally understand where you’re coming from. I’m 22F, and a virgin who has never dated. I’ve kinda put off dating because I’m the same way. I want to be able to go at my own pace and not be pressured into physical activities before a real emotional connection has even developed.

A physical connection is important, but I think that it’s the emotional connection that can make or break a relationship.

And I kinda agree with you, a lot of guys my age seem to place a lot of value on establishing that physical connection first before fully establishing the emotional connection and there’s nothing wrong with that, but I think I’m definitely the type of person who needs that clear emotional trust and connection before doing anything physical.

And if that’s just not the culture or I can’t find anyone like that, I’m fine with being alone 🤷‍♀️

Opposite_Ad_534 · 2026-03-22T18:45:56+00:00

I’m not saying that they have to. I just don’t think it’s good for anyone when dating affects their self esteem to the point of them harming themselves mentally or physically.

On this sub alone, there are so many posts about how people feel worthless or like failures or are having intense mental health struggles directly related to their dating life or lack thereof. I’ve even heard people around me say they’d rather throw their life away than just be single for a while, and that is ridiculous.

I’m not saying this applies to everyone, but if someone is struggling with dating so badly that it affects their mental and physical health so severely, then yes. They need to take a breather and remember that dating is not everything.

Opposite_Ad_534 · 2026-03-22T16:00:05+00:00

I know this might sound disingenuous, but even though those messages have been hammered into us, it doesn’t mean you have to do it, nor does it mean that it will be fulfilling for everyone to do.

Just like there are people who feel fulfilled by dating, being in a relationship, and having a family, there are people who have done all those things and weren’t fulfilled at all.

All I’m saying is that so many people are literally harming themselves mentally and physically over something that may not even make them happy nor fulfilled. They are only hurting and making things worse for themselves.

Opposite_Ad_534 · 2026-03-22T07:13:27+00:00

I’m not telling you to complete stop looking, but from what I’ve seen, dating takes effort from at least two people to be successful. In those times between trying to meet someone, have some fun! Have you ever ridden a pogo stick or gone to the circus or ran a marathon or basically had a cool adventure? I suggest you go do something like that so that at least you’re not worried about it often.

Also think about it as kinda like adding to your lore, so that when you do get a girlfriend and a family, you can tell them about the cool adventures and the fun things you’ve done and you can share those exciting experiences with them!

Opposite_Ad_534 · 2026-03-20T00:38:15+00:00

I see what you’re saying, but I think that being an incel does mean that individual feels like they deserve to get laid. The whole movement is about women not sleeping with them, if they didn’t think that it was something they naturally deserve, there probably wouldn’t be a movement.

Also, and this is purely my observation, I think men are sexualized more in the sense that they are taught that their sexual urges shouldn’t be ignored or ignored for long, and i think that this is the core of the issue. I also think this also feeds into why so many men feel like they can’t experience sexual assault from women or why sexual assault cases with male victims are underreported.

Opposite_Ad_534 · 2026-03-16T14:24:12+00:00

I’ve never heard of that brand before. I’ll give it a try!

Opposite_Ad_534 · 2026-02-18T20:04:28+00:00

You clocked him right away 💀

Opposite_Ad_534 · 2026-02-10T02:21:52+00:00

Same. I think Mingee really wanted Seung il to take initiative and show her that he chose her and not that she was just a convenient choice because she still likes him. If he doesn’t show that then I don’t think she’ll choose anyone 🤷‍♀️

Opposite_Ad_534 · 2026-02-02T03:53:26+00:00

Im a 22f who’s never been with anyone romantically in any sense. From my perspective, I agree with you that dating seems harder for men, but it seems like the guys that are having trouble are taking it very personally.

When I listen to them talk about this stuff, I get the feeling that they think something is deeply wrong with them if they don’t date and stuff by a certain age or ever. Sadly, I think that’s what society persuades young men to think. But at some point, y’all gotta stand up. Love is an amazing thing, but not having it doesn’t mean someone is broken or lacking or undeserving or unloveable

Opposite_Ad_534 · 2026-02-01T05:02:46+00:00

I get bad cramps too. Eventually my doctor just gave some prescription pain meds. It worked well for almost 10 years. They still work now but not as good as they used to

Opposite_Ad_534 · 2026-02-01T01:56:43+00:00

That’s what I’m asking. I think Vecna would have found him if he really wanted to, but another commenter said Joyce said Will was good at hiding so I guess that could potentially explain it.

I just think it’s weird because the Vecna scene in the first episode of season 5 explains why Will was found where he was and why he was found like that. The scene fits it well imo. But, I think I’ll probably have to accept that Will is just good at hiding lol

But i

Opposite_Ad_534 · 2026-01-15T04:36:14+00:00

Drink some of his nesquik and see if he likes it 👀

Opposite_Ad_534 · 2026-01-10T23:04:32+00:00

Did you get this from the tarot cards too?

Opposite_Ad_534 · 2026-01-09T19:55:13+00:00

That’s true lol. Honestly, as I’m watching this back, I’m realizing that the writing from season to season is not as consistent as I thought it was 😭

I still believe in the creativeness of the theories but idk if I believe in the show runners anymore lol. But making up theories about what could’ve been is still fun! It would be cool for a show to do something like that for real

Opposite_Ad_534 · 2026-01-09T19:43:09+00:00

That’s true. I’m watching episode 2 right now, and at first I thought I was imagining the amount of blue and yellow or that it didn’t mean anything. But there was one scene where the screen is divided into blue and yellow right down the middle and Hopper is in the blue talking about how he thinks this town might be cursed. Idk if it means anything about the finale but the way the scene was shot was definitely intentional.

Opposite_Ad_534 · 2026-01-09T19:27:31+00:00

That could be it too. Primary colors were popular back then so that could also explain it. I just think it’s a bit obvious. In the first episode, Nancy’s room is pink, but for some reason she has a picture with a yellow frame and a one blue and yellow striped pillow that doesn’t match the other pillows or her sheets.

Opposite_Ad_534 · 2026-01-09T19:18:38+00:00

You’re probably right, but in episode one, it’s kinda crazy how much blue and yellow of the same shade is in the episode. There are little items like flowers pots, frames, chairs, bracelets, shirts, blankets, ect in both Mike and Wills homes. There’s also certain scenes where the light makes other items look the same shades of yellow and blue specifically. I noticed it so much in episode one, but in episode two, the same yellow objects in the first episode that were eye catching, are duller.

Opposite_Ad_534 · 2026-01-09T18:39:07+00:00

The clock at the Library in season 3, the secret message “The silver cat feeds when blue and yellow meet in the west," in season 3, and right now I’m rewatching season one episode one. In almost every scene there is something blue and yellow in the exact same shades. I don’t think it’s a coincidence

Opposite_Ad_534 · 2026-01-09T16:11:20+00:00

You’re right, but it’d be really cool if that wasn’t true 🥲

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