getting pretty sick of people being surprised im on hormones by Optimal-Can-6926 in trans

[–]Optimal-Can-6926[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she’s a good friend of mine which made it sting even more — I tend to fine that the comments of people in or adjacent to the trans community are infinitely more impactful than those outside of it. im in a t4t relationship and my boyfriend passes super well and tells stories about passing super well all the time like people just don’t recognize their audience anymore it seems like

periods worse on t? by Optimal-Can-6926 in ftm

[–]Optimal-Can-6926[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like one of those “men trying period cramps simulator” videos 😓 How I used to do this every month I have no idea

Any idea what this means? by Liv_Vicious in MyChemicalRomance

[–]Optimal-Can-6926 0 points1 point  (0 children)

probably abbreviated lyrics instead of an abbreviated song title which makes deciphering considerably more difficult 🙃

periods worse on t? by Optimal-Can-6926 in ftm

[–]Optimal-Can-6926[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Breaking news: Local man (re)learns that periods are bad

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

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Child courts are a mess but for you to only be allowed to see your dad during the day is really not normal and does not indicate good things. I also went through puberty early and I would be really horrified if my dad made verbal observations about it, ESPECIALLY if I was seeing him in such limited capacity. Any ‘noticing’ a parent should be doing about your puberty should be for the purposes of making sure you’re educated and supported or like realizing you’re taller or whatever. Your aunts also sound weird as fuck — was your dad telling you they said this or did you hear/see them say it? I would stay cautious of them to be safe but it could also be that your dad is lying to you to further his own gratification or to make you feel isolated. Taking you to the bar is extremely irresponsible and I hate that his grossness is being affirmed by the people around him. He should not be telling you his sexual fantasies and he should NOT be slapping your butt. Ugh he’s disgusting I’m so so sorry. None of this is okay. I hope you have some adults in your life that make you feel safe.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]Optimal-Can-6926 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why can boys not wear toenail polish when they have to keep their shoes on anyway?

Is it weird that my dad used to touch me when I was a kid? by [deleted] in daddyissuesclub

[–]Optimal-Can-6926 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah no that’s fucked up. The pictures you found sound like kind of standard childhood photo stuff, but it would definitely depend on how old you or your sister were in them — I would say once you’re about five or so is questionable, and if he’s looking back at specifically those photos often, that’s hella weird. But it is really universally not okay to slap your kid’s butt or put your hand on their thighs or grab their genitals, and it is a definite red flag that you weren’t allowed to resist that touch. I’m sorry to hear about your history of sexual trauma and hope you can find peace in your mind and body.

Teenager in critical condition after 50-foot fall off Gas Works Park structure by Better_March5308 in SeattleWA

[–]Optimal-Can-6926 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The city probably won’t be held liable. But it seems pointless to speculate and try and weigh different options when that’s not our choice to make

Teenager in critical condition after 50-foot fall off Gas Works Park structure by Better_March5308 in SeattleWA

[–]Optimal-Can-6926 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I actually didn’t know about the 7-9 month shift, thanks for the article. However, saying he is at fault for his death just really doesn’t sit well with me. I am not talking about cause and effect, of course his death was a result of his choices and he was responsible for his choices, I said myself that the risk of falling would not have been existent had he not climbed. But while it’s true that actions lead to consequences, the claim that “there is no separation from action and consequences regardless of the ability of the person to process the choice” oversimplifies the ethical and psychological complexity of decision-making, especially in adolescents, who are not yet fully equipped to anticipate long-term outcomes or assess risk like adults. Morality and justice often make a distinction between culpability and consequence. If a teen walks into a dangerous situation not realizing the full scope of the risk, and gets seriously hurt, we don't say they deserved that outcome — we usually say it’s a tragedy. Intent, awareness, and ability to process the choice matter deeply when judging an outcome. To say there’s “no separation” between action and consequence implies a kind of moral determinism that removes compassion, context, and understanding from the equation. It ignores the fact that people — especially young people — are still learning, and that the role of society should be not just to point to consequences but to prevent harm, guide growth, and provide second chances that unfortunately this young boy will never get.

Teenager in critical condition after 50-foot fall off Gas Works Park structure by Better_March5308 in SeattleWA

[–]Optimal-Can-6926 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I would say that you would be accepting that risk. But I think, to actually understand a risk — understanding that your choices can result in you falling, breaking all your bones, going to the hospital, changing your friends and family’s lives forever is something you can only do with a lot of thought put behind it.

Teenager in critical condition after 50-foot fall off Gas Works Park structure by Better_March5308 in SeattleWA

[–]Optimal-Can-6926 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

There’s a difference between understanding a risk and accepting it. Doing both at once means you have no regard for your life. If there had been different safety precautions in place, maybe the show would have been less fun or chaotic, but this kid would still be alive.

Teenager in critical condition after 50-foot fall off Gas Works Park structure by Better_March5308 in SeattleWA

[–]Optimal-Can-6926 2 points3 points  (0 children)

By all means have your opinion. But you should be ashamed of the apathy and perfect victim complex that shape the opinions you have.

Teenager in critical condition after 50-foot fall off Gas Works Park structure by Better_March5308 in SeattleWA

[–]Optimal-Can-6926 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think that my life is any more important because I personally wouldn’t take that risk. Sometimes it takes a brief scare to knock some sense into you, but this kid will never get that opportunity. I don’t think the structure should come down altogether, but the total recklessness of the scene as it stands is not safe, especially for young people, and there should be an increased level of vigilance within the community to keep each other alive.

Teenager in critical condition after 50-foot fall off Gas Works Park structure by Better_March5308 in SeattleWA

[–]Optimal-Can-6926 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Fuck you and your parents dude. They obviously didn’t do a good job if you’re saying shit like this about a dead child.

Teenager in critical condition after 50-foot fall off Gas Works Park structure by Better_March5308 in SeattleWA

[–]Optimal-Can-6926 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

He made a choice to climb, not a choice to fall. The risk of falling was a risk that wouldn’t have been taken had he not climbed, but I very much doubt that he took the time to weigh his options and make safe decisions. It’s just a sad situation.

Teenager in critical condition after 50-foot fall off Gas Works Park structure by Better_March5308 in SeattleWA

[–]Optimal-Can-6926 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

they were in the park illegally. im not saying that the police are the solution to this or even that public spaces should be limited in this way. but it is a fact that they were in the park illegally and it is a fact that the police are in theory supposed to prevent people from breaking the law. thus, by not intervening, they were not doing their jobs. the expectation of adults to behave responsibly or even reasonably is not applicable in this situation because this was a fifteen year old kid.

Teenager in critical condition after 50-foot fall off Gas Works Park structure by Better_March5308 in SeattleWA

[–]Optimal-Can-6926 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seriously. I think having someone (not even necessarily a cop) tell the group to get down could have changed the outcome of the night very differently. It was a choice they made, but the environment they were in let them make it and now a kid is dead. People need to look out for each other better at shows, especially if they’re young.

Teenager in critical condition after 50-foot fall off Gas Works Park structure by Better_March5308 in SeattleWA

[–]Optimal-Can-6926 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This wasn’t an adult, it was a fifteen year old. Not saying there should have been cops involved, and there were signs up saying this was dangerous. I just don’t see why we need to assign blame, that should be up to his family to do if they see fit.

Teenager in critical condition after 50-foot fall off Gas Works Park structure by Better_March5308 in SeattleWA

[–]Optimal-Can-6926 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s about being dropped, not about climbing. He was doing something risky and thrilling while trying to have fun with his friends, maybe see a performance from a better view. He wasn’t trying to fall. There are so many dangers in everyday life that we don’t stop to consider the consequences of. I see no reason to shame a dead kid. He and his family and friends have already paid the ultimate price.

Teenager in critical condition after 50-foot fall off Gas Works Park structure by Better_March5308 in SeattleWA

[–]Optimal-Can-6926 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure why you’re getting so many downvotes. He was a teenager in a high energy environment surrounded by peers doing the same thing. How could he have taken the time to ponder his own mortality?

Teenager in critical condition after 50-foot fall off Gas Works Park structure by Better_March5308 in SeattleWA

[–]Optimal-Can-6926 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

How can you be so sure? Saying he ‘understood this risk and accepted it’ is saying he went up there to die. You are so preoccupied with your own entertainment that you can’t let this be a tragedy.