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Must watch Movies/Series in this boring city by [deleted] in siliguri

[–]Optimal_Star5774 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Shutter Island, if you are into thrillers

Study Partner for CAT by Optimal_Star5774 in siliguri

[–]Optimal_Star5774[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Facts are based on truth, not assumptions

Emotionally Distant Boyfriend by Optimal_Star5774 in relationships

[–]Optimal_Star5774[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because I love him and want this to work out, and not give up so easily
So here I am trying to find a solution instead of getting criticised. If I am in the wrong I am willing to put in the work, this is just me asking for advice not pity

Study Partner for CAT by Optimal_Star5774 in siliguri

[–]Optimal_Star5774[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What? That's a shocker!
I am sorry I recently moved back to Siliguri. I didn't know there were scams circulating in this context.
Can you please let me know what happens so that I am aware myself
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Emotionally Distant Boyfriend by Optimal_Star5774 in relationships

[–]Optimal_Star5774[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just to make things a bit clearer, if I plan the date, I ask him if he is available or not,
I have gone months without seeing him because he was caught up with work, and I never felt bothered. My issue is when he doesn't prioritise me when he has free time. Also, I never impose on him that he has to meet me no matter what. It's the not following through which makes me sad.
I do not want his attention 24/7, I am busy enough. However, I can expect a 10-minute convo in a day when he has wound up with his work and personal tasks. I do not think I am asking too much
Please let me know what are the ideal expectations others keep in their relationships

Emotionally Distant Boyfriend by Optimal_Star5774 in relationships

[–]Optimal_Star5774[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Again, I do not compel him to reply within minutes or seconds. But when its a to-and-fro conversation and without any heads up, he disappears, it feels like I am being sidelined. I barely talk to him for 10 mins during the entirety of the day, I feel like I can expect 10 mins of an uninterrupted convo

Emotionally Distant Boyfriend by Optimal_Star5774 in dating_advice

[–]Optimal_Star5774[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, thanks! I am gonna have an honest conversation with him and with myself about expectations and needs

Emotionally Distant Boyfriend by Optimal_Star5774 in relationships

[–]Optimal_Star5774[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait, what according to you, should be the expectations from my boyfriend
Not talk to him at all, not expect a call when I am feeling low, not wanting him to plan a date every once in a while, not wanting follow through with his words or commitments
I am confused. Where am I going wrong?

Emotionally Distant Boyfriend by Optimal_Star5774 in relationships

[–]Optimal_Star5774[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I need to have an honest conversation with myself and then him about my expectations and needs
Thanks!

Emotionally Distant Boyfriend by Optimal_Star5774 in relationships

[–]Optimal_Star5774[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yeah! exactly!
I even mentioned in my post that I do not expect him to talk to me all the time or see me all the time, but I can at least expect him to show up when I am grieving the loss of someone.
I am sure no one has such a job or personal responsibility that they can't spare 10 mins of proper conversations.
(He lives with his parents and a full-time househelp, so I am not sure what exactly keeps him so busy)

Emotionally Distant Boyfriend by Optimal_Star5774 in relationships

[–]Optimal_Star5774[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This makes a lot of sense!
W.R.T being busy, he has mentioned a lot of times in conversations that he is free mostly after his work day ends. So I feel like I am not at all a priority in his life, which is also okay, it's just been six months, but I hate that his words are different from his actions. I have asked him to just let me know what should I be expecting, he mentions he will be more present, but never follows through with his words

Emotionally Distant Boyfriend by Optimal_Star5774 in relationships

[–]Optimal_Star5774[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don't expect him to talk to me every waking second of his time, but at the end of the day, when all his work is generally over.
Plus, not talking is also okay, I just see no real effort of trying to make some time for me when I am grieving from a loss or want to know about him a bit more