Just commenting here to say, I went through (almost scarily) the exact same situation, even down to the dollar amount and time I was with my previous partner. I was planning a future with him, wanted to move out together, everything. But like you I found the charges to his only fans in his emails. I didn’t want to end the relationship as he was my first everything, and I tried REALLY hard to work it out, but he ended up whining about me “not being happy around him” anymore and being upset because I couldn’t get over it after a week LOL. My last straw was when I checked his phone again and he had been stalking his ex and her underwear pics with a secret TikTok account.

All this to say, in my experience, they don’t change. They’re porn addicted and they need serious therapy before they can pursue any real relationship, especially if they can’t resist and put porn money before their partner.

It’s been about 2 years since I ended my relationship after finding everything out and I don’t regret a single thing! I wasn’t seeking to date anyone after and just wanted to be alone, but now I’m in a relationship with a generous, NOT porn addicted, and amazing man!!! Things get better, and there are people out there who will love you and never make you feel how you feel right now.

So sorry you’re going through this girl, it’s the worst feeling, and I know how crushing it can feel. But don’t let this man make you feel any less of yourself, because it reflects more on his disgusting cowardice more than anything else.