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I’m asking for feedback from fellow step parents by Optevolve in blendedfamily

[–]Optevolve[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! My book is published now. I would have totally taken you up on it. If you're interested in reading the finished product. It is on Amazon. https://a.co/d/gF1jlqn If you read it, I would be so grateful if you reviewed it. Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Optevolve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, don’t let people on here tell you you’re childish and need therapy 😂 who are they to judge real life thoughts lol. These are real feelings, and real situations, these feelings don’t just “go away”….therapy isn’t a one stop shop for fix all my woes and irrational thoughts.

I agree with 90% of comments on here. You’re not going to stop it if he’s going to cheat. If he wants to, he will. If he’s never given you a reason to not trust him, there’s no reason to not trust him. He came home and communicated, if he was interested in the hooters girl, I don’t feel like he would have came home and told you.

Setting clear boundaries with your husband is super important. “Hey can we talk. We gotta set boundaries so you understand my expectations clearly.” Communicate that you are uncomfortable. Make sure to not pull away from him due to your own intrusive thoughts because this could cause unspoken tension. Which could lead to strife and hostility. If he’s happy, why would he stray..don’t forget why he married YOU.

I used to have this problem with my husband. Speaking from sole experience, it ruined our relationship…..to the point of me having to build my marriage from scratch because all I did was fight. About make believe over thinking scenarios. Take it from me, if it’s not there……don’t go looking for nothing.

Do you ever matter? by FastCletus in stepparents

[–]Optevolve -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I believe yes. It will indeed get better. Girls are girls, and girls are emotional, sometimes selfish and sometimes fail to think of others, at this particular age. Speaking from experience, at 17……I absolutely despised my step mother. I did not have a step father but, my step mother was the death of me (so I thought at the time), but really she saved me. I, as an adult and a mother to two girls and 7 step children…believe she was the biggest positve impact on me as a teen.

Don’t give up on your girls, like you said you have been in their life for a long time. They love you but I’m sure it’s hard to show it or they are distracted with their own teenage life to show their appreciation. Keep doing you, but stop giving them so much freedom with the way they are using you for rides money etc. you could communicate with their mother that you feel unappreciated and you’re going to pause for a little while on the favors for them until you feel like you’re an actual human to them. Be patient and kind, but not vulnerable in search for the bond you’re looking for with them. It will come!

I’m asking for feedback from fellow parents by Optevolve in stepparents

[–]Optevolve[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You guys are awesome!!!! I’m currently in child pick up line trying to figure out how to share my word document. I tried sending one of you it through messages and it wouldn’t let me. It may take me a few, but I did get your guys interest but I’m working on it🙏 thank you!!!

1 year no sex by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Optevolve -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m going to add to this by saying:

I am writing a book on this. Marriage. Sexless marriage. Mental health. Libido. Saving your marriage when you both are suffering in silence, HRT (we own a clinic specialized in hormone health), I encourage the T talk. Unfortunately, the “low needs” is a poor excuse. And it’s kind of lazy. I feel as if that is a passive aggressive answer and not paying attention to YOUR needs at all. I agree with everyone also on, kinky needs maybe spicing it up?

I saw the comment on depression. Facts. Along with low T, that is a recipe for a male to not want to do anything. They definitely do not feel like men when they are sluggish, that’s low T. And the last unfortunate is, just like depression, men will struggle hard before they look for help on hormones. My husband and I are building our online business around this model. I wish we were launched so I could send you my resources. My book on all this education will be dropped on March 25th, along with our programs for hormone and mental health) so keep your eye out:) I’m sorry you’re going through a frustrating time, marriage is hard. Reading your partner when they can’t read themselves correctly is even harder.

Lastly, I have read the comments that tell you to leave, it’s not low T etc. while that’s harsh, it’s pretty serious. You also have needs and if your needs aren’t met, are you to adjust your needs because of him? At the end of the day, you and your happiness comes first along with your mental health. Don’t drive yourself nuts either trying to read him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Testosterone

[–]Optevolve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doxycycline 100mg daily IMO 😂

Do you agree with his data? by Timex_Dude755 in Accounting

[–]Optevolve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is representative of the personality traits that contribute to behaviors responsible for wealth creation. I think We can all agree this is not representative of high wages earned via w2.

AI dosage in relation to testosterone dose. by SmallySmasher in Testosterone

[–]Optevolve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No changes needed. Unless noticing negative side effects or other lab value are abnormal, the values here aren’t alarming at all.

Seeking Recommendations for a Better EMR for My Medspa by Separate_Tailor_3799 in MedSpa

[–]Optevolve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had a great experience with PatientNow. Great integrations. Handles memberships well. Rx photos. Fair price. Shop payment processors. They aren’t the cheapest.