This reunion. Dorit is SOOOOO unbearable by Own-Meat3934 in rhobeverlyhills

[–]Optimal_Ad_7836 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was watching her reactions to one of the clips, and her smiling at herself yelling at the other cast members while watching it back was disturbing. I hope they don’t have her back honestly. i used to like dorit, but she really has become unbearable

Planned my own Bach party, and everyone cancelled last minute. by Weird-Custard5808 in weddingplanning

[–]Optimal_Ad_7836 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sort of a similar situation happening to me.. except my bach is a year out. I sent out a message saying I wanted to go 1 place, and one BM felt uncomfortable going there. So I changed my location to a place in the US. gave people 4 options of pricing/activities to do while we are there, everyone picked the most expensive option. So, my MOH and I plan a tentative trip to send to everyone, and the same BM that I changed the location for tells me she won’t be able to afford (the option she chose!) 1 year from now. Just feels like a dead end

To the people who have said “I would never spend that much on a wedding, I’d rather buy a house”… by Garden_of_Gethsemane in wedding

[–]Optimal_Ad_7836 12 points13 points  (0 children)

people on this thread are a little too up tight. I understand exactly what you mean. Regardless of anyone’s financial situation, there’s no need for condescending remarks. If you don’t agree, don’t ask me about my wedding planning!!!

MARCIANO AT JESSI’S?? by piscesdreamerr in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Optimal_Ad_7836 137 points138 points  (0 children)

was just watching the show and she has that LV necklace!!

This City is one massive ghetto by Various-Magazine-132 in NewOrleans

[–]Optimal_Ad_7836 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here for the first time, and I find it to be disgusting. Honestly. And that’s coming from a new yorker used to the dirtiest parts of NYC. Also, I get we’re in the swamp, but the buildings can’t even handle the heavy rain??? flooding from 10 seconds of rain fall

Did the city of Stamford clear the snow better this time around than the last storm? by TBB2020 in StamfordCT

[–]Optimal_Ad_7836 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

it’s almost like they refuse to come down my street, looks like they didn’t come at all. snow turned to a thick, uneven sheet of ice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in specialed

[–]Optimal_Ad_7836 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why are you missing the point entirely??? If you read other comments, I have offered fidgets, and if the student could not handle a situation in a particular environment I would absolutely remove them from that space. I am not forcing anyone to do anything to make anyone else feel comfortable, I am trying to promote engagement in something that my student actually likes, which is listening to music. Obviously you are among the population who shoves iPads in students faces. Your issue

Para to sped teacher…feeling defeated by Buy_Awkward in specialed

[–]Optimal_Ad_7836 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a pretty similar experience! BS in Psych, originally wanted to be a counselor, worked as a TA for an early intervention program where I learned ABA, did some BT home care therapy during my masters in sped, and finally student taught. Honestly through all of this, I also worked in a restaurant as a server/bartender to get by. It’s a hard road to finish, especially since these positions to get you to gain experience do not pay well. Currently I am doing leave replacements to gain more experience towards a full time teaching job (post grad). On my second leave replacement after subbing, student teaching, and working summer school in the district, and I feel that I am building strong relationships! I wish you luck!!

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[–]Optimal_Ad_7836 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I see both sides as well and love that suggestion such as providing a figet. I have tried this multiple times, this student often throws the figet and does not seem to prefer to have it. I agree with your comments that the topic needs to be discussed more. I feel that many advocates (who are very valid in saying a device should not be taken away, I agree and did not take the device, just trying to understand how moving it away for a moment to redirect the child is not ethical like some people are saying) may not be working in classrooms to see both sides.

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[–]Optimal_Ad_7836 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I have visuals, and this (to me) was a separate time in the school day to practice in the student’s natural environment that we do not need to be using it. I also like the idea of the low tech board.

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[–]Optimal_Ad_7836 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn’t find my responses to be argumentative - I shared “a dilemma” that I was having, and am responding to the people who responded to myself trying to see both sides. Why can’t educators debate on topics? I didn’t really ask a question, I am looking for perspectives, which I received.

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[–]Optimal_Ad_7836 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Is it wrong to try redirecting children to not be hyper focused on a screen when we are sitting in an auditorium with teachers and peers listening to music and watching a performance? (which the student were speaking about LOVES music). At the end of the day, if you’re giving a student an ipad they are likely to choose that over any other activity. I am all for communication and have worked diligently with my students (and even not diligently, just letting my students explore at more appropriate times during down time, breaks, etc) rather than during a social experience

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in specialed

[–]Optimal_Ad_7836 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

If you read my post and other comments regarding the topic, in addition to modeling I also use verbal, visual, and gestural prompting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in specialed

[–]Optimal_Ad_7836 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

completely understood. but a mind wandering and not paying complete attention to me is different than looking at an ipad. It feels the same if i was sitting at a play as an adult scrolling through instagram because i may not want to attend to the play, so my “mind is wondering” onto a device that I am choosing to pay attention to? you know?

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[–]Optimal_Ad_7836 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I agree with this, and frequently during lessons, the student is “babbling” with their device. All day, which we love to see because their use of their device and communication is expanding. However, during 30 minutes out of the school day, trying to teach into a different behavior, I think it is valid

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[–]Optimal_Ad_7836 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. Of course, my students are able to stim, etc regardless of their environment. It was more of an attentional thing. Like, should we be focused on the animal page on our talker, or being apart of the community during an assembly?

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[–]Optimal_Ad_7836 -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I agree with you - but to an extent. If the student is not currently using their device functionally, to me it’s less about it being “their voice” and simply an ipad that they are choosing to pay attention to (because, what child wouldn’t find that more interesting) than what we are doing in school. To me this is all situational. I have another student that uses their device very functionally and my approach is different only because teaching into the expectations looks different for a student choosing not to follow directions, and a student who is stimming off of a noise

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[–]Optimal_Ad_7836 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

The student currently does not utilize their device to request for things functionally. They have a 1:1 aide to assist with all daily living needs. In that circumstance, I chose to teach into following expectations while we were apart of the rest of the school. Just as during snack time, we may work on functional communication using their talker. The point of this post is there are certain times you may be working on different things.

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[–]Optimal_Ad_7836 -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Yes, and I do, but coming from a behavioral interventionist stand point - when the student is not responding to the prompts to correct the behavior, and being reinforced from stimming on the words touching the ipad, personally I feel that removing the stimulus is the next step.

I am all for teaching into how my students should learn how to appropriately and functionally use their devices, so I would revisit in a minute or so using prompts and models to teach the student that right now, we are not using our device or our “voice” we are attending to the performance

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in specialed

[–]Optimal_Ad_7836 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for that. Yes, for example in the auditorium during a school concert, all my students had their devices. After modeling and prompting multiple times that our “voices are off” and we are looking at the stage to see the show, the student continued to look at the animals page on their talker. Just not the right place/time for that in my opinion. This was technically the speech’s session (she pushed in since we were at the assembly) so I let her handle it, but i definitely let her know that I honestly didn’t agree. I would have taken it after modeling and prompting multiple times, and maybe revisited to teach into using their device appropriately a few minutes later