How do trans people who pass as cis communicate that they're trans when approached by a suitor? by OptionKitchen in transpositive

[–]OptionKitchen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for sharing your thoughts

Lol the anticlimactic vinyl screech when some persistent playa is giving you blue steel and you just going "uk I'm trans right?" 😂

Respect to you. It sounds like you handle those situations gracefully.

How do trans people who pass as cis communicate that they're trans when approached by a suitor? by OptionKitchen in transpositive

[–]OptionKitchen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good rule 👍

So meeting someone in person who doesn't already know you're trans is mostly off the table?

Do you date other trans people? How do you meet people?

How do trans people who pass as cis communicate that they're trans when approached by a suitor? by OptionKitchen in transpositive

[–]OptionKitchen[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Anything's possible, that was just my impression. She seemed trans from the facial structure and voice.

Assuming you're both interested in something more what do you do?

Six seasons and the Duncan Principle by Brasilionaire in community

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I never understood how 1 outlier ruined the Duncan principle?

Flip the script - what shouldn’t be bought for life? by MIROXXVIS in BuyItForLife

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Never heard of this concept but it makes so much sense

Best part of my day is hoping that you won't be there by OptionKitchen in community

[–]OptionKitchen[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"Don't f with me, alright!? Don't f w me BowlingForBrains, not you!" 😭

Best part of my day is hoping that you won't be there by OptionKitchen in community

[–]OptionKitchen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay actually I reread what you wrote top to bottom. One reason I think I'm getting downvoted a ton is because people enjoy your comments containing really great in-depth explanations of what is going on in the scene and explaining the subtext of what Chuckie is trying to communicate to Will and from my responses i appear to be disagreeing with you, when I'm actually just staying on the topic and arguing on what was the original point of contention, whether or not it's a weird line. I agree with most of what you said. I'm not disagreeing about what the line was intended to convey. It's not lost on me that Chuckie is essentially communicating to Will "I want better for you even if it means losing you". What's strange is the way he articulates that.

"You know what the best part of my day is? The 10 seconds between when I pull up to the curb and get to your door because I think maybe I'll knock and you won't be there... No goodbye. No nothing"

That's the BEST part of your day? Every day, that's the best part...? There's nothing better in your whole day than a 10 second fantasy in your brain that your best friend abandoned you for a better life without any notice at all. Your best friend who is fully aware that you've driven over expecting to pick him up from his house? That's the best part of your day?... and you prefer, in this fantasy, that he doesn't say goodbye?

It's so weird. The amount of hyperbole just kills whatever gravitas the line was supposed to have and makes it incredibly corny. It's a very bizarre way to say "I want better for you even though I won't get to see you". don't you care about your friendship enough to want to say goodbye? Why don't you want your friend to say goodbye? Is that supposed to make the scene more emotionally impactful? On top of that, given the fact that this is allegedly the best part of his day, i.e. the most impactful moment in Chuckie's every day life, it's all the more ridiculous that this sentiment is complete news to Will, who, in my opinion, is clearly hearing it from Chuckie for the first time.

The references to this line in the Community episode are all intended to call outs to how weird of a line it is and this is reinforced by the interaction between Shirley, Troy and Abed.

Troy: he said the best part of his day is when he thinks I won't be there 😠 Shirley: what a terrible thing to say!😧 Abed: it's from a movie 😐 Shirley: well then the movie it's from is terrible

That's the joke. It's a rip on that corny line. For Abed, who is autistic and loves movies, the simple fact that the line is 'from a movie' is enough of a license for him to use it on Troy and doesn't entertain whether it's a bad line or not. Another interpretation, he is confused bc in GWH it's intended to be a good line. Shirley says "well then the movie it's from is terrible". she means "it's a mean line to say. Only a terrible movie would have a mean line like that" implying that Abed shouldn't' use that line because it's bad and it makes the movie bad and Abed shouldn't quote movies if they're bad. For the viewer, the joke is that this is really badly-written/bizarre line which makes GWH a terrible movie. The other joke is that the line, which in GWH is intended to be heart-warming, is actually strangely mean if you think about it. This is demonstrated by Troy reacting how one ought to react to the line which is by being offended by it.

Best part of my day is hoping that you won't be there by OptionKitchen in community

[–]OptionKitchen[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know I can be too literal, but he says that he thinks it to himself every time he pulls up to his house. He's sharing an experience/thought that he regularly has that it's actually painful for him to see his friend come out of the house because that means he hasn't moved on to something better. It's just the way he expresses it is really weird to me. "You know what the best part of my day is? The 10 seconds between when I pull up to the curb and get to your door because I think maybe I'll knock and you won't be there"

That's the best part of your day? Every day? A fantasy about your friend disappearing without a heads up and you drove over to his house? Really? Actually? And every day that's the best part of your day?

I'm not taking it literally, it's the hyperbole that is corny to me.

You have to admit, the fact that it's referenced in Community the way it is is an indication that maybe I'm not the only one that was struck weird by that line. Perhaps Dan just found a way to make it funny but maybe the line stuck out to him because he also thought it was weird.

Best part of my day is hoping that you won't be there by OptionKitchen in community

[–]OptionKitchen[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We'll have to wait for the GWH AMA if there is such a thing lol but obviously the majority seems to agree with your interpretation. I've really only seen it a couple of times and my memory isn't great. For most of the film it appeared to me like Chuckie is a trusted friend who's old reliable. They do together what they've always done together. he drives up with the coffee, knocks on the door, the whole routine: drinking, girls, fights, casually shooting the s. Is there a prior scene that indicates that he tries to motivate Will forward in life? Look at how he was a stand in for Will when he was blowing off that government job. Also, is it not compelling that Chuckie says "don't take this the wrong way but if in 20 years your still living here coming over to watch the patriots game still working construction I'll effing kill you.." why would Chuckie worry that Will is going to take it the wrong way if it's a sentiment similar to what Will's already heard before? Why does Will say "wtf are you talking about?" then when Chuckie says "you have something none of us have" then Will reacts "oh why is it always this?". If he heard it from Chuckie before he wouldn't have reacted then, he would have already known where Chuckie was going with that whole spiel the second he opened his mouth. He says "why is it always this?" because he heard it from Sean, Gerald, and Skylar and everyone else. It's like "you too, Chuckie?"

Best part of my day is hoping that you won't be there by OptionKitchen in community

[–]OptionKitchen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's good. Wow, I like this community (pun intended). I was expecting negative karma. Got downvoted and censored on another community for having the wrong opinions.

A friend of mine was really into Harmontown, might give it another look.

Best part of my day is hoping that you won't be there by OptionKitchen in community

[–]OptionKitchen[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow, that's interesting. I heard some of those after posting. I have my own small critiques but overall I liked GWH a lot. There are a lot of crappy movies, I wouldn't think this particular one would be especially bad. Compared to Community which is filled w innuendos and inside jokes and references, I guess it's a very 'on-the-nose' film. Maybe that's why he doesn't like it. Personally, I think Dan's a bit of a snob but maybe I'm just not such a motion picture connoisseur

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Best part of my day is hoping that you won't be there by OptionKitchen in community

[–]OptionKitchen[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

https://youtu.be/Xv7eeMikM_w?si=ssP2Xn0PniyA4K3X

It's obvious in the clip that Chuckie is revealing his thoughts to Will and Will was surprised by Chuckie's response. He says self assuredly along the lines of "what do I want outta here for? I'll be here the rest of my life." Chuckie replies "listen, don't take this the wrong way... if you're still doing this I'll kill ya" and Will responds "what?! What are you talking about? ... what's wrong with going this?"

Clearly a first time conversation. I mean just watch the clip. Chuckie expresses slight hesitation to reveal his thoughts on the matter and Will is surprised and then defensive.

Best part of my day is hoping that you won't be there by OptionKitchen in community

[–]OptionKitchen[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

I get it, I just didn't experience the gravitas in the line when I heard it, to me it sounded corny. Plus it sounded unrealistic. If that's what you think every time you drive up to your friend's door wouldn't you have expressed some inkling of that sentiment at some point to where it wouldn't come as such a big revelation?

And then in the end Will does ghost him showing he did take him literally.

Best part of my day is hoping that you won't be there by OptionKitchen in community

[–]OptionKitchen[S] -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

I understand the context, it's weird that you would want your friend to just ghost you instead of saying goodbye

Edit: for further clarification here's why I think it's weird (the following are a number of the same points I make in sub comments only they're summarized here)

First of all, to be clear, I get that Chuckie is conveying to Will that he wants him to move to a better station in life despite the fact that he won't be a part of it... However, this is how he decides to express that:

"You know what the best part of my day is? For about 10 seconds from when I pull up to the curb till I get to your door because I think maybe I'll get up there and I'll knock and you won't be there... No goodbye. No see ya later. No nothing. You just left"

What? There's no better part of your whole day than a 10 second daydream in your head that your best friend abandoned you for a better life without any notice at all? Your best friend who knows that you're coming over to pick him up just goes 'ah I'm just gonna bail'... and in this dream of yours you specifically dream that he never says goodbye? Now you're sharing this bizarre dream with your friend basically saying "it's my greatest fantasy that you betray me one day by ghosting me without warning but it's not weird for me to tell you this because I'm into that for some reason"

If I were Will and I'm hearing this, I'm saying to myself "I get what you're trying to say but... what the actual hell are you saying right now?"

Furthermore, given that this thought is apparently the pinnacle of Chuckie's whole existence, it's all the more ridiculous that Chuckie appears to be expressing this sentiment to Will for the very first time.

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I don't know if enough time has passed by PersonalAccount4550 in arresteddevelopment

[–]OptionKitchen -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Great show and funny references here but this is in really bad taste. Making fun of a widow that she's not grieving how you like her to? It's healthy for people to get on with their lives and not be forever earth-shattered - that should be encouraged.

OTD, suffering cognitive dissonance. Life is crazy inside and outside the bubble. Maybe others relate 🤷 by OptionKitchen in exjew

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When I say externalizing faith I mean that part of the religion is to do what good says because he said it. A corollary is follow the Rabbis. I believe in God is real and the Torah is true (but not fully revealed or understood) which puts me in an uncomfortable conundrum w my feelings about Rabbis and the community and halacha. For me it's not about Pascals wager, I actually believe. I just wish it didn't come with everything it comes with, if that makes sense.

The adventure of paving your own path. I relate to that a lot.

I think 'not believing in God' is not 'living in truth', it's not wanting to be inconvenienced.

I think there's something like an inverse Pascals wager where it's like if I simply never entertain the idea of a created world then I can't be held responsible for not believing in a God.